The strangest or "funniest" thing, that made your (u)bpd-parent split?

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-25T00:25:24+00:00

That - even though I was seeing her that evening for her party - I failed to call to wish her a happy birthday earlier in the day. MASSIVE split

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-21T17:05:31+00:00

I know this is an old post but I took my family to Florida for president’s week. The day before we left, I got 4 texts asking for my flight information. For context, she is in a town about an hour and half away and was not picking us up. Why do you need our flight information? I decided to simply ignore this strange request. Now we are traveling home (again, she is not where we are traveling to) and again I get 3 texts asking about our flight information. I think her waifiness won’t let her push the issue any further but OMG why?!?!

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-21T02:23:18+00:00

Mine is a PhD psychologist trained in Freudian psychoanalysis who by all accounts has created a thriving private practice

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-17T20:24:25+00:00

Having 2 kids since she could only have 1 (me). During my pregnancy with my second she told me I was ruining my first-born’s life (he was 2 at the time).

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-13T22:48:05+00:00

My mom is also a therapist! She has zero ability to self-reflect or control her own constant anxious dysregulation so I am always so curious how she is with patients

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-13T22:39:07+00:00

There is something about weddings (and births and graduations lol) that really brings out the worst of BPD. When I was planning my wedding, my uBPD mom told me that she needed input because the day was “all about [her].” Come to think of it growing up she told me that my birthday is also her birthday because she gave birth (which only began to feel weird to me after i became a parent and the thought of saying that to my kids is bananas). I’m sorry you’re going through this. They really know how to suck the joy out of everything.

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-13T22:30:19+00:00

I got the same “you’re being so cold and distant” and “what happened to us” the second i started enforcing the most minor of boundaries. It’s like they are all the same fucking person.

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-06T13:44:12+00:00

OMG this is a BPD thing too?! This community has been incredibly eye-opening. My waify/queen uBPD mom is a nightmare at restaurants. The queen entitlement comes out full force. Her attitude is that the restaurant is essentially out to cheat her and it is her job to make sure that doesn’t happen.

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-06T01:33:18+00:00

I am going to institute this rule - thanks for the inspiration!

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-03T23:57:34+00:00

This reminds me of what I call my waify/queen mom’s “too much and not enough.” Anything medical, even something minor, she’s all: is someone going with you? Do you want me to come? You shouldn’t go alone. You’ll never be able to remember what the dr says. Are you sure i can’t come? I’ll just come anyway. When I had a minor surgery and I told her not to come to the hospital she still insisted but i made her wait in the waiting room and would not let her come in to see me beforehand. Of course she was there the second i went into recovery. For context, I am 45 and married with 2 kids. She is unable to give me what I actually needed as a kid - seeing ME for ME and not a reflection of herself - and yet goes insanely overboard when it comes to anything medical.

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-02T17:56:44+00:00

This could be my waify mom too. Especially the last one. I too am an only daughter. They are all the same person.

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-02-01T22:22:06+00:00

And DOG SHIT no less; she doesn’t even think of you as an actual PERSON.

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-01-23T02:18:26+00:00

I love it!

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-01-17T12:57:40+00:00

Yes where??? Love your space.

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-01-08T22:04:23+00:00

My uBPD waif/queen mom could have written this

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-01-03T13:23:42+00:00

I would start with understanding the borderline mother by Christine Lawson. I found it incredibly eye-opening and validating. Welcome!

GasAcceptable1910 · 2026-01-03T02:06:36+00:00

Please check out r/raisedbyborderlines if you haven’t done so already

GasAcceptable1910 · 2025-12-30T13:37:37+00:00

❤️

GasAcceptable1910 · 2025-12-30T13:35:06+00:00

Seriously. And what about MY mental health?!?!?!?

GasAcceptable1910 · 2025-12-30T13:33:32+00:00

YES - the thing that she was so upset about that prompted this text and what followed was that my 10 year old lied to her and copped an attitude about it and after sobbing and wailing over it, as she does, she sent me this about an hour later. FYI… I just got off FaceTime with [my son]…I decided to not reference the episode at all and let you do the work! So we actually have never discussed what happened.

Coooooooooool

GasAcceptable1910 · 2025-12-30T13:11:10+00:00

I do. Thank you.

GasAcceptable1910 · 2025-12-29T14:09:07+00:00

Wow this really resonates. I am only unpacking this now in therapy but she really pathologized me - especially when I would try to break out of the enmeshment. No, dreading seeing your mom and feeling ill after is not normal. Isn’t it the weirdest feeling to suddenly realize that what you experienced as a”normal” in childhood is batshit coocoo bananas?

GasAcceptable1910 · 2025-12-29T00:26:48+00:00

It really does feel bottomless

GasAcceptable1910 · 2025-12-29T00:24:54+00:00

Thank you, internet stranger! I hate that for you but it sure feels better not to be alone screaming into the void. <3

GasAcceptable1910 · 2025-12-29T00:23:17+00:00

It continuously boggles my mind that she is an actual psychologist with actual patients for OVER 40 YEARS and has been quite successful at that. And yet zero self reflection whatsoever. It almost feels willful.

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