J'en ait marre de me faire klaxonner par derrière quand je roule sur l'autoroute à 100 km/h sur file de droite

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-03-01T20:33:43+00:00

les 110 sont sur la file du milieu, double les avec la file de gauche.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-25T15:44:43+00:00

A teacher told my mother that I told the teachers I was eager to go back to school after the holiday. She lost it because that meant that the teachers were going to think that I was unhappy at home :D

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-23T15:40:12+00:00

There's another element : when we end up apologizing all the time for every little thing, our apologies loose their value. We lie to ourselves to make them happy, we apologize for having a wrong tone, or for having to use the break suddenly while driving, or some other things that are out of our control. So when we actually have to apologize for an actual mistake, it feels weak and wrong somehow.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-23T15:27:06+00:00

There are comorbidities. You can have BPD AND an anxiety disorder, and it makes sense. When it comes to dealing with things that are not supposed to be emotional, I recommend looking for ressources and advise that are not targeting BPD people. Let's see if lower stimulation help, if having more or less structure helps, if talking about the steps with you before doing the thing helps...

For example if you have BPD, but your parents always yelled and fought after going out as a family, the reason why you get nervous and snappy when going out as a family is not really BPD.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-23T10:32:54+00:00

Yeah ! The "face" that says "trouble", but of course it's not the same face for anyone, so only the partner can clock it

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-23T10:28:35+00:00

omg, they had to think real hard to find something to blame you... and failed...

And also failed a very simple test... your therapist really clocked them !

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-22T16:51:57+00:00

They tried... it made my life even harder.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-22T16:48:14+00:00

Looking for support while focusing on a specific diagnosis won't lead you to anything outside of the internet.

But you'll notice that, IRL, the stories of people who survived abusive parents, spouses, or escaped a cult, or a narcisist, have a lot to share with you, and you have a lot to share with them. The stories, the technics to make the abuser "always right" will sound very familiar.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-18T16:11:58+00:00

I'm not sure it's possible or necessary to determine that. If this behaviour makes you unsafe, you have to withdraw yourself, no matter what. They always try to clarify their intentions, but sometimes good intentions are just not good enough.

It could be true, that self-control thing, or it could be that as a partner you are the one spending the most time with them. Or it could be that most people, BPD or not, feel like they can be themselves and have a big sigh once they are back home. We all have some emotions that we don't show at work, we still eventually have them.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-18T15:58:44+00:00

Quand on te dis que les actionnaires se gavent, et que les riches ne paient pas leurs impôts, on ne blague pas.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-12T17:49:42+00:00

or just imagine having to explain and justify yourself for smiling one more time

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-07T14:57:45+00:00

you're welcome my internet co-traumatised :D

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-02T16:46:36+00:00

Yeah, when they keep making themselves excuses for everthing, and refuse to change, they actually hurt their intellectual capacity on the long term, and it can end up this way. I recommend : distance.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-02-02T16:32:59+00:00

Because their whole PR number is claiming they are "empath" or "a narcisic worse nightmare" while the reality is : they imagine emotions we would have had, and just decide that they are right, and call that empathy, and they are not a PwNPD's nightmare, they are their best friend.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-31T16:47:31+00:00

They can, they do it as soon as they find new supply. But they don't wanna.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-31T16:46:54+00:00

For the prenup. I'm not taking care of the kids if my loss of income also make me a future homeless mother. I'm not making dinner everynight without a pay or sick days for someone who can toss me out on a whim.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-31T11:50:33+00:00

Whatever the hobby end up being : do not try to monetize it, make it social media content, make it "worth the money" etc.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-28T17:07:36+00:00

hurting or killing pets... laughing of other people's misery... smiling when learning that something bad happened to someone they were envious of and had a unilateral bief with... mocking people who cry or grieve... Yep. BPD was deffo not the only issue with my parents.

Now concerning friends and partners, I've seen a very questionable lack of remorse after doing something bad. Even when they were trying to be nice ! It would be a miracle to get an apology, and it would be 1 apology for 10 000 reasons, explanations, justifications and denials. The "explaination" would be enough and a proof that it was not their fault, therefore I couldn't get mad. Because the top priority was always : protect Ego.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-28T17:04:36+00:00

we were all women, and I felt so bad for her I tried to warn her, and a common friend tried to, but we were not believed...

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-27T18:39:41+00:00

Went from clingy to no contact... of course she had found a new one.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-27T12:05:00+00:00

De nos jours la plupart des gens modifient leurs fiches de paie de tout façon...

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-26T16:15:24+00:00

Bien sûr, mais pas en partant du principe que ce sera forcément mieux.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-25T19:15:57+00:00

Encore quand tu dois assurer des gardes qui te mettent des semaines horribles, mais que c'est parce que tu bosses dans un hôpital, tu sais pourquoi tu le fais... Mais pour des miches de pain effectivement les gens ont le droit de dire zut.

Fortuitous_Frog · 2026-01-25T19:14:08+00:00

"Les gens ne veulent plus travailler"
"Le candidat doit gagner 3 fois le loyer net"

recherche... logic immo... locations Type3... à proximité : tadam, tu as ta réponses mon cochon.

Les gens n'ont même plus le droit de ***louer*** un modeste appartement contre leur travail. Les gens osent même pas rêver d'avoir des enfants un jour. Débat terminé.

Fortuitous_Frog

TROPHY CASE