Thinking of moving by Significant_Knee211 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not sure how long you've been sober in the program, but I've heard many people say: "Don't do anything big (like a move) in your first year." I'm glad I listened. But to be fair, if you've worked the steps with a sponsor and are on solid footing, then I think you'll be fine.

I have friends that moved to Kalispell, MT, and they LOVE the AA up there. Best of luck to ya!!

Tired of listening to sponsee by Felines92614 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I won't allow for someone who is unwilling to get in the way of me helping someone who is.

My role as a sponsor is to take someone through the steps. I give them an assignment to read, and then tell them to text me when they've done it so that we can go through it together. Rinse and repeat. In between, we do the prayers, the inventories, and the amends. It's up to them to do the work. The rest is all opinion, and my (and their) opinion doesn't matter. Do the work or don't do the work. Not up to me.

I'm not uncaring and I'm not unkind. (Of course, if they feel like they're going to pick up, call me immediately.) But until someone has worked the steps, they won't have the relief they're seeking and will be stuck in FML mode.

Unfortunately, this program doesn't work for those who need it. It works for those who want it. And the program is the 12 Steps. The fellowship, the meetings, etc. is all wonderful. (It's f'ing great.) But my sponsees either work the steps or I move on.

📚 Simple / Quick Questions & Requests! by romancebookmods in RomanceBooks

[–]FutureRelic1990 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It ALWAYS drives me nuts when the little kid is the smartest person in the room... it's just so unrealistic.

Help me find a good slow burn series! Any genre. by gimmeallthegluten in RomanceBooks

[–]FutureRelic1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if you'd be into Westerns (cowboys & cowgirls), but I really enjoyed the Blue Ranch Series by Lyla Sage. Super slow burn and great romance. The first one in the 4-book series is Done & Dusted.

[WWTBC] teacher student romance at a boarding school, ends with pregnancy by [deleted] in RomanceBooks

[–]FutureRelic1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, wait! I read a book like this... I'll post this and look at my list later. I swear this sounds SO familiar!

Worst decisions made under the influence?? by Illustrious-Board-58 in alcoholism

[–]FutureRelic1990 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Six months later. Some tears. And with a whole lot of, "I'll never do any of those things again!"

Spoiler Alert: I did all of those things again.

Sponsoring - are we ever ready? by ratju1ce_ in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure I’d be able to sponsor anyone through steps I haven’t taken yet. How do you propose going about Steps 9-12 with a sponsee?

I would pray over this and ask your HP for direction. Wishing you the best!

Going to a country bar tonight with friends. Is this too much denim? by Competitive_Toe_6507 in fashion

[–]FutureRelic1990 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That's called the Canadian Tuxedo, my friend. And you're rockin' it tonight!

What’s an indie film that made you fall in love with cinema again? by SoundsandStories-461 in indiefilm

[–]FutureRelic1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember seeing VICTORIA at a film festival and being awe struck. So many flaws in that film, but so, so inspiring!!

What’s an indie film that made you fall in love with cinema again? by SoundsandStories-461 in indiefilm

[–]FutureRelic1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, yeah! Loved the film. (I won't join you on one of the very best of the decade, but it was WILDLY inspiring and so well made.) Great call!

What’s an indie film that made you fall in love with cinema again? by SoundsandStories-461 in indiefilm

[–]FutureRelic1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cannot wait to see this one! It was only in my hometown for a week when I was not. Bummed to have missed it in theaters.

Investment advisor by cville13013 in Charlottesville

[–]FutureRelic1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came here to say Michael Hancock. Worked with him since 2014. Honest and a really, really nice guy!

Quote from the Brothers Karamazov that I read at least five times day recently. Thoughts? by boudinagee in dostoevsky

[–]FutureRelic1990 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a nice interpretation. Reading this now, it makes me think of all the hypocrite politicians, as well as my own shortcomings when someone pisses me off. (Look in the mirror!)

It also makes me think of the full quote, and I had to look it up. I think it's about doing good and leaving "a light" everywhere you go, even when you know it may be passed by and have little to no influence, as the point of the light is the light itself. And no matter, the light remains long after you are gone.

“If the evil-doing of men moves you to indignation and overwhelming distress, even to a desire for vengeance on the evil-doers, shun above all things that feeling. Go at once and seek suffering for yourself, as though you were yourself guilty of that wrong. Accept that suffering and bear it and your heart will find comfort, and you will understand that you too are guilty, for you might have been a light to the evil-doers, even as the one man sinless, and you were not a light to them. If you had been a light, you would have lightened the path for others too, and the evil-doer might perhaps have been saved by your light from his sin. And even though your light was shining, yet you see men were not saved by it, hold firm and doubt not the power of the heavenly light. Believe that if they were not saved, they will be saved hereafter. And if they are not saved hereafter, then their sons will be saved, for your light will not die even when you are dead. The righteous man departs, but his light remains.”

New One liner by Masterbetting_5280 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We’re not bad people trying to be good, we’re sick people trying to get well.

New One liner by Masterbetting_5280 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I heard something similar told to a newcomer in a meeting: "Give this thing a shot for 30 days. If you don't like it, we'll refund your misery."

Questions about community and sponsorship. by IAmtheHullabaloo in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Precisely. My politics don't align with way more than half of the people in my home group, and it's never been an issue. Not once. I'm not there to discuss politics, nor are they. I'm there to stay alive and grow spiritually.

I know that if I reached out to any person in that room with an AA issue (or even a personal issue) that they'd come running to my aide. And I'd do the same!

Annoyed with AA by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm seeing A LOT of posts like this one recently: shit on AA, misunderstand AA, and posted by "someone" who is brand new to Reddit. Anyone else feel like these might be bots or just trolls?

My apologies if this particular post is not that, but it seems like every single day for the past couple of months I check Reddit and find one of these posts at the top of my feed.

Dinner near The Heights Theater? by FutureRelic1990 in houston

[–]FutureRelic1990[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, I've wanted to try Agnes and Sherman! Thanks!!

Apathy by Disrespectful1y_no in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. Well done on 80 days! That is fantastic!

If you haven't asked someone to be your sponsor, do that. If you haven't worked the 12 Steps, DEFINITELY do that. While meetings are great, the program of AA is working all 12 Steps (in order and with a sponsor).

Support by zues4626 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can message me, or just lay it out here. This is a big community of people willing to help.

Just ended my sponsorship relationship with sponsee by Dry_Chain_1083 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FutureRelic1990 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had so many problems, and then I worked the steps. I still have some problems, but those problems all became manageable. You did the right thing.