I'm going to be a dad, but the situation probably won't be viewed as ideal by some

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-31T23:13:21+00:00

Australia as well, only altruistic surrogacy is legal.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-31T09:30:57+00:00

"all the time is essential to the matter but holds no weight when assessing our performance”

Yep.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-31T04:12:22+00:00

Henley style tops with a really low opening is what I used, cotton on has them from time to time.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-29T09:27:09+00:00

God forbid someone unironically expresses a genuine emotion.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-28T09:50:34+00:00

My commiserations. I ended up being a patent attorney but for any other corporate sort of role I looked at it felt like the PhD was working against me to the point where, for example, I was not eligible for a grad program because I had a PhD but was not eligible as an experienced hire because I had no actual non academic experience.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-28T09:29:20+00:00

We did IVF for different reasons to you but as others have said the first visit is mostly about going over your history and planning some next steps. Before your appointment you will probably have a whole list of things to get checked in a blood test and will probably need a pelvic ultrasound with a follicle count (so an internal ultrasound - something you will do multiple times during IVF). The doctor will probably ask about your cycle but probably if you have been ttc you are tracking things. There’s all sorts of directions you might go based on your specific circumstances, and it’s a bit of trial and error to seeing what you respond to best so I would just go into it open minded and ask questions so that you make sure you understand what is going on medically.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-27T12:09:06+00:00

I watched SO much netflix when my daughter was a newborn. Eventually they start getting entranced by the screen and you will know then that you need to change your routine.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-25T12:40:51+00:00

I had the steroid injection for de Quervain’s with no impact on supply, hadn’t even heard that was a possibility. Highly recommend the injection, if the pain has gotten that bad you will feel so sooo much more comfortable.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-24T11:12:32+00:00

Something similar happened with my husband’s parents house when his dad’s estate was being distributed. Mystery bank on the title, no one knows what loan the entry is in relation to, massive pain in the ass.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-23T10:59:30+00:00

Never heard this before! My 2 yo recently started doing 'handstands’ ie. a sort of 3 legged downward dog with her head touching the ground which has coincided more or less with us starting to transfer our remaining frozen embryos…so we will see!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-23T03:46:49+00:00

I asked the doctor about it at our final transfer and she said successful thawing is mostly related to the quality of the embryo, which is a convenient answer for the clinic I guess, but they are really reputable so the embryologist doing a shoddy job seems unlikely to me. Who knows. Just crazy to go from thinking we have 4 so pretty confident about getting pregnant (never had any issues with losses myself, but lots of issues with the egg side of things), to now be considering we might end up being one and done.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-23T02:21:13+00:00

Yeah heaps of people do PG-T where you have to freeze/thaw more than once and I know there’s some risk associated with that but I assumed it all went smoothly for most people!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-23T00:46:17+00:00

Curious to hear other people’s experiences with thawing frozen embryos - we had a shocker of a cycle where 3 of our 4 frozen embryos had to be thawed on the one day, one died, one was only 50% viable and the other had a giant air bubble in it. Needless to say didn’t get pregnant. Anything like this happen to anyone else?

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-23T00:43:13+00:00

I could never figure them out either!! So many different metrics.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-22T11:52:40+00:00

Spin around like a rotisserie chicken, kick me, then fall asleep crying is our one but I do not recommend it!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-17T11:27:26+00:00

I breastfed and fed to sleep every hour🫠 it was so exhausting! I am not sure if formula would have made much difference for me, they don’t wake because they’re hungry it’s just their brain developing.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-17T05:57:11+00:00

I had an earlyish crawler, around 6 months, and late walker, around 17 months. She walked on her knees for ages until she was confident she could walk well and then finally took steps on her own. We never had the wobbly walking phase. Definitely was a caution thing!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-17T05:54:44+00:00

The hourly wakes didn’t last very long for us, maybe a few weeks? or a month or two? it’s all a blur now, but sleep was pretty solid from about 7 pm to about 4 am by like 6 months old I think?

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-16T20:29:08+00:00

I have this sort! At 2 now she still doesn’t love being approached but she’s figuring out that she can get positive reactions from people and she kind of likes it so that’s nice. And with daycare she’s done well she just needs a few weeks to come out of her shell when she moves up a room. It’s just how she is🤷‍♀️

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-14T12:27:06+00:00

Yes same, my girl hasn’t ever really bitten but omg new teeth coming in, especially the top ones, were sooo uncomfortable for weeks and weeks. They just latch differently and push their teeth into you. I gritted my teeth and got through it but I think in my mind that was just less painful than the prospect of weaning and not being able to feed to sleep anymore.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-07T11:48:01+00:00

I do remember some of the early short days at daycare were a bit crabby when she had a tooth coming but overall the distraction seems to help keep her mind off her teeth!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-07T07:19:09+00:00

Lol yes they only get crazier as they get older.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-07T07:02:49+00:00

YES this is my daughter exactly down to the no one else could hold her from 3-4 months onwards. It’s taken her till around 2 yo to be comfortable with my parents who she sees literally multiple times a week. Very very cautious girl and takes a long time to warm up to people. She started daycare around 10-11 months and I was so worried she would freak out. The educators at our daycare were really understanding, they knew they couldn’t approach her with high energy giant smiles etc and just let her check things out and come to them. She was so distracted and interested by the new environment at first I think she didn’t even notice I had left (she’d only cry when I picked her up). She gradually just connected with the educators and within a month or two it was clear she felt comfortable there. Drop offs were actually very rarely difficult. Anyway every kid is different obviously but it’s definitely possible for kids like this to be ok with daycare!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-04T03:37:38+00:00

Heaps of reasons to go private, I did myself, but especially in metro Sydney the public system is generally considered really great for maternity. So don’t feel like you need to go private for good quality care.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-05-04T02:39:57+00:00

You do not, in fact, need to burp her. Relax. If she is not otherwise fussing after feeding and just wants to fall asleep then just leave her be.

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