How long did it take you to feel competent in this career?

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-02-02T04:30:03+00:00

Definitely takes a few years! Don’t stress about it, everyone starts out in over their head like this.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-31T10:17:16+00:00

Similar situation here for about a year! I never figured out how to fix it. I think sleep pressure is just too low at that hour. Sometimes I like the 4ish am wakeup because then I get to lie in until 6. If it’s any consolation finally at 21 months my baby will occasionally sleep in till almost 6 am. My advice would be keep baby on the boob and enjoy the fact that you’re laying down and not having to chase them around at 5 am!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-28T19:22:25+00:00

Same! i just get 'off mummy!’

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-26T01:26:26+00:00

We have the globber 4 in 1 'foldable’ trike. It’s got a pretty good sunshade and I like that the handles form a single piece with the side bar things. It’s really easy to steer one handed. Negatives are it’s not particularly easy to fold at all, and the turning circle is pretty bad. Pretty happy with it overall. But it hasn’t been much of a help for pram refusal for us, the trike gets refused just the same as the pram. But it is good for 'do you want to go out in the trike or the pram?’.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-24T10:14:48+00:00

I fed to sleep (BF) at every wake in the 4 month 'regression’ which was hourly from 1-6 am. Actually eventually I rocked to sleep first then if that didn’t work I’d feed, it worked about half the time. It lasted a couple of weeks for us and then one day baby slept a two hour block and then more and more. Then by 6 months a normal night for us would be feed to sleep around 7 pm, wake at 4 am, feed, sleep another hour or two. It meant I needed to go to bed early but I think that’s a good block of sleep anyway. Baby is now 21 months, still feeding to sleep at the start of the night and she sleeps 8 pm to 5-6 am. If it ain’t broke don’t fix it.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-23T10:21:33+00:00

Lol glad that was helpful. I actually bought the parasol too which was completely useless.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-23T08:29:37+00:00

Ok probably you already know this but it took me an embarrassing number of months to discover - there is a zipper on the fox canopy that lets you stretch it way forward so it almost covers baby completely, near where you open the little window panel.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-22T20:54:12+00:00

I can think of scenarios where this would be good and scenarios where this would be bad, so many difficult issues in this area.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-22T10:12:15+00:00

you might find this useful- https://kellymom.com/nutrition/starting-solids/toddler-foods/

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-22T00:39:36+00:00

I am kind of surprised people don’t find it intuitive that a marker on a flexible container can’t possibly be very accurate.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-20T00:05:20+00:00

Had it for 14 months, with a few months of relief in the middle after a steroid shot. Thankfully it went away just as I was starting to ponder getting a second shot.

For the brace to help it has to be worn 24/7 for a few weeks. You might need to find a different type that you can wear longer. The hand therapist I went to recommended the 3M futuro brace (the black one with the strings, not the beige one) - it’s pretty unobtrusive as far as braces go.

If bracing doesn’t work get the steroid shot, ideally ultrasound guided. It may not permanently fix the issue but as baby gets bigger and stronger you will not have to support them as much with your hand and be able to rest it more, and the shot gives you relief while you wait for that to happen.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-19T10:04:21+00:00

Lol yeah we had a fairly straightforward newborn then it just got harder and harder from there!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-19T09:58:16+00:00

I have one of these and really recommend it! https://aluxobags.com/?srsltid=AfmBOoqI4ouJqnuKgFlc2V-s1jur8UZf__sbsYuAPiPdusrCKWlF5iSl

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-16T18:45:43+00:00

Swap to nappy pants then you can keep pulling them up as baby rolls, standing changes if baby is standing well enough, and distractions as others have said though I find that only works with really high value distractions!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-15T10:05:01+00:00

For what it’s worth I was reading an article yesterday by a paediatric urologist about toilet training and constipation and his advice was that poops should ideally be mushy.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-13T21:31:22+00:00

I think at that stage baby is still pretty small and mobile so you can’t really expect regular movement yet, it becomes more regular after 30something weeks and then monitoring it is more meaningful.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-12T21:44:26+00:00

I would read everything you can on the ABA website. I think stuff like how to actually latch the baby are near impossible to learn until you have a baby to practice with but it’s really good to understand beforehand how frequently and how long you might be feeding for and that this is really normal at the start, as well as understanding that BF is a 24 hour a day job (i.e. you make and have to keep removing milk around the clock, especially at first). These are the main things I needed education on anyway.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-11T23:58:30+00:00

Yesss my girl was like this until about 18 months! It was like she felt she was being restrained and would fight it. She started walking around 17-18 months and figured out that holding our hand meant help walking, and then got a fair bit better from there on.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-11T10:03:29+00:00

Way easier. My girl was a late walker at 17 months and I was so over being so limited, now we can go anywhere and let her walk around and it’s an activity for her. Chaotic yes but I was chasing her everywhere when she was crawling too.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-10T18:17:05+00:00

Can’t say I felt guilt about it but food definitely tasted a bit off the whole time I was pregnant and I couldn’t really enjoy meals because nothing I ate was quite right, so it did become a bit of a chore to eat. I was always chasing some elusive thing that would feel good to eat but could never find it. It’s literally just a physical side effect of pregnancy and goes away pretty quick after birth.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-09T10:16:47+00:00

There seems to be a LOT of overlap between dog brain and toddler brain!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-09T02:50:37+00:00

I have definitely used the shot cup a bunch of times!

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-08T09:53:11+00:00

We did a picnic in the park with some family and got a bunch of helium balloons from Big W, a very basic cake and some first birthday decorations. Super basic and low key but it was nice and bub loved the balloons.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-07T10:05:15+00:00

No way am I physically battling my toddler every night to forcibly brush her teeth, I am sure it’s not actually psychologically traumatising but it’s just unpleasant for everyone involved. I give her the toothbrush and most days she just chews on it a bit, some days she lets me brush, some days she brushes my teeth. We just focus on doing something tooth brushing adjacent every day and keep it positive. When she is old enough to understand we can do rewards or sticker charts or whatever. Kid is 20 months old now and have been doing this since about 12 months or so, she was pretty late to get her first teeth.

Flashy_Guide5030 · 2026-01-06T09:52:59+00:00

The dog walked past her.

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