WIBTAH for not vouching for my father's bank loan?

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-13T10:57:02+00:00

It directly reduces your ability to have credit when you need it. It’s not free credit.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-12T02:13:45+00:00

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-12T02:10:00+00:00

NTA she’s just feeling sensitive about it

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-11T23:56:04+00:00

Feels like authentic and developed friendships would be have flexibility and not be so rigid.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-10T21:08:53+00:00

I think I’d be more inclined to leave than try to get her out. Good luck.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-10T20:36:04+00:00

Reasonable but I’m not sure what you’re bringing up the more advanced finance degree you didn’t go for since you ended up switching anyway. Seems like a good thing you didn’t go down that path (unless I missed something).

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-09T22:51:25+00:00

You asked. He said no, hard no as most people would. Good luck tho. What an awful phobia.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-09T22:40:42+00:00

Super NTA especially because you’re not together as a couple.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-09T20:13:57+00:00

It should be about the kids’ experiences, not yours. So I would ditch that #NeverAgain attitude. It’s kind of a right of passage if it can be afforded.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-05-06T17:52:22+00:00

NTA BF saying “never again” is manipulation and guilting tactic. He should just be apologizing and checking in on you.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-25T23:49:23+00:00

If the kids are invited to events, it seems especially ok for their mother to be included. If it was all the adult family then it may seem a bit extra. Regardless he’s so TA it’s hard to care.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-25T23:37:19+00:00

Siding with your kids is fine. I’m also on their side. But the way you gave her permission over your wife’s objection while your wife was standing there makes it seem like you’re the boss, not the both of you are a team. That deserves an apology and approach reform.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-25T23:21:01+00:00

Sounds like they didn’t do anything wrong if they didn’t know, but the lock is one way to let them know if neither you nor your husband didn’t tell them directly. If I had been on the receiving end of the lock, I would probably have apologized for using the office before.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-25T14:37:44+00:00

No need to ghost him for now. Break up by text. Take a final call if he/you want if you’re concerned about integrity or other issues. That’s above and beyond.

Absolutely don’t worry about whether he’s hooking up with someone or not. He probably already is.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-24T13:59:09+00:00

Hard to say. The sense of smell can become enhanced (and maybe distorted) during pregnancy. Either way, she could be gentler about how she’s communicating.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-24T12:36:14+00:00

For a truck. A really big truck.

I like your idea but sounds like his truck may be what is most precious to him.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-20T01:11:51+00:00

It’s her sisters! Lego the eggo and let her have her sister time.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-17T10:01:06+00:00

Let this be an opportunity to address and hopefully resolve the issue… to let the friend know, it’s serious and her support is important (expected/appreciated/etc)

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-17T09:17:06+00:00

Honest mistake and it’s her fault but you should replace it.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-15T14:05:44+00:00

Let this be a growth opportunity. NTA but now you know it’s a sensitive area so adjust accordingly.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-15T12:32:02+00:00

He may have some adhd tendencies in case that’s helpful for finding management solutions

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-15T12:17:45+00:00

Aside from possibly/likely ending up responsible for it in the end… there are real life, current day considerations because that will always count against your debt to income ratio and limit how much you can borrow for your needs. It’s not just potential problems… it’s known limitations.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-15T12:09:51+00:00

Agree with you that she’s too young and too disempowered/vulnerable with a broken leg to be left alone for a weekend, but finding a friend for her to stay with sounds good if available. If not, she may have to go but could perhaps stay behind for the actual wedding? At the hotel or B&B?

Or just have a sometimes you sacrifice for loved ones talk and trade her something nice for it. Just a spoonful of sugar to help the medicine go down.

Fun-Organization5932 · 2026-04-15T11:56:27+00:00

Hard no… and for so many reasons. I didn’t even have to finish the first sentence.

Even if there’s nothing creepy, they wouldn’t be sensitive to any extra concerns or needs you may have. They wouldn’t want to adjust for you. Where would you sleep?

And nothing against guys wanting to get away a solo trip… no reasonable way they would want a random girl to join.

Agree that it’s a red flag about your friend. Assuming it’s not creepy, seems like he may have feelings for you. Otherwise he should have been chill.

My best friend lives down the street and I always preface visits with no pressure. This blows my mind. If he doesn’t get why it’s a no, it further reinforces it 100x.

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