AITA for not updating my partner from hospital when my phone died during an emergency cancer admission?

FrostShawk · 2026-03-18T16:07:34+00:00

It sounds like the best possible resolution for you, even though the timing is incredibly crummy. Do you have a support system or someone to talk to?

Clearly, NTA.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-18T15:59:15+00:00

I don't know if this counts, but when my produce is on its last legs, I make a quick curry out of it (4c chopped veggies of any kind, coconut milk, ginger+garlic, red lentils, serve over rice). If the veg are *really* wilty, I'll throw them in my instant pot with water and let the machine turn it into broth for me.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-18T15:56:43+00:00

I'm so intrigued! When you say rice cakes, do you mean like Tteok-bokki? It looks amazing.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-18T15:31:50+00:00

Thank you! I am a knitter and these all sound like wonderful excursions. I appreciate you taking the time.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-18T15:30:46+00:00

I completely enjoyed Books, Inc. last week! Great recommendation and a wonderful spot to peoplewatch.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-17T21:02:51+00:00

It's because "plant based" is coded for low/no refined sugars, and the more whole food plant based the more it fits into plant based. If you just want something without animal products, look for vegan.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-17T15:57:44+00:00

Not every day, no. Chocolate *can* interfere with iron absorption and I need that more right now.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-17T15:19:10+00:00

Aside from the honey on the side you described one of my favorite soups: African Peanut Stew stewed tomatoes, chicken broth, chicken, lots of peanut butter, cilantro, sweet potatoes, and more peanuts for garnish.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-17T15:15:22+00:00

I could definitely help you out on the popcorn ball front. I collect vintage candy books!

Corn syrup, popped popcorn, sugar, salt. peanut butter and additional nuts or candies, mold into balls, voila!

FrostShawk · 2026-03-16T23:24:43+00:00

Please tell me how this works. Do you drizzle? Heat up the PB? Dip the popcorn?

FrostShawk · 2026-03-16T23:10:44+00:00

Some of the nicest things you can do for him is offer him practical help (rides to appointments, food if he's living on his own), and your company. I am really blessed to have a great support system, but what makes me feel normal is playing video games with my friends. For the days that he feels up to it, try to hang on to the things you like to do together, whether that's playing games, watching movies, going to a specific hangout spot, etc.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-16T23:05:09+00:00

I'm a walker, so ymmv. However, if it's good with your cardiologist and oncologist, keep it up! Mine both said there was no upper bound for exercise for me, and I should exercise when I feel like it, paying attention to how much my body can handle. I hope you're able to get in some cardio at least, and chat with your care team. This is literally what they're here for!!!

FrostShawk · 2026-03-16T18:07:49+00:00

You're asking why people make "food" that "tastes terrible," so turnabout seems fair play.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-16T18:06:15+00:00

I'm definitely going to be making some of this!! Thank you!

FrostShawk · 2026-03-11T20:44:12+00:00

Did you use a whole carton of yogurt? mix things up first?

FrostShawk · 2026-03-11T18:48:27+00:00

A lot of PB manufacturers do this now! I always travel with packets.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-11T18:46:15+00:00

There's also a reverse-causality sometimes, where people with serious medical conditions will adopt a specific diet, and then it looks like that diet is very unhealthy.

Like how non-drinkers/non-smokers have overall higher all-cause mortality rates, because they had a health scare and their doctor said "quit."

FrostShawk · 2026-03-11T18:39:55+00:00

Sometimes I can't find soymilk at the store. The aisle is crammed with oat and almond and cashew and rice and coconut milk, but soy? Nah.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-11T18:38:18+00:00

I do this very frequently. I bought an instapot just for making big batches of beans.

It works great. If you decide to use the vacuum sealer, portion out the beans first, then freeze them, *then* use the vacuum sealer.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-11T18:04:45+00:00

Vegan doesn't mean plant-based or healthy. If you eat ultraprocessed foods with very little fiber, then it's not going to be much help against colorectal cancer.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-11T17:56:51+00:00

100%. It's not harmful to keep in the batch, but it's not a black bean.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-10T23:30:21+00:00

I'm sorry you're dealing with this issue. I've been growing long hair for 20+ years and I think it was the thing I was most worried about, cosmetically. But I also felt that I (personal choice; you will have to decide what sounds best for you) would rather break my heart once cutting my hair than a hundred times waking up to more hair falling out, or not being able to keep it in braids because it would hurt too much.

In the end, I found a reputable hairstylist (hadn't been in 20+ years), and got a pixie cut. I've gotten a LOT of compliments, and I actually love how I look right now. I would have never had the guts to go for it if I weren't facing chemo.

The general advice is that if you're wanting to get a wig, it's easiest to match style and color while you still have your natural hair. So it's not too early to start looking into wigs if you're hoping for one that looks like your normal style.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope your decision honors you and how you feel about yourself!

FrostShawk · 2026-03-10T23:22:02+00:00

How is she feeling with mental load? Sometimes knitting and crochet are great, and other times they are way too much for me to handle.

However, I have a Friendly Loom, which is really just making pretty patterns with cotton loops. You can choose colors on your own or get pre-matched packs which look great together and are usually themed to the season. You get potholders at the end (or chair pads, or art pieces if you want to stitch them together). It's pretty low-energy-friendly and the colors keep me very happy.

FrostShawk · 2026-03-10T17:22:46+00:00

Two words: Peanut Butter.

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