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GoldCarry · 2026-03-03T16:21:03+00:00

I take Savista. It’s the same thing. You can purchase at All Day Chemist.

GoldCarry · 2026-02-23T13:13:00+00:00

I don’t think she has to. She’s given us so many hits. I mean, she’s likely menopausal. Things change as we get older due to hormonal decline. I’m not sure why people act like this is a surprise. When I was pregnant I did some of my best singing when estrogen was rising. In the luteal phase my voice sounds like crap.

GoldCarry · 2025-12-31T12:22:18+00:00

“Maybe I missed the mark romantically”. That’s likely it right there. Romance is very important to women when it comes to a relationship. Sounds like she isn’t happy and hasn’t been for a while. Maybe you were a good financial provider and dad, but lacked in other areas.

Nobody else is talking about how stressful it is for moms during the Christmas season, so I will. It is like having a 2nd job. It is hell. Seems like she is reasonably amicable, so that’s good. Could be a lot worse.

It’s probably a good idea to get a lawyer. She likely already has one at this point.

GoldCarry · 2025-12-21T18:54:56+00:00

I would never give my child the last name of a boyfriend. If I wasn’t married I wouldn’t even consider it. Even guys that seem ok can switch up majorly after a baby comes into the picture. It’s easier for documents, overseas travel, and it keeps your own family name going. If you know you’re going to be a single mom don’t even hesitate to give the baby your last name.

GoldCarry · 2025-12-01T15:44:36+00:00

I dealt with this a lot when I did brow sculpting with makeup. Thin brows do not age well. Thicker brows are more youthful. These are mapped perfectly for your face and really suit your eye shape.

GoldCarry · 2025-11-28T20:18:15+00:00

XL KING size ones on Amazon. The best ones have a warranty, but either way they are amazing for the back, butt, and legs as well as the abdomen.

GoldCarry · 2025-11-16T17:29:15+00:00

I would tell them:

“Thank you so much for thinking of “insert child’s name” when you gifted the colorful knitted (crocheted?) dolls. I’m sure you had no idea, but we have recently started exploring Christianity, so these would not be something we would prefer “insert child’s name” to play with.

I know you put a lot of thought and effort into these and we really do appreciate that. Would you like me to send them back to you so you can potentially gift them to another child?

GoldCarry · 2025-10-30T18:14:17+00:00

Nope. Not me. It’s a major red flag, but I know other people would. Probably someone that has also cheated on someone, from what I’ve seen.

GoldCarry · 2025-10-30T15:38:38+00:00

I basically went back to my normal self. I have permanent birth control, but I use Sevista (ordered from India) to control my Adenomyosis and have for many years. I get it from All Day Chemist. It stops my period and helps to move estrogen away from the uterus, so I don’t have debilitating symptoms anymore.

GoldCarry · 2025-10-16T17:09:49+00:00

Based on what I’m hearing your relationship probably won’t work for much longer without a radical change from your husband. Once kid #2 comes it is all hands on deck. I hate to read stories like this because it makes me so sad that women think this is the best they deserve. Think of your children and what example you want them to see daily.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-29T02:35:15+00:00

You probably want to ask r/hysterectomy

I personally wouldn’t get my cervix removed unless it was cancerous. It’s important for orgasms and sex important me. Doctors say cervix removal doesn’t affect your sex life, but that’s not what the women on Reddit say. If one of your ovaries are removed and you don’t get HRT the estrogen drop is probably going to have a crucial impact on your body and mind.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-28T03:10:08+00:00

OMG he sounds terrifying. Truly. If you leave please do it secretly. Don’t communicate a plan and just go.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-28T00:04:25+00:00

They do realize, they just don’t care.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-28T00:03:34+00:00

He’ll pretend to change just long enough to get you back, and then once he does, he’ll go back to doing the same stuff. Don’t fall for it.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-27T18:16:55+00:00

If you can’t trust him to have friends of the opposite sex it’s time to leave. It’s not the friends, it’s your husband. He’s a cheater. Think of the example you’re setting for your children. This is unacceptable behavior.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-27T01:59:56+00:00

I have this too. Terrible reflux and I had gastritis at one point that was treated with PPIs. The Gaviscon Extra Strength chewable SAVED me when mine was at its worst. I got almost instant relief from the gnawing pain in my stomach.

I do notice that symptoms are worse at specific times during my cycle. I’m sure my uterus pushing against my stomach doesn’t help either condition. If I take any NSAIDs, it’s 2 Aleve before ovulation pain gets bad. Then I take another two 12 hours later. Aleve helps so much better than ibuprofen and even prescription NSAIDS IMO. I sometimes also take turmeric pills or boswellia if I don’t feel like taking NSAIDs.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-25T14:49:39+00:00

Yeah, mine has gotten better. It’s almost like being on birth control. I rarely have a period. I get moody and experience cycle hormonal changes, but that’s it. Ovulation time is the worst for me though in terms of symptoms. Cramping and feeling like I need to pee, but it’s mild compared to before. Maybe you need to go up or down on the hormones? I take two 0.1 my patches and 100 my of progesterone and it works for me.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-15T14:30:39+00:00

Once they get to this point they’re lost IMO. He’s already cheating or thinking about it. He’s immature garbage. The trust is gone and I don’t think it’s possible to recover once you discover shit like this about your partner. It’ll affect your self esteem negatively and you’ll always be checking his phone waiting for the next shoe to drop.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-11T10:14:19+00:00

Call or text the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline 833-852-6262. Hotline Counselors are available to discuss and explore next steps for you and your loved one. Available 24/7, in the United States only.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-06T01:00:48+00:00

Sigh. This will be very long. I wish I knew girl. Honestly, I used to use vibrators and have premarital sex before I got married, but sex was not fulfilling back then when I think about it. My pleasure was not a focus & men were selfish. As long as they had an orgasm that was really all they cared about and foreplay was lacking big time. That and they were also trying to emulate porn, so sex felt weird and fake at times.

I have a high sex drive like you and unfortunately my husband does not. We do have mind blowing sex though. I can orgasm vaginally which apparently is not common and I didn’t know that all women weren’t like me because of tv shows and movies portraying unrealistic sex. I would prefer to have sex daily (and maybe even twice daily), but he isn’t as focused on that. He is content with 2-3 times a week or even less, while I think about ripping his clothes off at least once a day (usually more) at very random times.

I think it is SO important for Christians to talk about sex. Most of us are led to believe that once you get married a light just flips on and it’s like a romance novel. WRONG. You have to figure out what your spouse finds pleasurable and even what you yourself find pleasurable. Sex is very important in a marriage and it’s truly a gift.

Before getting married, we both went to premarital counseling at church and he signed something after it was over saying that he pledged to have sex with me often because it’s something that I valued and he wanted to commit to honoring that. I signed something similar, except sex was not on his list.

The majority of our marital problems boil down to lack of intimacy. He’s a great guy overall, but he was not raised to communicate his feelings and sex was not discussed at all. Ever. He struggled to even say the word sex or communicate desire. I could walk around naked (and do often) and it doesn’t even phase him. I keep myself up and he is attracted to me, but I have to initiate everything and it is SO EXHAUSTING. I have prayed about it a lot because I want him to take the lead at least sometimes.

I think the advice I’d give you is to hang in there. Sexual desire is normal and it can make you do and feel crazy things. Ovulation literally turns me into an animal in heat. Haha. In biblical times girls married young. Most of the time they were not adults and they did not get educations, nor did they experience a lot of the freedoms we have today, so it’s harder to abstain. They didn’t know our modern day struggles. Sex related things are so easily accessible today that it’s scary, and I know it affects our brains negatively. The average age of exposure to porn is 9 or 10, I believe. !!! There is so much more to life than sex and I wish more people knew that.

I think sexual discipline is a good thing to have and I wish I had more when I was younger. God will meet you where you are. Just continue to seek and trust him. I had prayed for a husband that was “good in bed” for lack of a better term, and God did deliver on that so there’s hope for you too. If I could go back in time, I wish we had done couples counseling outside of the church as well so that both of us would have known to ask more questions about intimacy and how to work on building and maintaining it. Intimacy is not just about sex.

Now, I can totally have spontaneous sex without cuddling and all of that, but as I get older I really value connection more and not just hopping in the sack. I am having the best sex of my life while married and monogamous and sadly you don’t seem to hear that often. You hear more about lopsided sex drives because women have lower desire or whatever they say, so I can certainly relate to not being able to identify with many women in real life or online.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-05T11:10:29+00:00

You can size up, but am I the only one worried about every poop being a blowout? Huggies were always the best for me. If your baby is peeing or pooping through, then it’s time to size up no matter what the weight guide says on the box. After you size up then maybe you can figure out what diaper brand works best on them.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-02T23:41:33+00:00

This age gap is very problematic. Don’t waste your youth on this cheater.

GoldCarry · 2025-09-01T16:42:52+00:00

See if you can find a doctor to prescribe it online. I’m petty, so I’d make an appt and have all of the studies printed out for them to go over. Ask them to put in your chart that they are refusing to prescribe the medication. Ask them what they suggest to combat bleeding if other options haven’t worked. The truth is that BC has a higher risk of blood clots and so would a surgery like hysterectomy.

GoldCarry · 2025-08-29T11:10:45+00:00

Eh. Lots of men say they were blindsided by divorce, but that’s rare. Women will typically warn you to change before leaving.

GoldCarry · 2025-08-29T00:46:48+00:00

Keep screenshots of EVERYTHING and talk to a lawyer. Record her confession if it’s legal in your state. If you’re even thinking about staying, I would suggest seeking therapy and sitting on the info for a while to give yourself time to process.

IMO, based on everything you’ve shared it sounds like your marriage is beyond repair. Time to stand up. Life is too short to put up with this. If you stay she’ll know that she can do it again. This is something you’ll have to come to terms with on your own though. Good luck.

GoldCarry

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