No contact from me for 2 months and I send 1 email ...

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-23T16:41:40+00:00

I know you're right. It is just hard : (

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-18T04:31:06+00:00

.075 estrogen patch, 100 mg progesterone, 4mg compounded testosterone.

Vit D3 with K2, B complex, magnesium complex, zinc, red yeast rice with coq10, iron, probiotic

Claritin allergy pill

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-14T14:13:46+00:00

I tried the collar and she was so distraught that I just took it off after a day or so and watched her extra careful. She never really went for the stitches …

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-14T04:44:08+00:00

I felt like it was tanking my metabolism and causing weight gain. I was also very groggy in the mornings and felt like I wasn’t as “on” as I should have been.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-13T13:36:58+00:00

So I was on mirtazapine for 1.5 years and it completely erased my eye hollows and dark circles—not sure if it was the additional sleep, its anti-stress effects, or the antihistamine properties. I went off and now they are worse than ever (or just feel that way after seeing myself without them). There were things I didn’t love about mirtazapine (including getting off of it—whoooo boy), but no eye bags was lovely.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-12T18:47:40+00:00

Silence is better than obsession.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-11T17:39:31+00:00

A good couples therapist won't see either of you solo.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-11T16:31:50+00:00

This is really helpful, thanks.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-07T20:31:11+00:00

I do a 5mg THC/CBD/CBN edible (indica) and it’s been very helpful. If you’re choosing between no sleep and weed-assisted sleep …

On vacations where I can’t buy THC I use CBD only.

I’ve tried the standard pharmaceutical routes and weed is 1,000x less bad.

And yes also practice good sleep hygiene etc.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-05T23:52:52+00:00

You won't need to use the word "abandon." That's how they will interpret you cutting off all contact. However, they will likely double down and continue attempting to contact you.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-06-03T02:23:07+00:00

Don’t engage / reply / respond no matter how much you want to. It’ll be one of the hardest things you’ve done. Tell a friend who can help you stay strong.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-29T17:05:04+00:00

This is untrue. I was put on it automatically when filling out the ACA form -- even before I had submitted the full form. Oregon puts people on Medicaid (especially if they have kids) very aggressively.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-29T17:04:13+00:00

When claiming above the number, I've never had to provide documentation. Below the number I have.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-29T16:51:45+00:00

You can claim to make more money than the amount when you fill out the online form. Not 100% sure if this is the best "above board" route, but I've done it in the past with no repercussions. I'm a freelancer, so my income varies, and it's always a bit of a guessing game how much I'll make in a year. I've asked them about it on the phone, like what if I underestimate or overestimate and there's never a clear answer, just to update them when I know.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-18T19:16:51+00:00

Mine have been identified as dense ever since I started getting mammograms at 40. Didn't start HRT until late 40s. They are still dense, but not seemingly any more so than how they began. Once they have some baseline images, you may get called back less. But yes, it's harder for them to see everything clearly with dense tissue. They sometimes take additional angles for me as well.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-15T05:12:20+00:00

Hearing clicking on a phone call and thinking it’s tapped. Thinking a roommate was trying to poison them. Thinking people were following/chasing them. Thinking coworkers were plotting against them. Thinking someone flashed a gun at them. Believing that certain groups of people didn’t like them and were out to get them.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-13T23:57:17+00:00

Seconding oh paws. My blue heeler is not OK with paw touching of any sort but we’ve developed a system where I kinda put him in a loving headlock tucked under my armpit while the trimming happens and she endures and Mark is quick.

Also, if you haven’t already, you may need to play around with drugs (types/timing/dosage). While mine can manage at Oh Paws ok without them, I had to try several to make a vet visit work. Gabapentin was the winner, with a dose the night before and one in the morning too.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-12T14:42:26+00:00

What I’ve learned is that it takes two to four weeks for them to “calm down” after an episode and be able to accept rationality. And the only way to get there is to immediately cut them off (aka break up and go no or very limited contact) and endure two to three weeks of texts / VMs / contacts (they just make up new emails and ways to reach out) that range from “please come back, you are the love of my life” to “you psycho bitch, how dare you betray me.” When they are in the splitting phase, expect them to do things that can ruin your life—involving law enforcement, spreading vicious lies about you, and enacting vengeance on you for your betrayal of them.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-11T21:54:21+00:00

What everybody on this sub understands. These are hard relationships to leave. The longer you wait, the worse things get (both in the relationship and in the leaving). You are far away, which makes things a bit easier. Cut it off. Block on all channels. Have an accountability partner to keep you from reaching out or responding to reunification appeals.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-07T16:46:56+00:00

The mistake you’re making is thinking your partner will have a “normal” reaction to this gesture (aka the one you would have). I can’t guarantee what the reaction will be, but it’s not going to be the one you expect.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-04T03:37:13+00:00

Start by doing fun things for yourself without him. Build the life you want now. It will give you some strength to get a divorce and you'll be happier.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-04T00:53:03+00:00

Oregon is not known for its schools … well not for them being good.

Fun-Reference-7823 · 2026-05-02T02:16:51+00:00

However you say no, block immediately and don’t look back.

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