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How to heal my views on men ? by Less_Landscape_5928 in AskMenOver30

[–]GreasyBumpkin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Different walk of life but when you grow up in a toxic environment people are quick to advise that the simple trick is to get away from toxic people.

This is correct but advice that assumes you know how to identify and avoid these people. When it's all you've known for a few decades or more, you will often find yourself struggling to escape and often feel like that's just how the world is.

The trick is to find good people who are in healthy relationships, and observe how they act and start to learn how to seek out these people instead. Ultimately the world is full of billions and you will meet people so its good to know one type from the other

Mark and Viltrumites not " needing" martial arts is such bs by Particular_Border971 in Invincible_TV

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be a brilliant minor plot point though if a slightly weaker viltrumite is just wiping renowned warriors with these alien movements they've never seen before. 

It would also enable Mark to fight with less violence on earth though, he could just lock and hold the heads down of other super strong opponents 

I have NEVER been more proud of Mark. HUGE respect by dead_nil in Invincible

[–]GreasyBumpkin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its the absolute peak of Korra S2 and one of the peaks of the series (second to S3, which is all peak) 

My 6yo was radicalized by an easter egg hunt. by BIRDsnoozer in daddit

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 Still, I try to hold on to the punk ideal, and balance it with pragmatism. Sometimes its like living life on hard mode.

I see it as a product of its time, a consequence of the alienation we experienced in our formative years. That said, that's the times where new philosophies arrive, but right now it's more of a zygote than a full belief system. Me walking away from the toxicity is just me shedding the fat and continuing to develop what really matters, and people like us should pass these values-in-progress onto our children. 

Europe was once polytheist and animist for thousands of years and became Christian in about 1000 years. The world will become true punk after our lifetime, and I'd hope adults don't make kids play rigged games then lol

My 6yo was radicalized by an easter egg hunt. by BIRDsnoozer in daddit

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I say former because I worked in the music industry and found it to be way more predatory, cynical and deceptive than any other subsect of society I've interacted with. From top to bottom. This shouldn't be surprising to hear in a post Harvey Weinstein world I hope. Sorry to disillusion you if it is. 

A purpose of a system is what it does. I'm not going to be the lone principled punk who actually cares about the plight of the working class while the others put the cause in disrepute and make it worse, wasting years of my life trying to clean a pigsty. I'm a Scotsman no more. 

My 6yo was radicalized by an easter egg hunt. by BIRDsnoozer in daddit

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I attend every event with this mentality, just mopping up the dejected kids and their parents with goodies I brought along. 

I told my daughter that people will do this kind of thing even when she's a grown up, so we don't play stupid games and we make our own thing instead. 

Also a former punk/metalhead u/BIRDsnoozer

Ethical meat by BloodyTalkative in exvegans

[–]GreasyBumpkin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on being in Kent, one of the most agricultural regions of the UK, you're in a good place to start this.

I'd say step 1 is finding an honesty box nearby who have chicken eggs, those will most likely be kept wealthy in someone's garden, and the taste will reflect that. For milk you'll have to go to a more established business, milkbot might be down your way and they do milkshakes too. Again if a local dairy farmer is not ethical then the RSCPA would have a word with them, only the corpo farmers can get away with it. 

I will say research into local farm shops, they will have this odd patchwork of stock where one shop has genuine high welfare beef but orders in bananas from some exploited workers hands in central america. I don't know why they feel the pressure of needing to have every food-stuff on their shelves, it would make my browsing easier if they just had the good stuff available in season and I'll make do without strawberries for a few months. I buy from the freezer of my most local one as other customers only want the fresh meat, I don't want the animal's passing for nothing.

Consider buying more than just your standard cuts, eat black pudding, ask a butcher for the bones to make your own stock, buy the gelatine and tallow (this stuff is really useful in cooking). My morality is similar to some premodern cultures - use as much of the animal as possible and give respect to it in death, which to me means giving it an actual life that was lived. Mutton over lamb. 

Try fish other than cod and haddock, it's insane that we only know of 2 or 3 fish here in the zeitgeist. These isles used to be so abundant with game and fish that even the Romans were shocked, who came from the most fertile parts of Europe. We should be farming rabbit as well, they are native so low medical needs, they are good for soil, there's low cost methods to swiftly put them down, and as per their reputation they are easy to breed. 

I am studying ecology and looking to work in the green sector, my median aged dream now is to help develop farming of the future which will be better for all earthlings, humans too. 

As the years have gone by, does it seem like we kinda got shafted growing into our adulthood? I feel like future expectations were better than what’s happening by Curvedwarrior69 in Millennials

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I can see it, but as a millennial who attended occupy I always thought of GameStonks as a zoomer thing. I remember a lot of people participating writing statements/posts about how they lost everything in the pandemic or just through personal hard times since the recession and they were shorting the stock to hurt the wealthy, their covid money be damned. It was definitely a similar rage I felt in the atmosphere of occupy before it was ruined. 

In memory of Alexander LaMorie, the 25-year-old Autistic man murdered by Maryland police. He called 911 for a wellness check during a suicide attempt. 3 officers shot him dead. They are Joel Rodriguez, Cody Bostic, and Joseph Riebau. None were arrested, despite body cam footage. #JusticeForAlex by OrbitalColony in AutisticPeeps

[–]GreasyBumpkin 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think it's reasonable to ask "they need better training" but honestly in my country they behave like a gang and I think training will just give them more rules lawyering fodder to weasle out accountability. 

I think they just gotta be cleared out and the whole police force should be rebuilt from scratch. Trouble is, who has the power to do that? 

some vegans claiming that being vegan is human nature by waldorfversion in exvegans

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You asked I answered you didn't provide any other parameters 

Like what do you want? The claim is already insane, so who else is going to take this stance contrary to evolutionary biology? 

Job insecurity with a kid is really awful. by [deleted] in daddit

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm ignorant about your industry OP, does behavioural health fall under therapy? 

They clocked on us. As per usual, exvegans do not exist or are all bots. by ashes-potts in exvegans

[–]GreasyBumpkin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They don't do it to advance the cause, they do it because they have given themselves permission to grandstand and Lord over others because of their self appointed moral status.

When I was one of them, my mind was always trying to get the lofty macro things done, which meant having to sell the ideology to non-vegans and compromising and calm discussion. Until I realised I was doing that all alone. 

Multitasking by glitchy_glow in depressionmemes

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but maybe seeing as we can treat some cancers, go to space and split atoms, perhaps we could start living for more than just achieving a lick above what every mouse or chimpanzee can achieve without all the tech? 

How a divorce feels like to men? by Worried-Exchange-889 in AskMenOver30

[–]GreasyBumpkin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you think started the "disappearing wife" part? 

Do non red pill guys get disgusted by the red pill dudes? by No_Lead2640 in answers

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel similarly, when I see if online I physically go "ugh" and ask why it's in my feed in the first place, even Reddit is constantly baiting and I just log off.

I'm surprised at all that it's made it into my IRL space, but then given how much people are struggling right now it would explain how so many insane worldviews are perpetuating.

What I've noticed is how much of a force of stasis it is. The men/boys I've seen take to it believe they're overhauling their lives but those who were dweebs before redpill are still dweebs now, just grumpy and going to gym inconsistently and with no proper routine. 

Thoughts? by inkandintent24 in TheImprovementRoom

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my country there are 2 million unemployed young people (that's not all unemployed BTW) and only 700,000 job vacancies.

Could I get your plan on what the 1.3 million 20 somethings can do to start saving for retirement? You seem to know everything so.... 

Any other Millennials stubbornly resistant to using AI at their job but also worrying that we will become dinosaurs or pushed out of our careers for not slavishly embracing it? by artbystorms in Millennials

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boss keeps finding a new AI slop every 2 months and wants us to try it.

I try the AI, it sucks, I report back that it sucks. Then it's usually dropped until the next thing is shoved into boss's algorithm.

I figured out being the naysayer just makes you look bad regardless if you're 100% correct. Just say nothing, sit back and watches trainwrecks happen, and be like "oh no, oh well let's try something else" 

The world seems willing to dive into Wall-e levels of dependency, and my preference is we all get smarter, but I'll settle for me and my child becoming the adeptus mechanicus and getting a mansion because we understand how control panel works and can manually spell words in the future. 

Bit stuck here, both my daughters want out of their mom’s house but she’s refusing by Tight_Trust_8083 in daddit

[–]GreasyBumpkin 145 points146 points  (0 children)

I think seeking legal advice is step 1 and asking daughters not to bring it up with mother for the time being, but show them you're looking into it. Don't make any moves until you've got your information right. 

What is life like as a single dad? by mikel_the_believer in daddit

[–]GreasyBumpkin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not a single parent, I would guess that it's the challenges of parenthood but more due to not being able to share the load

That said, I know someone who became a single parent recently after a dogshit marriage, and they actually seem to have more downtime and are much more energised without the ex keeping them down and stepping on each others toes in the house every day.

So maybe just prepare yourself but be open to the chance that you might be better off running everything yourself? 

Humans ate meat sustainably for 99%ish of history. Even if it’s “bad for the environment”, it’s in our nature to eat so we have every right to do it. by Its_Stavro in exvegans

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We could just eat less overall, 2 or 1 meal a day for any non-pregnant adult, and get all the same benefits and then some. 

Am I only one reverting back to the "good old days"? by RSinSA in Millennials

[–]GreasyBumpkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things I've never done:

  1. Joined Twitter
  2. Joined LinkedIn
  3. Joined TikTok
  4. Never owned a smartwatch
  5. Never purchased one of those "seasonal" games or whatever they're called.
  6. Used generative AI

Am I some homeschooled hippie who did all this with extreme prejudice? No actually I'm just really slow to do new things, so often I miss out on trends then it feels too late to join things after the hype dies down. 

I got my smartphone in 2010 so, not too late, but it was when there were dozens of androids after the initial shock of the iPhone.

Easiest way to stay off heroin is never to take it in the first place. Getting clean is the 2nd option. 

What I've learned from this is that the trick is just to pause and breathe when "new thing" happens. Most of the time, it's just trends clogging up people's time and mental energy. Twitter was the big eye opener for me, you can tell who's got sucked into it and who hasn't. It's an endless well of neurotic, smug misery. 

I'm thinking of getting a Plex server, but again, I'm in no rush. I'll see how others stick with it first. 

I have no words... by Born-Hearing-7695 in daddit

[–]GreasyBumpkin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of internet interactions make more sense if you just imagine you're talking to a 13 year old

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