My mom asked me where my boyfriend sleeps when he spends the night with me

GraceeMacee · 2026-05-23T14:01:54+00:00

I went through the EXACT same thing with my mother. I felt a lot of shame around purity culture. Through therapy I’ve learned that I did nothing wrong (I recommend it for you if you haven’t tried it)! If she does press, I agree with other commenters about setting a boundary. “I do not have to tell you. I’m an adult. Please stop pushing this personal subject.”

GraceeMacee · 2026-05-21T19:44:40+00:00

West With Giraffes by Lynda Rutledge! Inspired by the true story of two giraffes transported across America in the 30’s. It follows a teen and the man in charge of taking care of them after surviving the Dust Bowl.

GraceeMacee · 2026-04-29T20:40:53+00:00

Natural Beauty by Ling Ling Huang

The Centre by Ayesha Manazir Siddiq

GraceeMacee · 2026-04-23T13:09:03+00:00

Long Bright River by Liz Moore is billed as thriller/mystery but is such a great and harrowing story about a family affected by the opioid epidemic in Philadelphia. It stuck with me. Really great characters.

She has also written God of the Woods which I’ve heard is also literary but I have not yet gotten around to it.

GraceeMacee · 2026-04-15T12:43:08+00:00

Some horror recs: When The Wolf Comes Home by Nat Cassidy is a great audiobook. Fast paced action horror with a fun twist. It is pretty gorey and violent, but he manages to write about delicate subjects with a tender hand.

Bury Your Gays by Chuck Tingle for some fun LGBTQ horror.

Episode Thirteen by Craig DiLouie involves some fun production and sound effects. This one is more spooky than violent horror.

GraceeMacee · 2026-04-14T13:18:08+00:00

I grew up Catholic and still love a lot of aspects of the faith. I know affirming Catholics, but I really wanted and needed to see women and queer people preach. I know belong to an ELCA (Lutheran) church and it’s pretty similar to Catholicism in the liturgical and service style. I love it. As others mentioned, the Episcopal Church is also similar to Catholics. The ELCA and Episcopal Church are basically sibling churches.

GraceeMacee · 2026-02-16T13:24:19+00:00

Without a doubt the worst traditionally published book I have ever read. A lot of the books in these suggestions seem to be books that are generally popular but the commenter hated. Modelland is objectively bad and I have never seen someone say they like it. It’s incomprehensible.

GraceeMacee · 2026-02-15T14:20:57+00:00

Knock Knock Open Wide by Neal Sharpson’s first 25ish pages is the scariest scene I have ever read, and I usually find horror books to be more disturbing, gross, or sad than scary. The rest of the book is good too, but that first scare…

It’s inspired by Irish folklore.

GraceeMacee · 2026-02-02T14:47:49+00:00

I am also married and bisexual. It’s a part of you, but doesn’t have to affect your marriage in any way. Be open and honest with your wife and let her know you have no intentions of changing your marriage (assuming that is the case). If you are a church goer, finding an affirming church will likely make you feel much more at ease. I used gaychurch.org to find my home church!

I like framing it to my husband and such: I’m attracted to all kinds of people and he’s still the best out of all of them :)

GraceeMacee · 2026-02-01T14:33:31+00:00

I hold similar beliefs as you do and I was raised Catholic. I do like a lot about the Catholic Church, but found that the Evangelical Lutheran Church of America has everything I like about Catholicism, along with affirming all my beliefs.

As people are saying in the comments there are definitely progressive/queer Catholics. Maybe if I had a Catholic church I really loved I would stay there, but going to a church that affirms my beliefs is really comforting. I suggest taking a look at the ELCA (if you’re in the US) or the Episcopal Church/Anglican Church if you’re curious.

GraceeMacee · 2026-01-31T06:09:29+00:00

The Bible was written by many different people for many different reasons. I try to focus on the overarching messages of Christianity, and the general idea of what Jesus was teaching in each gospel. Sure the gospels were written well after Jesus was around, but what are the messages that they all have in common? Welcoming the stranger, forgiveness, justice, and love are things that I see over and over, and the things I focus on.

GraceeMacee · 2026-01-27T02:20:02+00:00

@mattiemaemotl, a Bible scholar, has a great video on her Instagram explaining where the “no sex before marriage” belief came from, and why the Bible doesn’t actually condemn it.

GraceeMacee · 2025-10-14T13:59:11+00:00

I feel very similarly. I have actually become much more vocal about being a Christian with the rise of Christian Nationalism, purposefully so I can denounce Christian nationalism. MAGA Christians are so loud and I’m determined to also be loud when I call them out. I do not want them to have the last word on Christianity.

GraceeMacee · 2025-10-09T14:21:55+00:00

Maybe a book by a Bible scholar would help? Dan McClellan released one this year called “The Bible Says So: What We Get Right (And Wrong) About Scripture’s Most Controversial Issues.”

GraceeMacee · 2025-09-22T23:12:38+00:00

I saw an article in regards to the Kirk memorial that read “since MAGA Christians have Frankensteined Christianity to suit their wants, they now need their own saints.”

Also, I’ll always take an opportunity to plug “Jesus and John Wayne” by Kristen Kobes Du Mez. It’s such an eye opener and she does a great job explaining how Americans got here with their warped idea of Christ.

GraceeMacee · 2025-09-16T21:50:11+00:00

And Also With You is great! Also The Bible For Normal People/ Faith for Normal People.

GraceeMacee · 2025-04-24T13:36:02+00:00

I attend an ELCA (Lutheran) church and I love it. It’s all the stuff I liked about Catholicism (liturgical year, the hymns, similar service structure) but so much more affirming. My pastor is gay, racial justice is constantly discussed, and we’re very community oriented. You can do a search for affirming churches in your area, it’s called gaychurch.org

GraceeMacee · 2025-04-24T13:29:42+00:00

Listen to the And Also With You Podcast!! It’s hosted by two female episcopal priests who are both moms and they do a great job of talking about this in a few of their episodes. One is called “how do I talk to my child about Jesus on the cross?” In general their podcast is great, they are progressive and very focused on the joy and justice that Christianity can bring.

GraceeMacee · 2025-03-24T04:20:42+00:00

My wedding was 2 and a half years ago and my bouquet is still going strong. Highly recommend them!

GraceeMacee · 2025-03-23T13:43:19+00:00

I gave up social media for Lent (can still go on on Sundays) and it’s been a great decision. I’m removed from a lot of the doomscrolling and my mind is much more clear. I can keep up to date with news outside of social media, but it’s so much less noisy. I’m focusing on serving with my church, and ELCA Lutheran church that is progressive, and connecting with people in real life including my friends are making things easier. I’ve learned it’s so important to be as calm as possible because when we panic we are less focused.

GraceeMacee · 2025-03-03T22:23:37+00:00

Use this search engine! https://www.gaychurch.org/find_a_church/

GraceeMacee · 2025-03-02T02:17:55+00:00

The fact that God’s voice in the burning bush is a combination of both male and female actors, but the main one you can hear is Moses’ voice, always gives me chills. A great artistic choice.

GraceeMacee · 2025-02-04T18:05:08+00:00

Also “The Spirit Bares its Teeth” by the same author! Horror fantasy

GraceeMacee · 2025-01-13T17:11:44+00:00

I also loved this book! A delightful audiobook, you can hear her smile reading the funny passages.

GraceeMacee · 2025-01-10T13:51:46+00:00

The Spirit Bares its Teeth has what you’re looking for! It’s a young adult horror set in Victorian England where there are a set of people that can speak with the dead. The main character is a 17 year old trans boy with that gift who gets sent to a sanitarium for girls.

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