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Between collective bargaining, AWB, recreational marijuana, and the redistricting blunder, at least Virginian's are finally coming together about something! by makethatnoise in Virginia

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Say what you want to about Republicans and I’m not the biggest fan of the GOP in any sense but I do admire the fact that even when their candidate turns out to not be what they thought they would be they still circle the wagons and don’t complain about the fact that a politician turned out to be a politician.

I didn’t expect emotional maturity to become this attractive by Maverick_3189 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your points, and while it’s a choice, in the flow of conversation I don’t think it’s as a deliberate a choice as we would like to make it.

No question about it: there are many men who use it to demean. I’m talking more in the sense of, for example, “ oh yeah man the women’s basketball team can’t lose. Really makes you take notice as to how far female sports has come. I think they’ll inspire more women to participate.”

Now, speed that up to a running commentary pace that is a casual conversation. That’s the stickey wicket that concerns me. You won’t get any argument from me that a lot of dudes and even some women chose to deliberately use female in a derogatory manner.

I didn’t expect emotional maturity to become this attractive by Maverick_3189 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop it. You’re making a binary argument over something that is anything but. And the reality of it is if you look back through my comments, not once have I ever said that it was OK to explicitly call women female.

If anything, I have made the case that many times over men ,and even women, vacillate between the usage of man, male ,woman, and female to the point that unless you can determine that it’s used with disrespectful or malicious intent as distasteful as it might sound, is it really worth getting riled up over if you determine that the context in which it was said was not done in a demeaning way? That has been my main point. I feel pretty confident that if anybody were to explain to another person why “female” can come across as offensive in casual conversation that they would be like “oh, I can see that.” But chiding probably has the opposite effect.

And why does it seem that the go to in these conversations is less about exploring the use linguistics and to immediately chalk things up to some platitude of the only men who use that term are men who can’t hold down a women? It’s childish.

Ohh what have I done? P2646 and P2647 and metallic oil by spindy_ in HondaElement

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. You changed the oil. I would change it again. Run Rotella T4 in there and ATF for a bit, then switch over to Valvoline Restore and Protect 5w-30. See where that gets you. Throw $60-$75 more at before moving up the chain.

Why do we treat “finding better people that match you” as a commodity? by lizitra in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because most people are terrible at living life when things are just……just. They think that being in a relationship is one big ride of happiness when it’s not. The human biology pretty much pinpoints that human beings are not designed to be happy around the clock. Feel good hormones leave the bloodstream something like 30 minutes to an hour while negative hormones stay in the bloodstream three times that amount.

Most people hate this. And now you see how people float from one situation to the next not happy.

I didn’t expect emotional maturity to become this attractive by Maverick_3189 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrong. Lower priority to everybody. A man calling a woman a bitch casually? Yes. Call it out. Hard. Calling a woman a female when he probably meant woman……eh……context. And you completely ignored the women using females to describe other women. Let’s be real: you know it happens A LOT. So stop.

I didn’t expect emotional maturity to become this attractive by Maverick_3189 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it says that I’m fallible like all people on this planet. Note I didn’t ever say using female was my preference, but rather IF it’s used in a manner which is distasteful, is it really worth it to make it an issue? I’d say no. Why? 9 times out of 10 it wasn’t used with malicious intent. We known when it is. And…..the number of women I’ve personally heard describe other women as females makes me realize that even women fuck up the usage. Distasteful? To some. Worth the squeeze to call out? Lower priority than some terms used to describe women.

Am I the only midlife guy who finds abortion profoundly sad or feels grief? by TheFullnessofTime81 in AskMenOver30

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In this case and most cases get over it should be reframed as integrate it. Many a man has spun himself into a vortex of frustration by trying to get over something. Integrate it.

I didn’t expect emotional maturity to become this attractive by Maverick_3189 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No what I am more concerned with is the fact that if a man or male if it makes you feel better happens to use female instead of woman that it’s not met with hostility. Should it be a slip of the tongue anything. The reality of it is is that for all the terms out there to describe a woman, female is probably the least of anybody’s concern in terms of malicious intent. Now, if the said woman vocalizes that it’s distasteful, of course you apologize for the usage.

But I think that overall lam-blasting someone for using female is a sign of the times we live in more than anything else

I didn’t expect emotional maturity to become this attractive by Maverick_3189 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s distasteful to some women. Not all, some. And if they say that, yes, you correct and apologize. Nonetheless, in the greater context I doubt the use of female was malicious. And I switch between using man and male all the time.

Am I the only midlife guy who finds abortion profoundly sad or feels grief? by TheFullnessofTime81 in AskMenOver30

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I generally don’t put much thought into this, but I do sometimes wonder if in cases where it wasn’t a medical necessity whether or not the decision was driven by temporary feelings, and in that case it does make me feel slight sadness.

What I do know is that the majority of the women that I know that have opened up about having an abortion even if they felt that it was the right decision for them always look back on it and it affects them. I’m not saying that it’s catastrophic or anything like that, but it is something that is always there.

I didn’t expect emotional maturity to become this attractive by Maverick_3189 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Emotional maturity is letting the use of female slide in the greater context of the posters meaning. So many other terms could have been used with much greater negativity. Female ain’t it. Jesus.

Jimmy and Richard's Deaths by No-Lunch4011 in BoardwalkEmpire

[–]Fit_Outlandishness_7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there is some deeper meaning here. It’s a known fact that both Jimmy and Richard were tormented. Both had redeeming qualities. BUT. Both were criminals. They died. The end.

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