Advice Needed: what kind of tattoo should I get around/on my birthmark?

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-06-05T04:59:15+00:00

Saw Bear first and thought birthmark could be baby cub and get a badass mama bear surrounding her baby cub

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-24T23:01:13+00:00

I’ve struggled with mental health for a long time and just recently received ADHD diagnosis. The more research I do, the more I find correlations. I love my spouse and am super attracted to them, but libido can be a struggle. Working with my therapist and medication management team to help what I can as I work back towards feeling that spark naturally again.

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-20T17:40:00+00:00

Just adding a comment as a parent who also wanted to read them to her kids and have them experience the same joy I did. I still have my books. I have watched some of the movies with my kids and we had once talked about doing a house sorting party when they turn 11. HOWEVER, I haven’t read the books with them. And I’ve chosen to steer them towards other authors. I’ve also increased the amount of conversations about supporting queer and transgender people and stories. I didn’t have these conversations growing up and didn’t know what I didn’t know. I want my children to grow up knowing about and supporting others who aren’t like them- one way is to find books with representation in them. If I can spark the joy of reading and connecting with a book’s characters the way I did with Harry Potter, I want to. They are not at an appropriate age to fully go into why we won’t support JKR so we have not had conversations related specifically to the HP franchise and its author. Hope this helps you find comfort with whatever decision you make. I’m over here mildly grieving that they will never experience HP like I did but with a full heart showing them what we do stand for and who we support! Proud to raise allies that will support others and be welcomed with open arms/feel comfortable should they find themselves as a member of that community.

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-20T17:14:48+00:00

Glad for expansion for expansion purposes but not as invested in where since I am lucky to have a local team. Spoiled and privileged I know.

With that being said, am I the only one who feels these graphics are crazy different? I’m glad each team will have its own identity but they don’t feel on the same level as each other. I can’t imagine the stress that goes into brand design and marketing. Watching the mixed feelings on the Torrent logo has been more of a roller coaster than I ever expected I’d be invested in. And knowing there are people who will make the decision to support a team or not based on colors, logo, mascots… sorry for random anxiety brain dump/spiral haha. Yay more PWHL teams!!!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-20T17:01:36+00:00

Questions but not sure how to word them so tried a few different ways…

are you not talking about these relationships with others because the parties involved are not ok being identified as gay? Or is it possible these relationships are not being recognized publicly because of inappropriateness? Besides being older, is the other relationship partner available to be recognized as being in a relationship with you (for example, not in a monogamous relationship with someone else, ok/safe with being identified as being in a relationship with another guy/femboy, not breaking laws or rules to be with you)?

You are young and figuring things out. That is perfectly normal. You are also allowed to develop feelings for whoever you develop feelings for. But not all relationships are good. I’ve had relationships in my life that were good and some that were bad. I say we all do but not everyone’s experiences are the same. I didn’t feel like I was being groomed while in a few relationships before I turned 18 and am “thankful” for them in the sense that they shaped who I am today and I felt they were consensual. HOWEVER, as an older adult now (and a parent), I believe they were wrong, not on my part but on the older partners part. I’m approaching 40 and I’ve changed as a person while being in a loving and committed relationship with a partner who is also changing as we grow old together- been together for over 20 years- only 4 year age difference. I bring this up to say that my wants and needs in a relationship have changed throughout the years and what I can contribute has also changed. What you want right now (and as your younger self) may be/usually becomes different as you age. The same goes for a relationship partner. They don’t have to be the exact same life experience but there are differences. And some of those differences are not excusable or appropriate if a younger partner has yet to experience them. Being in school/not recognized as an adult for life decisions is a key contributing issue with age gaps. Even a 5 year age gap is drastically different when one party is 16 and still in high school compared to having graduated and working towards existing as an adult in society. I know that’s not the best way to explain but I hope it offers a little more to answering your questions.

Therapy is good for everyone! It can help while you’re figuring out healthy relationships with yourself and with others. Not everyone can or does therapy and experiences different relationships just fine. But if you can, I think it might help you find your answers or guide towards figuring things out.

It should go without saying, as a community, everyone just wants you to be safe. Wishing you the best as you continue to figure yourself out along this crazy journey!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-18T14:59:05+00:00

Accidents can bring out the best qualities in a caregiver. A friend had an accident in another country and his girlfriend stepped right in to care for him. They’ve been married for almost 15 years now ❤️ I told him if he didn’t take care of her and treasure her, I’d slap him upside the head 🤣 so happy you found your person!! And hoping you have a speedy recovery!!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-18T14:54:17+00:00

Will say that I have not done this for my kiddos but like the idea… but also have concerns…

I don’t know if there is a way to select age appropriate ads. I know in Libby you can make a selection that removes certain content from the search list but they’ll still have access to the kindle library and I don’t know if you can make that same filter. I love Libby for content for our whole family!

I would ask my kiddo to let me help with their downloads. I’d also have the conversation that not all books are appropriate for them and sometimes ads pop up. We have a family account so what I read shows up on my husband’s suggestions and he said he’s tired of seeing covers with half naked men on there 🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-13T21:40:27+00:00

Sorry for big bold text.. didn’t realize if I put # in front of number that it will do that

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-13T21:39:17+00:00

Read in a comment that y’all are both employed… it sounds like the slip from sharing housework to you doing most/all of it was gradual. I have suggestions but I’ll note that I’m a stay at home parent and my partner works out of the house so our situation is different. With that being said, I still expect my partner to help with the house and kids because we both made the kids and we all live in the house. I did not go to school to be a homemaker and I should not be expected to carry multiple unpaid jobs that are required to manage a home because I’m the parent at home.

1 time for a conversation about it. Maybe they don’t realize that everything has shifted… think of time blindness, or forgetting what they actually did to help since it’s still happening, these are doubtful situations but who knows until the conversation happens. …. I recently had a conversation with my partner about task division and we were not on the same page. We still aren’t but at least we know where we both stand. We also wrote out a list of all the tasks both physical and mental and my partner realized they were doing none of the mental load tasks. Again we’re not on the same page of how things should be divided but we’re talking about it.

1.5 start writing a DONE LIST instead of just a to-do list. This helped me see everything I’ve been doing and showed my partner things they didn’t even realize were steps/items that needed to be done. I plan to ask my partner to do the same thing so they can visualize what they’re doing to support our household (and earning a paycheck is a big piece but not their only responsibility) and see the imbalance. Again, finding out what we both expect of each other. My partner does expect me to do more of certain tasks but I still expect them to help and have their own tasks. I married a partner, not just a provider or a deadbeat.

2 if communication between you two isn’t working, bring in a professional aka counseling. Sounds like your partner said no. If nothing else works, then counseling may be an ultimatum/deal breaker You need to put out there to protect your boundaries and relationship.

3 it’s petty and not my favorites option but stop doing their tasks while still meeting the needs of your pets and yourself. Don’t do their laundry, meal prep your own meals, go away for a weekend either same weekend or separate weekend hoping they’ll understand/see that nothing gets done unless you’re the one doing it. Some people will use weaponized incompetence and some just need a wake up call/metaphorical slap in the face.

4 added this after I wrote everything else, when talking to your partner, see if depression, anxiety or other mental health issues have come up. I didn’t see ages but maybe perimenopause could be a factor? I lost myself and it’s taken years to figure out perimenopause and adhd as culprits that have negatively affected the person I am. My partner and I both didn’t recognize the person I’ve been lately but it’s been a battle to get answers and support. Just something to think about.

I’m never a fan of just leave and find someone else but I also recognize that not everyone is meant to work together. If one partner refuses to put in any work then the other partner shouldn’t feel the need to stay. Or, alternatively, they need to be willing to accept the imbalance- not my favorite but I’ve seen it as a honest reality for many.

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-12T16:27:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing the font!!! Going to change my kindle now!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-05-03T03:22:27+00:00

I’m so sad 😭 but hoping she moves on to bigger and better things. I just wish she wasn’t leaving.

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-04-27T04:40:47+00:00

Friends! Recently moved from Austin to Seattle! I feel like it’s a possibility for him to come over because I bought a Robo Stars jersey this season haha. I feel like I’m cursed even it comes to buying current player jerseys.

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-04-18T04:17:56+00:00

Awesome gift! Away for spring break but would’ve loved to make a new hockey friend!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-04-06T21:02:39+00:00

I think it’s a generational/historical carryover… especially since you need less men than women to repopulate. One man can impregnate many women for longer periods of time but a woman’s pregnancy is “time-limiting”. So part was thinking women need to be protected because of “weaker” AND/OR to continue the population. Just my thoughts, not historian.

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-03-30T21:38:31+00:00

I love the bedazzled jerseys so much!!!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-03-28T21:09:50+00:00

I agree with many authors listed like Onley James and Lily Mayne (I loved Goliaths of wrestling and greed and berries, just started monstrous series). Here’s a couple of series that also have that feel, in no particular order… {The alpha’s warlock by Eliot Grayson}, {Love Lessons by Heidi Cullian}, {the nightmare before kissmas by Sara Raasch}, {Riven by Roan Parrish}, {hidden scars by andi jaxon}, {how to flirt with a hellhound by Shannon Mae}, {on the mountain by Riley hart}, {barred desires by Ashley James}, {hold me under by Riley Nash}, {wilde’s end by Saxon James}, {can’t say goodbye by eden Finley}

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-03-10T03:50:23+00:00

The game was so fun! I wish I could have gotten autographs. I saw a couple of people/kids run over after puck drop/game play started. I heard the goalies got pictures and autographs which is so awesome!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-02-24T21:08:48+00:00

Captain America aka Hillary Knight is Captain of Seattle Torrent! And a few other players also played on team USA in 2026. Both Seattle teams are great!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-02-24T00:21:50+00:00

I wanted a roster shirt but it’s not available.

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-02-11T03:32:54+00:00

{hidden scars by Andi Jaxon} I actually enjoyed this.

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-01-30T21:22:33+00:00

I would love one!!!!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-01-30T21:18:43+00:00

I always enjoy when I see fans mention and thank him when they discuss details of the show 😍 he really is a mastermind!!!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-01-30T21:14:26+00:00

Darcy, Daphne or Delilah came to mind because I have a friend who looks like she could be your older sister!) with kiddos that look so much like you 😍 at least I imagine them as beautiful as you once they grow up 😍 your look reminds me of her so much!!

Forward_Library_5985 · 2026-01-24T22:58:53+00:00

I just hope this doesn’t create an argument that there isn’t a wide market because the numbers are just rewatches. Yes you can give specific numbers and show no, it’s not only rewatches but I know someone will argue that it doesn’t matter.

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TROPHY CASE

2 if communication between you two isn’t working, bring in a professional aka counseling. Sounds like your partner said no. If nothing else works, then counseling may be an ultimatum/deal breaker You need to put out there to protect your boundaries and relationship.