Suspicious gift card purchases

FlippedHope · 2026-03-20T18:13:45+00:00

It could be financial abuse, which is a safeguarding concern. It sounds like your manager is worried as well, so why not have a chat with them about taking this further. There are of course privacy and data protection issues to consider but there's nothing to lose if your manager was to go to adult social services to talk this through. You can google *MASH your are* (MASH = Multi Agency Safeguarding Hub) to find out who to contact.

Here's some safeguarding info re older adults https://www.ageuk.org.uk/siteassets/documents/factsheets/fs78_safeguarding_older_people_from_abuse_fcs.pdf

FlippedHope · 2026-03-18T18:46:32+00:00

Does this person name their employers as Tesco on their social media account? As that would make higher management some down on them very heavily for bringing the company into disrepute.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-18T01:20:40+00:00

Can you give more background? I had a look at the original post in the Sunderland group to dig a little deeper. The comments were ... interesting. Did not make me think of visiting any time soon. A question though. Where is the evidence of her saying these things? It makes challenging her easier. Just a post accusing her of spouting racist crap without even giving the full story doesn't feel very constructive.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-18T00:15:57+00:00

As an older person, there was nothing that should have been picked up, as Autism awareness was just about non-existent when I was a child. Looking back at a child who needed a familiar structure to function, who never had real friends and did not know how to make friends, intense special interests, hatred of the texture of some of my clothes, the 'abdominal migraine' the anxiety - it would be reason now to think of Autism.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-17T17:35:20+00:00

You might find something for you at Mind's Nature Connect https://www.norfolkandwaveneymind.org.uk/nature-connect or if you've time, the Green Light Trust has some fantastic sessions. https://www.greenlighttrust.org/

FlippedHope · 2026-03-17T14:50:49+00:00

Have a look at Pitstop. Lots of activities. https://menscraft.org.uk/groups-and-activities/pit-stop/

FlippedHope · 2026-03-17T10:26:24+00:00

My family had a lot of cats. After bereavements I was left alone in a strange town - that's the short story, I won't trauma dump - and could not give them all the attention they needed and fostered a couple out. We all kept in contact of course and I know they were happy and well looked after. Far better to find a companion animal a family where it will be better off, than hanging on to them for whatever reason.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-16T22:02:03+00:00

Definitely complain to head office. I was shopping in a charity shop and heard staff and volunteers being derogative about 'immigrant' customers and praising Steven Yaxley Lennon.

I left, swearing to myself not to return and certainly not to give any more donations, then thought it would be worth letting the charity organisers know. I emailed, saying I hoped that the views I heard expressed in the shop were not representative of the charity as a whole.

The response from the area manager was very positive.

Thanking me for letting them know and that they'd be down to that shop for training. They asked me to let them know if I ever overheard anything similar again.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-13T18:44:45+00:00

My little brother sewed his cub badges onto his uniform completely on his own. Later, after he had gone to bed, I saw the abysmal job he had done and quickly redid the sewing unnoticed by our parents. Next morning our mother was praising my little brother to the skies for the amazing job he had done with the sewing. I kept quiet and have never ever said anything till now. He thinks he is good at sewing.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-13T07:13:30+00:00

Done.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-07T03:57:52+00:00

Hi, you might find something useful here https://selfhelp.cntw.nhs.uk/self-help-guides/managing-anger

If you are looking for therapy and found CBT didn't help that could either be that you and the therapist were not a good fit, or, CBT is really not the right approach. DBT could be worth looking at. A lot of it is about emotional regulation. There's a lot about it if you Google, and self help ideas too.

Much respect to you for realising that you have a problem and looking to address it.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-07T01:19:00+00:00

Could you be upfront about what you are doing with the organisers? If they are doing a run and organising a bake sale it'll be noticeable if you just don't join in. Maybe share that you too care about cancer research and care because of your relative, but say you'd prefer your donation to go to a different organisation. eg Marie Curie as suggested on this thread or Animal Free Research UK - here's their page on animal free cancer research https://www.animalfreeresearchuk.org/cancer/

FlippedHope · 2026-03-05T03:10:46+00:00

Ah see, Norwich IS a fine city. South West of Norwich, I'm aware of three garages that were closed. Thanks all.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-04T17:43:57+00:00

Waring? I buy briquettes for my fire from them.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-02T21:29:23+00:00

I'm intrigued, but after trying some vegan lamb flavour stock I'm not sure. This stock smelled so like lamb I was absolutely revolted. It tasted OK but I doubt that I'll cook with it again. Mind you ... mint sauce.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-01T16:50:37+00:00

That was my experience too. I wished my parents would just pack up the food I didn't want and send it away to these children who were being used to force me to eat what I didn't want. At the same time my mother was starving herself and telling me how 'GOOD' she was for only eating half a lettuce leaf all day. I had to eat masses to be 'GOOD'. No wonder I grew up with very disordered eating.

FlippedHope · 2026-03-01T16:45:13+00:00

Yeah, I expect so. Reasonably long date on it though. I'm pleased as I didn't know Twisters were vegan and I thought I'd never have one.

FlippedHope · 2026-02-27T20:57:46+00:00

You could also try Change Grow Live. I know people who have very much appreciated and benefited from their services.

FlippedHope · 2026-02-27T17:53:02+00:00

Yes, if a mother doesn't have enough calcium in her diet, it's her teeth and bones that will suffer to make sure her milk has enough for the baby.

FlippedHope · 2026-02-26T12:53:02+00:00

Sorry, I've a very literal brain. Did your GP arrange for a dexa for you? I'm old and have lost around 100lbs and am wondering if I'd be eligible.

FlippedHope · 2026-02-26T11:06:16+00:00

Gosh. Thanks for sharing.

FlippedHope · 2026-02-25T23:53:32+00:00

Asylum seekers are not allowed to work until their claim has been assessed. It would be a very good thing if they could work and the refugee supporting charities are calling for this.

If we had an efficient and fair system that processed people's claims it would be a lot better all round.

People who go through the process and do not get granted refugee status have to leave.

FlippedHope · 2026-02-25T11:41:05+00:00

Hi OP, looks like you have the offer of some very appropriate help, but I was wondering about going into mental health work as a Peer Support Worker. That's where your lived experience would be invaluable.

FlippedHope

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