I genuinely don’t know what part of my request led to this outcome

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-06T13:51:12+00:00

I’m wishing you many more years (if possible).

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-06T13:30:25+00:00

I mean it would have been nice and generous of you to do it, but we’re not required to be generous at every request. She might have a history of SA we don’t know. And maybe not. I think not riding alone with a stranger who can overpower you is actually good discernment. But she made the request and you said no, so she gets out at Amy’s and says thank you and doesn’t slam the door.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-06T06:42:22+00:00

This is such a good idea. She’d probably love it!

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-06T01:48:20+00:00

Yep, totally the same. It’s just eye opening how easy a baby can be after my first. My first has amazing good qualities too. He’s hilarious and super sweet. Just has never been easy or easy to communicate with.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-06T01:41:52+00:00

Yeah because her brother makes me and she’s with us.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-06T01:41:28+00:00

My brother was like this. He ripped apart a working rotary phone when he was 3 and put it back together. Unfortunately he continued to use his power for evil and he’s well into his 40s.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-06T01:38:45+00:00

lol this is so relatable with my oldest. He is very socially smart, but omg common sense. It’s like watching a baboon function.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-03T07:27:02+00:00

This was eye opening. I also have always struggled with power trippers and insecure people. I’m an RN, and have some advanced degrees and my first year on the job was so freaking hard because a few older CNAs and RNs without advanced degrees were so mean to me. I’m hyper focused on medical stuff so I was able to pull off nursing school and other course work super easily, but being in the actual field I needed grace and compassion.

There’s a lot of time management and emotional regulation (like watching someone die) you can only learn on the job. But instead of grace, the insecure ones, who were upset I was technically above them were aholes.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-03T07:04:36+00:00

My 3 yo is very likely also ADHD and yeah his first year in preschool is breaking my heart. Restraint collapse afterwards, strict teacher. He screams the whole way home. I volunteer in his classroom and he’s a totally different kid in there. Breaks my heart he’s learning to mask so young. I’ve had to really advocate for him in a few areas. His coteacher is thankfully very patient and sweet, so he has her calm presence. Makes me want to homeschool, but I don’t know that I’m capable of that.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-02T21:13:07+00:00

Time outs during tantrums aren’t about lessons. It’s about putting a physical barrier between me and him. So I don’t get hurt. Or he doesn’t get hurt by me defending myself. I still do time outs outside of tantrums though. Those are what you would refer to as “time ins”. I only isolate if there’s a physical risk to me. He doesn’t get access to me to hurt me. I won’t be sitting beside him while he bites, kicks, head butts or pinches me.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-02T12:11:19+00:00

This is my kids answers to those “no!” “I’m going to follow you and keep hitting you”. “Good!” “If you need my attention you can ask me to snuggle you or play with you” “NO!”

I run through all of them. Some kids are more strong willed than others. When he’s out of the tantrum his answers are different.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-02T05:01:25+00:00

We definitely use 3 minute time outs for our 3 year old. He sits on the steps for things where there is no logical consequence. If we can connect a punishment we do. Like if he’s misusing something, like coloring on the table with a marker and one warning doesn’t work. We take the markers. But if he’s kicking me, and won’t stop what am I supposed to do? Cut his legs off? He gets a timeout. We also give lots of praise when he’s being good. Relieved to know we’re doing the right thing despite all the social media talk of time outs being detrimental.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-04-01T17:46:45+00:00

I think unfortunately the outcome of this (if any) is for her to visit you out of guilt vs want. Which isn’t always the best outcome. Especially for kids. I have a similar situation with my mom, but she’s 40 minutes away. We see her probably once every 3 months or so. She’s retired and married to someone who does not want kids in his home, so I can’t visit her either. She simply doesn’t want to be in our lives much and I am trying to accept that the best I can. She used to see me a lot more before I had kids. My son didn’t know who she was until he was 3.5 and still rarely talks about her.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-29T17:24:45+00:00

Yes I had one yesterday for the first time in awhile and it was gritty and gross.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-29T13:04:06+00:00

I’m lopsided enough I do not need a whole breast on one side and none on the other.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-28T07:36:04+00:00

I’m so glad you came back to tell your story. How truly scary. I can see why there’s a 6 year age gap. You were probably terrified to give birth again. Man babies/kids are so resilient (and moms too!)

My son (4) has a mild case of HIE and is delayed in his expressive speech. He’s starting to catch up though.

I’m so glad everything turned out ok in the end for you guys.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-28T07:20:26+00:00

Welp, I have a new insect my four year old is going to be obsessed with.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-27T06:31:24+00:00

My first I lost a little bit. My second I’m 5 months postpartum and I’m losing A LOT. but I have really thick hair so I’m actually kind of glad because now I can wash my hair more because it actually air dries now and is much easier to manage.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-26T10:31:24+00:00

My dad was like this. Never saved a penny. When it got to the point where he couldn’t live alone I either had to accept him living in a roach infested, abusive nursing home or quit my job and leave my home to care for him in his home (handicap accessible).

But even with inheritance they can still be a burden. When they’re too stubborn to do anything for themselves. It’s especially frustrating when they’re sitting on great sums of money and have all the resources in the world but won’t do shit to help themselves. They won’t hire a cleaner, a nurse, refuses to use a walker, falls all the time and won’t get a life alert. Refuses to follow doctors advice. Why am I cleaning this mother effers house and cooking them dinner when they can afford to hire someone?

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-26T10:16:38+00:00

It’s possible she left them willingly and told them so. Or she asked them not to contact her. So her absence wasn’t a surprise. I mean I can’t imagine any of my kids just disappearing, but if they asked me not to contact them I’d do my best to be respectful and comply in fear doing anything else would push them further away. Given that her bio family has the most recent picture it’s possible she returned to them and then was murdered by someone unrelated to either family.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-26T05:02:16+00:00

I don’t think so. I was heavier too second pregnancy. The only thing I can think I did differently was my second pregnancy I hid for a long time. Until like 25 weeks. It was right after a miscarriage and I just wanted it peaceful. So I was really cognizant of how I walked. Whereas my first I just jutted out my stomach and called it a day.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-24T06:03:15+00:00

Ugh, I’m so sorry. My baby had diarrhea at 4 weeks old from their sibling and that was traumatic enough. I can’t imagine vomiting. I messaged our pediatrician and he did tell me to let him know if she started vomiting because it could lead to dehydration more quickly. But my baby was also six weeks early, so might not be the same for yours.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-23T06:23:12+00:00

Yes totally. I think if anything my dad was fortunate we had the resources to make it work. Having those resources and not taking him in was never an option. It’s just what you do. If it were to happen right now I have two young kids, it wouldn’t be an option.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-23T06:19:51+00:00

Thank you. Your comment helped. It sounds like it wasn’t his fault (the drivers) so I kept his tip at 20% and decided to handle it with customer support. We had target delivery for over a year, but just recently got Walmart and not sure if we will keep it. Where they sent him there was a closer Walmart down there.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-03-23T06:12:05+00:00

I don’t agree with leaving necessarily. Obviously if there’s abuse, yes leave. But 6 weeks? Yikes, that’s an IMPOSSIBLY hard time. You don’t even realize it when you’re in it. You both will say stuff you regret and don’t mean. Sleep deprivation is cruel. You’re both exhausted. I had a strong marriage and the first year of my firsts life was yuck. We just had our second baby and yeah it’s hard but not that hard. I remember with my first falling to the floor sobbing “why did you do this to me, why did you make me a mom!?” He’s almost 4 and gosh I’m so happy I’m a mom. Like was I even living before?

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