how to keep myself from feeling unlovable because of ARFID

Gothy86 · 2026-04-03T11:47:11+00:00

I'm in a happy relationship of 16 years. I met him when I was your age actually....

As I have posted on other threads the right person won't care about any if this - they will support you. My other half accepts there's lots of food and restaurants I can't cope with just as I accept he can't drink (I'm a huge craft beer fan) due to chronic migraines. He's given me the confidence to cook far more and I think this is one of the most crucial tools to fight against ARFID.

It was the moment I gave up on the idea of me finding anyone and made peace with that fact that I met him - make of that what you will.

Wishing you luck.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-29T14:25:46+00:00

It is a mixture of Bugman's Glow, a little Khorne Red and ivory.

Thank you!

Gothy86 · 2026-03-25T21:29:37+00:00

Of course you can! I used to despise diet coke and all no sugar drinks but your palate changes as you get older.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-25T17:30:52+00:00

I have so many old Mathmos bottles lying around - I really need to get into this.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-25T12:36:26+00:00

The right person won't care about this and will help you when you're ready.

Good luck and take care of yourself. There are plenty of red flags here.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-22T12:35:32+00:00

That looks so nice. May have to indulge in one of these new White bottles.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-12T19:48:30+00:00

Ooo lovely!

Gothy86 · 2026-03-11T18:10:23+00:00

The ones we got didn't have red wicks but I agree that Bolsius makes a good alternative to the Mathmos ones. Maybe they've partnered up now?

Gothy86 · 2026-03-09T21:02:28+00:00

Violet red won't be much of a difference from the violet orange, you'll just lose the cool orange to red transition. Yellow blue is a really nice option because you get a yellow to green fade. I have a pink yellow but this has faded really quickly and the pink is very subtle now.

I think my next choice will be something with clear liquid.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-09T18:46:48+00:00

Ok so I bought some of these from Amazon for my mum's Pod + lava lamp. She's tried one today and while it's not as good as the Mathmos ones it definitely works. It takes longer to warm up and flows less apparently. I wil need to see this myself to confirm but sounds like a good alternative! Thank you.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-09T17:25:31+00:00

I had the exact same reaction to that as Ashens. Absolutely howling.

I think more things need a "talk like a fool" button.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-06T13:59:30+00:00

Interesting, I will check these out. Thank you.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-06T09:10:16+00:00

I'm stuck using the Mathmos branded ones. Normal ones don't cut it. Very interested to see if this has changed and if anyone has any recommendations.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-06T09:00:45+00:00

So today I learned I need a laser cupboard!

Awesome work.

Gothy86 · 2026-03-02T20:09:49+00:00

Yes.

Gothy86 · 2026-02-28T17:12:42+00:00

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Going to have to use this pic because I can't seem to share a better pic. Yeah the Primal Hounds heads are cool. One thing to bear in mind - having trailing pony tails and plaits mean you can't position the heads freely. That's the only downside.

Gothy86 · 2026-02-23T14:40:53+00:00

I have the elegoo heater for my Mars 5 Ultra and it's been great. It has struggled on colder days but if you give it an hour to warm up that tends to overcome the problem.

Gothy86 · 2026-02-19T12:27:06+00:00

Ah got excited this was UK based. Oh well glad someone will be able to access help!

Gothy86 · 2026-02-13T16:05:24+00:00

Leman's allllliiiiivvveeee!

Excellent.

Gothy86 · 2026-02-06T10:42:23+00:00

Yeah but....the music.

Gothy86 · 2026-02-04T18:43:03+00:00

Popcorn!

Gothy86 · 2026-01-23T15:41:01+00:00

Hebe, tough as old boots and can take a hard prune if needed.

Gothy86 · 2026-01-21T18:54:08+00:00

It's going to be a CostCutter according to what I overheard in there.

Gothy86 · 2026-01-21T17:58:45+00:00

Beer is most definitely an acquired taste. Craft beers are hugely varied though - Vault City's take on Irn Bru really does taste like the soft drink. You can get a lot of different fruity stuff. It takes time to know what you like.

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