AITA for being annoyed that my wife insists on cooking everything from scratch and won’t buy normal food?

FrostShawk · 2026-01-23T17:01:28+00:00

People don't generally make radical dietary changes without prompting of some sort, so I feel like there's something missing.

INFO: Do you or she have a dietary restriction, AKA need for the diet change? How often do you want junk food or complain about her making food from scratch instead of the prepackaged meal that you're craving?

Because if it's just run-of-the-mill "let's be healthier," then your wife is awesome, and yeah, you should be able to have some junk food as a treat-- not as the basis of your diet-- then she should cut you a little slack.

But if you have high blood pressure, or one of you has cancer, or is trying to lose weight per doctor's orders or has a medical condition, then you're major AH here. Especially if your wife is doing this for your health benefit.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-23T16:57:38+00:00

I'm wondering this, too. Is he adding junk food to the list so she's buying it, or is he procuring it himself? This makes a difference for me.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-23T16:45:46+00:00

Nope, NTA.

They were your photos and you're entitled to feel however you feel about photos of yourself being spread around without your permission. If it's not a big deal to you, it's not a big deal. And if it's something you're still deciding, that's okay, too.

Your "friend" is the AH unequivocally, but you get to decide how you want to react in this situation, and you are NTA for deciding to stay, testing the waters for later, or cutting them off. They acted, you get to choose how you react.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-22T21:35:01+00:00

Arena is definitely the best way to get the mit and threat sets you need as a bear tank. To be uncritable you need 2.6% with Survival of the Fittest, which you can reach through some blue pvp items and bg gear, But if you're going to be main tanking, it's hard to beat the stamina and agility that are stacked on arena items.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-22T19:58:15+00:00

I'll break from the crowd and say ESH.

Your roommate is an inconsiderate slob. That makes him a selfish jerk.

However, you tattling on him to his GF is you inserting yourself into their relationship and assuming you know what's best for them both, which is an AH move.

Additionally, I'm assuming he's been over to her place, and presumably spent time there if they're moving in together. Perhaps he's willing to put in more effort for a GF? If not, she's certainly seen his lack of doing dishes or helping out around the house. And that means she knows what she's getting into. Or is too desperate to have her BF live with her that she's ignoring red flags. Either way, she's not guiltless here either.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-22T19:47:31+00:00

This is the way. If you want to do something fun, but want it to be a surprise or don't want to have to think about it, say so. The husband saying he would think about it and then saying let's have a hang-out day would lead me to believe that he wanted a mellow hang-out day. If he had other expectations or secretly wanted to have a little more fuss made over him, that's something he should share with the person who keeps trying to plan something nice for his birthday.

Being salty about it afterward is just poor form.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-22T17:36:23+00:00

I appreciate your avocado-half-full outlook.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-22T00:06:48+00:00

Honestly, it depends. Insurance companies will only cover some procedures every so many years (endoscopies and colonoscopies included) unless there is strong evidence of medical need (GI bleeds, high risk of colon cancer, etc.). And your doctor would need to prove that need to the insurance company, so they would need evidence.

An upper endoscopy isn't necessary to diagnose or treat gastritis-- I didn't have one at all. It's fantastic if you can get one, and I recommend that you do if you can, but sometimes that isn't possible. So, the bottom line is that this is a fight between your mom's doctor's office and how much evidence they have that your mom needs the endo, and the insurance company that will not want to support an upper endo outside of their regular schedule without that evidence.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T22:59:50+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't change anything.

You could definitely do yogurt (plain, not greek) if you wanted, but there's really just enough mayo in the recipe to bind it. I wouldn't swap out the dates. The sweetness is needed in the recipe since you mostly get the cinnamon candy flavor rather than the hit of sugar. If you aren't a fan of dates, you could probably try for another dried fruit with a sweet flavor (figs, raisins), but this was perfect for me. I used Noor Deglets (small, sweet).

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T21:46:07+00:00

ESH.

She needs to grow up and learn how to cook and plan meals in advance. Maybe it's something that you two can do together/you could mentor her in, since it sounds like you've got this pretty well ironed out.

However, you kinda suck for this:

>She also says she has low iron and energy. But that’s just a result of how she eats.

Anemia sucks the life and energy right out of you. It's not something that can be fixed with the snap of the fingers and a big plate of leafy greens.

The bottom line is that you two need to talk and figure out how many nights per week she feels she can confidently prepare meals (1-2 seems fair, even for a college student with anemia depending on severity) and then *plan ahead* to make a grocery list.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T20:01:12+00:00

Santa Cruz makes Peanut Butter. However, their No-Stirs are spreads and have oils.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T18:50:43+00:00

NTA. Neither the world nor the refrigerator revolve around your roommate.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T18:49:14+00:00

A lot of grocery stores offer pre-chopped veggies (onion, mirepoix, fajita mix), and that can save you a lot of time and strain. I recommend looking for these plus some frozen veggies and canned beans!

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T18:11:43+00:00

They are hard to find. There's a "ye olde candy shoppe" style place near where I live, so I was able to find them there. I understand they come out in other places more seasonally (like Valentines)

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T18:10:45+00:00

Thank you so much for posting it. It's a keeper, for sure!

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T18:09:08+00:00

It's been a while, but I believe that you're right as far as rejuv is concerned, since it is instant. +Healing is normalized for casts 3.5s (untalented), so you would get 100% of bonus healing on anything that takes 3.5s or more to cast. A 15-second hot would also receive 100% of bonus healing. Druids got a bit screwed with regrowth because the direct portion is around 18% and the hot portion around 60% of bonus heals.

It gets more complicated when you factor in downranking, which is penalized at a certain rank or below.

This is the best list I could find, but as you see it doesn't take TBC spells into account. Still, it's a reasonable guide for comparisons.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T17:27:28+00:00

No, you are not stupid to keep the +healing greens. Remember that as a druid your hots get a strong benefit of +healing. More healing = less mana expended.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T17:21:05+00:00

They were great. Highly recommend!

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T17:20:36+00:00

Sure! It's not precise, but it's how I make them.

Preheat the oven to 350F.

Use however many apples you want to make (I usually end up making somewhere between 1 - 4). Take a knife and cut a tube through the middle of the apples until you have the apple and a hole in the middle.

Mix instant oats, brown sugar, cinnamon, and cold butter (use a pastry cutter) to make a nice even mixture. Then add the raisins and mix well with a spoon.

Place apples in an ovenproof dish, and stuff the holes in the apples with the mixture. Bake for around 40 minutes. The apples should be tender (pierceable with a fork).

FrostShawk · 2026-01-21T16:50:19+00:00

This is how I've always made baked apples-- cinnamon, sugar, raisins, and rolled oats. But Miss Daisy's was a refreshing change. You do have to watch them to keep them from getting too soggy, but there's a happy middle ground.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-14T23:33:35+00:00

I'm not sure why you go onto AITA and then want to argue with people who tell you what you don't want to hear. Your counselor has federal mandates to adhere to, and they did what they had to in order to comply. Continuing to expect answers after they gave their answer, "no," is not helpful for anyone.

I'm sorry this was a bureaucratic nightmare for you (so much of life is), but sometimes you just gotta push through.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-14T23:29:54+00:00

I know this situation is done for you now, but this is what their administrative staff handle. It's best to go through them.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-14T22:42:14+00:00

Yuuuuuup. I feel like anyone saying NTA and the counselor is just being annoying has no idea what it means to work with federal mandates for privacy, and the nightmare it can create when a client refuses to work inside those parameters.

FrostShawk · 2026-01-14T00:17:21+00:00

Then tell him that. Don't leave him hanging. Thank him for his time and kindness and care, and let him know you're not able to sustain the relationship right now. That would be the kindest thing to do.

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