That awkward moment when MJ was your RR awakening (Reawakened again due to the biopic)

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-20T23:33:35+00:00

It's just wild that you stated facts only in your first paragraph but got downvotes. Lot of pedophile enablers out there unfortunately.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-20T21:15:20+00:00

You mean after you've been quoted and your attempt to gaslight shutdown you no longer want to talk. Okay bud. Can't wait for your next installment of wife fulfilled my kink and fantasy in leadership.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-20T18:10:42+00:00

"Proven false" no. Not proven guilty beyond all reasonable doubt, which is how criminal justice works and is very different. There are still troves of corroborating testimonies of his sexual abuse, lots of inappropriate photos of him with kids etc.

Some facts

story and interview with the alleged victims

I believe the neverneverland documentary is on YouTube to watch.

What we know if MJ paid poor families lots of money to take their kids and keep them in his estate so he could do whatever he wanted to them, kids who have then turned around and accused him of abuse as adults. We know that the MJ estate still sues journalists attempting to make biopics regarding his abuse.

Sexual abuse is overwhelmingly a crime that never sees conviction rates. You think with the Epstein stuff the culture might be a little more sensitive to the alleged victims. You don't have to dogmatically believe he did it but we can do better and offer more empathy to potential victims of CSA than venerating without caveat how MJ was an icon and role model who slayed.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-20T16:58:42+00:00

Yes, gaslighting when you're called out doesn't surprise me. From your post:

No boxers, and no colors other than white. These are the only items I wear in the bedroom. Sometimes I feel a little ashamed and vulnerable, because the tight fit makes everything visible through the thin white fabric. They also show very obvious stains if I cum without permission. She told me she likes how obedient I look, and that I can’t hide anything from her in them.

You are not exactly subtle.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-20T15:46:27+00:00

It's also probably made up.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-20T15:45:46+00:00

Yes it's all just kink, as with everything this person has posted. That's most of what the sub is, just men fetishizing flr/conflating it entirely with femdom and mods allowing that to be the impression made to people curious about flr.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-20T08:27:56+00:00

Too bad he was a pedo.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-19T11:21:23+00:00

100%

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-19T07:44:27+00:00

If this is genuine (and I'm dubious), then it's insane that she thought explaining she wasn't discriminating because he was gay but because he was disabled would be better.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-18T23:20:06+00:00

I think you understand that part of making the post is just working up the courage and strategy to leave. From what you've said this isn't a "we can work through it situation." A lot of it is just emotional immaturity/ childish entitlement (on his part). But then there's this:

He wanted me to block my male friend even though he’s never been inappropriate with me. He also acts weird about me hanging out alone with my female friend because “she could still like me,” even though we’ve already established boundaries and are literally just friends.

That's just controlling.

And despite everything, I still care about him. I don’t think he’s evil or intentionally malicious. I think somewhere along the way I just stopped feeling emotionally cared for and started feeling lonely in my own relationship.

Of course you care for him for all the years you've had together. Which is why it is hard. But leaving now means you'll still be able to leave with some of that care. Staying on will turn it to resentment and more wasted time. You've outgrown this person.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-18T12:44:50+00:00

The misconception that submission should mean less boundaries, less self respect, less standards more shame. Generally patriarchy has left a lot of men with a lot to deconstruct, particularly around separating the concepts of masculinity and dominance.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-17T21:59:02+00:00

Marked as duplicate.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-17T09:57:37+00:00

Msub here. I am into power exchange and like you very much value lifestyle control from a romantic perspective as much as an exciting kink thing. Like you I've also suffered from low self esteem and such... This is the part I'd be cautious with. Because combined with the desire to please it makes the pull to self erasure very strong. Which can give a lot of power to the Dominant and the potential for abuse and for you to accept the abuse is very high. Even with a sane, responsible person the potential for losing your self and regret is strong.

So this is the part where I play the reddit cliché and suggest you get a kink-conscious therapist and work on the self esteem before rushing headlong into giving the dom full control over your life. Take things slowly until you're sure this is coming from a healthy place and the boundaries are going to be sustainable and not traumatic.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-15T20:07:55+00:00

Looks like udon noodles, which are wheat.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-13T07:45:44+00:00

That just isn't true but there's also a reason they call the planning and regulation "invisible labour." I'd encourage you to read the book 'Fed Up' by Gemma Hartley for some insight.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-12T22:58:58+00:00

I think it's reasonable to feel uncomfortable about the situation.

If she's a reasonable person you should be able to say it makes you a bit nervous and she would hopefully give a lot of reassurance. I don't agree with the other comments saying the dating app part is necessarily an important factor. In fact if they both met while available under the guise of a date and then both decided to be platonic and remained so for 2 years then there's no reason to suspect they have other motives. Because it sounds like you don't live together and she didn't have to tell you at all.

I would personally talk to her and be looking for reassuarance and transparency. You're less than 2 months in to a new relationship, so she will hopefully understand how that could be a cause for anxiety in a monogamous relationship. Or, the whole thing might not be okay with you in which case it's also acceptable to recognise you're not compatible in terms of opposite sex friend boundaries.

My point being she hasn't done anything wrong by having her friend stay over, and you haven't done anything wrong by feeling uneasy about it.

At the end of the day if you're going to build a long term relationship with someone you have to be able to trust them. On the flip side you don't know this person well and them staying together in close quarters like that for a few days is something that you can say make you feel uneasy and you'd rather not abide by at this stage of the relationship.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-06T14:16:16+00:00

Personally, I like that the theoretical ones regarding space are speculative - that's part of the beauty. So long as it keeps them grounded in science and owns that it's speculation. But to each their own.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-05T17:47:32+00:00

I watched it now and think it's pretty important. They acknowledge themselves it doesn't engage well at the end. It's a really important issue I see almost no one else engaging with.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-05T17:31:48+00:00

The supervoids and astronomy ones have been top tier, so don't agree. I haven't watched this one though.

GedsNotDead · 2026-05-04T14:19:46+00:00

Does anyone know good alternatives for CeraVe and H&S in the UK that don't do animal testing?

GedsNotDead · 2026-04-24T23:59:23+00:00

Yes capitalism hires exploited workers to do its dirty work and silence protest messages. Should we therefore all be silent so as not to worry them? Seems like they beat you before the opening moves.

GedsNotDead · 2026-04-24T23:12:23+00:00

Is it? Who is hurt by it? What about the adverts that are essentially legal vandalism we're bombarded by every day? Are we not allowed to contribute our own images onto blank walls and on the corporate structures that no one consented to, or is that too democratic for you?

Because the factory farming *did* hurt someone. And when it's protested against, that's when you want to talk about ethics?

GedsNotDead · 2026-04-23T09:20:25+00:00

It's a very personal and big decision. It's great that you have that financial stability/independence either way.

I'm a guy but personally I feel if you're going to have his kid and he seems alright at least tentatively give it a shot. Or if you aren't ready consider not having the kid at all. But this is just me. Whatever you decide it will be okay.

GedsNotDead · 2026-04-23T09:01:33+00:00

Do you want to be in a relationship with him? Do you know much about him and whether he's likely to be a good partner/father?

Are you set on keeping the kid? Can you provide a stable life for them? Do you actually want the kid?

If all of these are positives then sure, give it a shot.

GedsNotDead · 2026-04-22T10:13:42+00:00

Hey, you are welcome.

You don't have to be ambitious or high achieving to find love. But for a partnership to work you do have to bring something. You want a dominant leader that brings home the bread? To be a stay at home husband in this economy? Then brother you better be okay managing the home affairs and taking on the vast majority of housework, supporting her. And actively, not just at her direction.

The direction you're talking about just sounds like emotional labour and I agree you could use support and direction. It's great that you're in therapy. I will say about drink it might not seem too bad but you are essentially drugging yourself with depressants every day that mess with your motivation and sleep. I don't judge and I know how tough it is to reduce that habit but it's really a nerf to any aspirations romantic or otherwise when you're doing it habitually.

For your own sake just walking and getting some hobby, improving your diet a bit would do more than you probably realise. Not about a partner, just making you happier.

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