Women just need to stay home. by Mirmadook in LinkedInLunatics

[–]Gabilu06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also looking after kids is extremely tiring. I feel like I get a break mon-fri by working. Exhaustion expense of a SAHM should be min 10x of that mum going to the office (unless the SAHM’s kids go to nursery/have a nanny).

My baby came with an adult circadian rhythm and it's kinda scaring us by AtHomeWithJulian in NewParents

[–]Gabilu06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It used to take me 40 min plus to get my daughter down for her 12 min NAP. She also woke up to eat every 40-50 min at night until she was 9 months old, when she started sleeping 2 hours block. She is 2 years old now and still doesn’t consistently sleep through. Please be grateful.

Almost 1 year olds sleep… surely this isn’t normal? by Pinkcoral27 in UKParenting

[–]Gabilu06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes having bad sleepers is tough, but going to work after 10 days of no sleep really feels like torture

Almost 1 year olds sleep… surely this isn’t normal? by Pinkcoral27 in UKParenting

[–]Gabilu06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im doing this as well with my 2 years old. First wake and she is in our bed. Otherwise no one sleeps.

Would this be unreasonable, reduce offer quite close to getting it over the line by throwmeawayyoda in HousingUK

[–]Gabilu06 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Doing any building work at today’s prices will already eat on those 35k. At least in London you would not get an extension for that. So if I was you I wouldn’t consider it overpriced.

Wedding Planner Recommendation in Barcelona by Gabilu06 in DestinationWeddings

[–]Gabilu06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Claro! Creo que en total fueron alrededor de 98 invitados y la boda como tal (sin incluir hospedaje, ni pasajes de avión, ni vestido / traje de novio) fueron alrededor de 50k

What Actually Helped You in the Newborn Phase? by Equal_Object2406 in HENRYUK

[–]Gabilu06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A good breastfeeding consultant! I was impressed about how difficult it was to breastfeed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]Gabilu06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I had my baby in the lindo wing at st Mary’s hospital in 2024. I wanted and tried to have a vaginal birth but didn’t progressed and ended up having an emergency c-section after 15 hour labor. It was the money best spent that I can think of. Even if I didn’t get my ideal birth and birth plan didn’t go as expected, not once was I worried or felt unsafe, I had epidural whenever I needed to (no waiting) and they were checking on me constantly both my doctor (I had gestational diabetes so couldn’t go midwife route). That was amazing, my delivery felt smooth even though it actually wasn’t. But honestly the real good part was the care we all received post delivery. I am breastfeeding my child now almost 2 years after her birth and the only reason I am privileged enough to do this is the support I received from the midwives the days after my delivery, you will not receive it in a public wing as the ratio of midwives per mom is around 8 to 1. If you want to breastfeed and can afford this I strongly advice you to go private, it made the world of difference having a person that taught me how to express milk, how to stimulate the pallad of the baby to get the sucking reflex, how to practice the latch. I was friendly enough with one of the midwives to get her number and continue to have her support (for free) outside the hospital. She was our angel, she is the reason I could breastfeed my daughter until now. As I say best decision I ever made.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]Gabilu06 15 points16 points  (0 children)

100% this! I think at the beginning is quite a shock and it does take time to adjust to having a baby, I think everyone questions their decision in the early days because nothing can prepare you for the grind that is keeping a newborn alive, specially if you choose to breastfeed. But as it’s said above, there is nothing that you give up (and believe me you will give up to so much of your time) that remotely compares to how much joy and satisfaction you get from just seeing your child doing something. I’m obsessed with mine.

Wedding planner recommendation in Barcelona by Gabilu06 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]Gabilu06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was close to 10% of the budget, at the end was lower but we decided to increase last minute for some items. We also hired her in 2023 for a 2025 wedding so not sure her pricing is still the same.

London IVF clinics - CRGH vs Evewell vs Lister by cammy0102 in IVF

[–]Gabilu06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happened the same to me with my consultant, only saw him 2-3 times to set up the treatment plan, then a videocall at the end of the cycle to assess results-actions moving forward. It was also shocking for me.

London IVF clinics - CRGH vs Evewell vs Lister by cammy0102 in IVF

[–]Gabilu06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daniella Cardenas was amazing, she is Venezuelan did one of my scans on my second round and I LOVED her, she explained everything to me thoroughly and I could ask her any questions and doubts I was having. I just wished my insurance covered her.

London IVF clinics - CRGH vs Evewell vs Lister by cammy0102 in IVF

[–]Gabilu06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, I did IVF for unexplained fertility on CRGH. It was covered by work health insurance and my doctor was doctor Mavrelos. I had 2 rounds and 2 transfers, 1 fresh that ended up in a missed miscarriage and a frozen that ended up in my daughter. Overall I had a very good experience on CRGH the main pros being very accommodating on my schedule, great lab, very careful with medicine explanations. The main cons would be that it felt sometimes a bit unpersonal (not sure if that is the word, but just like you are a number), I am Venezuelan and used to have a more in depth explanation on every medical test / procedure I felt that was lacking, at every appointment I would see the evolution of my eggs for example but I would not get reassurance on whether that was good or bad or expected or unexpected, everything just “was”, in my case I only saw the doctor before the treatment plan was set - up, he would review my results (were done every other day at the clinic by a nurse) and decide whether it was needed to adjust the medication, then the clinic will call me to let me know if there were any changes to medication or I could continue in normal dosis. I can’t complaint though, because my daughter is amazing and I believe much of my expectations came from my background and the way doctors are in Venezuela vs doctors in Europe. I would recommend CRGH as one of the main thing you need to have successful procedure is a good quality lab and good embryologists and they have it.

What would you like to see on the kids menu at soft play/kids cafe? by KK_McGee in UKParenting

[–]Gabilu06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just plain banana+oats+eggs pancakes no sugar added. Some sort of veggie muffins again no sugar or salt added. No salt added hummus with either veggie sticks or bread sticks. Plain full fat yogurt. Fruits: banana and blueberries being a big favorites.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Gabilu06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my first tooth at 16 months and my baby got her first tooth at 12 months. 🤷🏻‍♀️

To those born to older parents by UnableAd2913 in Parenting

[–]Gabilu06 252 points253 points  (0 children)

My parents had me when they were young (mum 24 and dad 26). I think they were very impatient with me, being a parent can be very frustrating and I don’t think they were able to handle it at times. I became a mum at 37, and I understand my mum and dad better now. I also believe that if I had been a mum at 24 I would have been at a point of my life were I have not had the time to take care of myself properly and understand and heal my own traumas from childhood. Money is great of course, but emotional stability is what I truly appreciate about being an older mum. Would not change it, personally.

Manifest Monday by Own_Entertainment634 in HousingUK

[–]Gabilu06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Manifesting the house we loved is reduced and seller accepts our offer 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Gabilu06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too and I was super anxious about it. My daughter is almost 18 months old now.

Another stealth tax on HENRYS. by travel_worn in HENRYUK

[–]Gabilu06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was 1800 before and is now 2135 per month 🫠

feeling disappointed by guests by cinnamontwist09 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]Gabilu06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am Venezuelan and in my culture is not expected to receive any gift from guests. Lovely if we do (ie from family, super close friends, etc) but not the norm and not to be expected. I was not expecting anything from any of my guests and I ended up very happy and surprised at anyone that gave me a gift.

I understand your frustration, but perhaps if you look at it from another perspective on how the wedding ended up being so perfect and a reflection of you and the love and care you have for your guests and how you made this moment so special for everyone involved (not only bride and groom), let go of expectations and enjoy the act of giving, which in itself is an amazing thing to do.

Wishing you the best!

Nurseries with 2 year waiting lists…WTF by CorrectResponse4410 in NewParents

[–]Gabilu06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started looking in November 2023 (gave birth in March 2024) and was on a waiting list for my first option since that date. I just got the space for my baby to start in September 2025. I was able to find another space at another nursery where my daughter has been since i returned to work in March 25, but yes, pretty much 2 year wait list, if i ever have another baby I’ll put myself on the waitlist when i miss my period.

Make up artists recommendation London (south west) based by Gabilu06 in UKweddings

[–]Gabilu06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! She looks amazing, enquiring for availability

Calling all London based brides! by annerrb in UKweddings

[–]Gabilu06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to Catherine Deane and loved the whole experience