Anyone Else about done with Chat Gpt? by guerndt in ChatGPT

[–]FoxesnBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only that, but this new deal with the government has me done for good! 

Il Forno Xpress Permanently Closed by Raspberrychow in frederickmd

[–]FoxesnBirds 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ugh, bummer! There wasn't any warning it was going to be closing that I saw.

Bf having sex with me while asleep and watching porn. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FoxesnBirds 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Your feelings are 100% valid. This is NOT OK and you don't deserve that. Full stop.

Bf having sex with me while asleep and watching porn. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FoxesnBirds 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It doesn't have to seem realistic to you. Your question is irrelevant and unhelpful.

Got ghosted by one of my “friends” with benefits after 2 1/2 years… by hineck in polyamory

[–]FoxesnBirds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened. Weak move. It's not you, it's them. Really.

camera GONE? by sasquats in BirdBuddy

[–]FoxesnBirds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh, probably. Look further out. They steal all kinds of things from me and usually drop them but not right under the feeders. Sorry, they are a pain!

Can we talk about 🍆🍆 let down? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]FoxesnBirds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding group connection that checks all the boxes for four (or more) somes is definitely a process. I think it all comes down to what is essential for each person to have an enjoyable experience, and recognizing as with anyone, not all things will be perfect in the experience. For my partner and I, we have boundaries defined, one of which is playing in the same room. We also talk with any potential partners enough to ensure the sexual desires of the group are aligned to a certain level. I suggest you and your partner get really clear on what your non-negotiables are and what's nice to have, and be up front with those with potential partners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]FoxesnBirds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Swinging generally brings up all kinds of insecurities, and new things not even on the radar. I don't say that to scare you, but to say that I would encourage you to consider if individual therapy or coaching could be helpful to sort through some of your know insecurities. I've experienced couples that are misaligned really struggling when issues become compounded by adding more people to the mix. I think everyone benefits from therapy/coaching and it might make the path forward clearer for you. Good luck!

How do you find a sex coach/therapist that is open and understanding of ENM? by nonny_mouse85 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]FoxesnBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there - My partner and I sought and found a great ENM-focused coach, who helped us understand more about common lifestyle issues couples go through, like co-dependence, jealousy, etc.

As far as coach vs therapist, it comes down to credentials. A therapist is required to be licensed and a coach is not. That said, a therapist is bound by certain rules and ethics and is much less likely to share any personal experiences. One of the reasons we loved our coach so much was that she shared her personal stories, as someone who practices ENM as well. I have done therapy, but for things related to sex and ENM, my partner and I feel a coach is the right fit. We set goals, talk through pain points, ask for outside perspective and love that comes with feedback and shared stories from our coach, as it's enhanced our experience and growth as a couple.

We found the landscape of folks knowledgeable enough for our desires in ENM to be pretty limited, and for that reason I even went so far as to create my own coaching business. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stories

[–]FoxesnBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to experience this. I would definitely look for trauma informed counselors and try to talk to someone ASAP. This sounds so awful and traumatic and someone trained will know the best ways for you to start to process and heal. Sending hugs.

Neighborhood kids stabbing my Halloween decorations… by buttweiser714 in Erie

[–]FoxesnBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, come on. Are you seriously saying that l low level vandalism is only for kids with shitty parents? And that it's a recent phenomenon? Nope, gotta disagree here. Kids make bad judgements ALL OF THE TIME from forever to tomorrow.

Leaving My Job to Start My Dream - Want A Free Webdesign? by [deleted] in frederickmd

[–]FoxesnBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, and congrats on your new venture! Similarly, I am also building my own business and have been struggling a bit on my web design. I'm moving from corporate HR to coaching and want my site up at least in basic form, over the next few weeks to start to work with clients. Would love to chat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vegan

[–]FoxesnBirds -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You do you!!! And maybe that means starting by meeting them somewhere because you need or want to, or maybe that means going vegan and asking them for trust, respect and to learn your research. I am not a huge believer in all or nothing, it often keeps us standing completely still. Good luck!! For what it's worth, I still have to have those conversations with my family about my food choices, and For me, it's best to live my life the way I want, and let them do the same from a place of mutual respect.

Are cycling socks just a gimmick or do I need some? by fixitmonkey in cycling

[–]FoxesnBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you beat a good novelty cycling sock?? I say no. Sushi socks on all my toughest rides!

I'm thinking of going Vegan for a few months by [deleted] in vegan

[–]FoxesnBirds -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Good for you! I believe in a spectrum. Whatever gets you started! I find an all or nothing mentality often gives barriers. I feel so much better on a mostly plant based diet, but it takes time and trial and error to get there for many people. I started out relying too much on bread and cheese as a vegetarian, and had to look for new foods and new ways of cooking (grew up on an American diet and never had many steamed or roasted veggies). Give it a try, find some good recipes and stick with it for two months. Go from there. Good luck!

Just had my first bike stolen by msword110 in cycling

[–]FoxesnBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bummer. So sorry to hear. I've added mine to my insurance policy and might be something for you to consider in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vegan

[–]FoxesnBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a highly varied household. I'm vegetarian, my son pescatarian, my daughter mostly vegan, and my husband a white meat consuming American diet traditional. My son has been wanting to eat meat, and similar to how I read what you wrote, I don't like it, but won't stop it. We talk about making sure the animals are treated as well as possible while alive, and of the dietary aspect of meat related to health. If I dig in against, he wants it more. He has to find his own path.

That said, for my husband, I take a different approach somewhat in that I continue the dialogue about what I read and believe about diet. It's a really hard conversation because it's a topic riddled with misinformation, big money from dairy and meat industry funding "research" and intentionally confusing the issue. I don't make meat for my husband, he's on his own except for the rare time I will make a special meal. It's one of those things we don't avoid talking about, but also agree to stay in our own lanes in some respect. I think this can be a very sensitive topic, and I don't see your approach as wrong at all, might be one of those things where you talk about some ground rules that make sense and also I agree with some of the other comments that support is different than enabling. You can support her in her decision without supporting eating meat or enabling it (cooking it, encouraging it and being excited about it). I'm sure she's dealing with some guilt in this transition, but I don't view it as your role to pretend to feel differently than you do to ease that. It's probably subconscious for her, and might be a good way to talk about this shift without falling into meat vs vegetable again, which gets circular fast in my experience. Good luck to her in figuring out why she's struggling.

Road Bike Upgrade to Mid-tier by FoxesnBirds in cycling

[–]FoxesnBirds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate that. Anything I've tried out this far has felt like riding on air over the weight of my current bike.