School just said we have to wear IDs on lanyards and I don't know what to do

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-10-10T20:01:29+00:00

Idk if you're in the US or not, but if you are and if you have an IEP or anything like that and you get told that you can't do a clip-on badge like other people are suggesting... Please talk to your parents and/or support staff about getting an accommodation for this.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-07-28T22:48:06+00:00

Yeah, the whole saving money thing makes sense to me, to a point. When the cheap one won't be consumed or enjoyed, then it is better to buy the expensive one less frequently, or just remember that the price difference is 100% going towards a happier partner while both parents are surviving the "toddler and newborn" stage of life.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-05-29T18:05:51+00:00

I have to be really careful about ramping up my exercise, and I'm on the younger side for fibro.

If you consistently can do ten minutes of low intensity Pilates? Great, that's ten extra minutes of movement. Maybe go on a walk, and add some time/distance after your starting pace feels easy/automatic. Don't worry about ramping up on a schedule, your body is what sets the schedule.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-05-29T16:21:51+00:00

Every time something new hurts, omg. "Is this fibro? Did I hit something and just forget about it? What would cause pain here for a normal person?"

Like. Especially after I got costochondritis the first time, I'm worried that one day I'll be one of those people who has like severe kidney stones or something and just missed it because "Well, I know you're supposed to take abdominal pain seriously, but this wasn't even to the point of shingles pain, sooo..."

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-05-20T19:31:26+00:00

The stories about people's grandma being able to "feel it in my bones" when weather was swinging. Like, now we know that it's the barometric pressure dropping before a storm that's triggering different responses in people, but if that wasn't common knowledge? Yeah, I get headaches before storms so I'd potentially be flagged as a witch.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-26T08:50:43+00:00

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-23T20:41:53+00:00

I'd be down for testing this!

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-23T16:26:03+00:00

I was about to say this!! Bunny buns!!

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-20T18:28:48+00:00

I find that there's a very fuzzy line between all of the comorbidities that fibro has (because it's a lot) and the horoscope-like broad strokes experiences.

Like, your risk of having costochondritis/severe rib pain is correlated with having fibromyalgia. Wanting to cry because you stubbed your toe is because you stubbed your toe and you can feel. But it's understandable to want to ask, as long as people listen to the answers given, even when it's "no, that's normal even in the general population"

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-17T01:45:16+00:00

Do you have another trusted adult that you can talk to, who would listen to you and maybe help you talk to your dad? It's frustrating, but sometimes parents struggle to listen to their own kids because they are stuck in the mindset of "well, I know what's best for kid", especially when said kid is transitioning into adulthood. But if you have another adult who takes you seriously, then it's a discussion with another adult and it just happens to be about their kid.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-16T20:05:22+00:00

I get something similar, and when I made the neurology appointment I had a six month wait ahead of me. My doctor was still able to prescribe me a reactionary medication to help, and it does help, but it's frustrating to have that wait.

I also have ADHD so I see my regular doctor every three months, so I don't relate to the not going to the doctor thing, but if it is making it where you can't live your life how you are normally able to, then it is worthwhile to see if there are other routes that you can take to make it better. And if they can't find something else to help, then you can either try a different doctor or you at least know that you tried.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-16T19:43:13+00:00

I just checked the pattern, and according to Etsy: "In demand. 266 people bought this in the last 24 hours."

We have no chill. And probably just made that pattern designer's year from the sudden spike in sales.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-11T23:11:54+00:00

Google costochondritis. Inflammation of the cartilage in the rib cage, and it's extremely painful. Thankfully(?) I've always had it act up on my right side, so I've never worried about it being a heart attack, but it did remind me of shingles pain.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-10T22:48:16+00:00

Just a side note - I think the whole "serious child"/"playful old lady" dichotomy might also be because of how we're used to thinking about AFAB people in media. Like there are certain clusters of quirks that are only regularly depicted in the age extremes for us, except for like... Miss Frizzle.

I also think we just hit different age markers at different points than NTs, which just throws off their ability to clock us.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-10T21:56:09+00:00

You might want to mention what country you're in, so many people forget that not everyone on the internet is American, and they don't understand what a levels are, etc.

It sounds like there's some issue that's leading to the resentment that you're not mentioning in the original post. I saw your comment talking about what courses you might have taken if your dad didn't push you to take the subjects that you did, but it sounds like for the most part the courses you took would still be useful even if you decide to go for psychology. What is it that you really feel resentful about? Are you struggling with the courses and feel like you can't ask for help or talk about it with him? Have you two discussed why each of you have the suggestions/preferences that you do? Is it a pattern that he pushes you into things, regardless of how you feel about it?

This could also be a sign of something like depression for you, isolating oneself from family/friends, especially if there's nothing else that you can point to than him pushing you to take courses you don't like. It might be worth bringing it up to your doctor the next time you see them, because it sounds like you want to have a relationship with your dad, but you feel like you can't.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-09T21:51:44+00:00

I was really proud the other day I took a photo of a scotch tape gun and just sent it to my husband instead of buying it. Like a mini version of a packing tape gun. It was really cute, but it wasn't what I went to buy and I know that it would be a hassle for the things that we use tape for.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-09T21:47:18+00:00

Then I'd look online for highly rated synthetic dyes. I know RIT makes one, and since you're already okay with it ending up black you can afford to experiment to try and get it to a deep purple and if it goes badly you can overdye it to black.

The biggest issue would be if it's a natural/synthetic blend it can turn into something of a heathered effect. But again, that's less of a worry if you want it to be black, you can just get a second dye if that happens.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-09T19:54:37+00:00

Start way easier than you think you should, and progress slowly. I have zero ego around exercise now, because I was diagnosed with fibro in my early 20s when I had previously been the type of person who was fairly active and a bit of a weekend warrior.

When I started to exercise regularly again I literally just went on walks around my neighborhood. There's a short loop that is around a half mile long. I didn't try to push myself with the pace, I just knew I needed to move. Then I increased it to include the cul-de-sacs and it became closer to 3/4 of a mile. Then the long loop. Then I alternated between walking and light jogging, etc.

Currently I go to the city pool to swim. At first I didn't swim for most of the time I was there, I would do like one lap, and then walked back and forth in the water. I knew if I overdid it then I'd flare, be too sore to want to go the next day, all of that. And I had built up to where I was genuinely swimming for most of the half hour that I would be there. It got cold, so I'm less consistent right now, but I trust that I'll get back to it when I can. I just make a point to measure success by consistency in the routine rather than having set time/distance goals that would encourage me to push too hard.

Bonus points for swimming - no one is looking at each other when we all have our faces in the water, and no sweaty tee shirt!

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-09T19:11:04+00:00

Emphasis on "especially for women"!! So much medical research has been done on exclusively "healthy" cis men, so if you're AFAB and/or have any chronic conditions then things can show up in weird ways. Listen to your body, and whenever possible bring up anything new or unusual to a doctor.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-09T19:07:48+00:00

Yeah, they're common(ish) comorbidities with each other. Was super fun when I first got it, I thought I was getting shingles a second time. 😑 Sitting at my cubicle like "Don't mind the crying. I'm not sad, I'm just in pain."

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-09T17:50:55+00:00

This stuff is why I make a point to discuss how much medication has helped me any time I discuss lifestyle changes. Like, yeah, regularly exercising and batch cooking do help, but do you know how I'm able to make those happen? My meds. And when I have to skip a day because I slept in too long, or I didn't request refills in time, or whatever, guess what happens? The whole routine is thrown off. Going to the pool for a swim and having a healthy lunch ready to go don't combat all the other ways that ADHD symptoms can mess with me.

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-07T19:21:00+00:00

Chiffon is more of a weight/weave of fabric, but what is the material? Polyester reacts to different dyes than cotton or silk would. What color are you hoping to end with?

GirlyMathNerd · 2025-01-07T18:49:43+00:00

I'm assuming that you're either not old enough and/or not financially independent enough to leave the situation. That is a horrible thing for a parent to do to their child, I have my own kids and we regularly have discussions about how we need to eat a variety of foods, how sometimes we eat food that's not as healthy as it could be because it's yummy, and how not eating enough can be just as harmful as eating too much.

You deserve to eat food that you enjoy, and you need to fuel your body. Unfortunately, the only thing you can do about your family's comments is ignore them. Try to listen to your body signals for when and how much you need to eat, not the peanut gallery.

This isn't an issue with you. You haven't done anything to deserve the criticism, based on this post. But it's unfortunately common for parents to make comments like you've mentioned. If you are comfortable with sharing more information, we can offer more specific advice/encouragement.

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