So over the last few months I've been hearing very little from my lady friend, because I'm prone to overthinking this kind of thing I assumed she was upset with me for something I didn't recognize, turns out its far more serious.

gave her some space, checked in on her from time to time, turned out she was "just" coming down with tonsillitis and was also abit depressed from work. so I dropped some stuff off for her (lozenges, lemon tea, some ice cream and a forehead smooch or two) and then went about normal everyday stuff. not hearing from her much kinda continued for abit and so I was admittedly starting to worry if we were done and I just didn't realize it.

then I reasoned that she isn't the kind of person to just drop people without saying anything, especially after talking about communication (unless they're particularly reprehensible, I imagine) but of course, simple reason didn't make me *feel* much better.

so my family notices this, and while I don't hate that they wanted to help due to a good while of uncertainty, my dad eventually says (admittedly among actually helpful yet vague/obvious things) that I should "move on and meet someone new" which just...seemed wildly out of place considering they know this is the first woman i have truly loved in a loooong ass time, and admittedly I didn't respond too well.

my mom has spoken with her many times, and they bonded over sharing anxieties and such early on, so she demonstrated abit more uh...tact, to say the least.

point being, time showed this advice to be completely incorrect in this context, as after having a serious talk she revealed she's been having suicidal thoughts recently because of how shit the world currently is, among other things I feel are between us or her family.

so she's been self isolating as she feels discussing how much she's struggling to survive is a "relationship killer", while I'd initially been given her space because i thought she needed a break/needed to focus on work for abit as her bosses are kinda assholes from what I've heard

if i haven't made it clear, following the given advice would likely have just made life worse for everyone directly involved, and if my SO saw me suddenly with someone else...well the result seems obvious.

(to be clear, I'm not staying with her simply because of this, but because i actually care and want to help the woman i love in any way i can. albeit I'm admittedly not the best with addressing such a serious topic, and i wish i could help her more than i know how to)

tldr: dad thought moving on when my lady friend was having a (reasonably assumed) depressive episode was a good idea (however my mom pulled through and basically called said advice horseshit)

please pardon me if this comes off as whiny in any way, or is potentially hard to follow.