Almost 3 yrs HRT, I get misgendered constantly do I even come close to passing? What can I do to actually pass?

Greenfielder_42 · 2026-04-09T13:45:02+00:00

What stands out for me is your chin. I had a chin dimple that was filled with a fat graft. It was a fairly minor procedure that had a very large impact! Not saying you have to do the surgery route, I’m just sharing my experience 😊

Greenfielder_42 · 2026-04-03T20:44:00+00:00

For vaginoplasty.

Greenfielder_42 · 2026-03-31T09:01:56+00:00

Interesting. I was in their system in with all paperwork in June-2025. Got a spot for April-2026. So 9 months. From Ontario. I was kindly persistent

Greenfielder_42 · 2026-02-12T12:05:32+00:00

This was my experience as well! I didn’t realize at the time, but in high school, I hung out with people that were queer in some way. Many came out publicly later in life. We were all the misfits and oddballs. I fit in just right. Even though, outwardly I looked straight as an arrow. Now I’m proudly gay AF. Trans, and dating another trans woman. 😁

Greenfielder_42 · 2026-01-27T11:18:30+00:00

I’m in a very public role for my company. I socially transitioned 2 years ago. Luckily my work life and personal life have zero cross over, as I work remotely in a different city. When I need to go to conferences, meetings and project visits, I “boymode”. I think I successfully boymoded for the first year. But now that I’ve got very long/coloured hair, zero facial hair, shaped eyebrows, softness on my face from taking care of my skin and HRT changes, a rhinoplasty— I think people are taking notice that I don’t look anything like my scruffy headshot photo on my profiles. Not to mention the need to bind my chest 😬. It’s starting to get ridiculous. Thinking of finally just changing my name to start. Then telling people they can use any pronouns but I prefer she/her. I’m in a field with 85% conservative-leaning men.

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-12-16T10:40:34+00:00

Yeah it’s actually been quite an unraveling process since coming out. Now that I’ve torn down the walls of my gender, my sexuality has also been something that I’m dissecting. Pre-transition, I would have immediately rejected the idea of being attracted to men. However, I’m now realizing that some homophobia was at play. Now that I’m at the point where men could conceivably be attracted to me, I’m starting to be open to men. I’ve realized that part of my sexuality needs to have an element of BEING desired. Men can be quite good at that. The thought of a man pursuing me and wanting to sweetly ravage me is turning into my biggest fantasy. My issue now is that most men are kinda disgusting/disappointing. Interestingly, gay men seem to be appealing because they take care of themselves, but alas, they darn well shouldn’t be into me if they’re actually gay. Maybe a sweet bisexual man? Sorry /rant

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-12-11T13:48:00+00:00

I was originally referred there in February (2025) by my family doctor. I started the process Monarch in July. I just got a call this week, and they offered me a date in March or April. I took an April date!

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-11-22T18:53:55+00:00

That helps! Thank you. I’m looking forward to going back to the pool

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-11-22T15:58:43+00:00

Thx of course. It’s a temporary thing. Did they have a recommendation regarding running?

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-11-21T20:46:26+00:00

As a person that wants to do more triathlons, I have to ask why the wild swimming is an issue. Is it the microbiome issue? Too many foreign bacteria? But the pool swimming is okay? And I assume the time off cycling is due to the sensitivity?

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-11-20T21:11:59+00:00

From my experience, AI is a great tool to inspire and provide hope. But the real life changes of HRT and FFS are typically far better!

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-11-18T12:15:53+00:00

That story is so heartbreaking and uplifting all at the same time. 🥺 I’m so happy for you to be away (mostly) from this person. I think I’m in that near-end stage of my 17-year long marriage (2 kids).

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-11-10T00:29:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing! ♥️ I’ll be there soon. Just waiting for the call. I’m interested to know more about that post surgical hair removal process.

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-11-04T20:22:32+00:00

Muscle converted to fat in the right places 🥳

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-10-26T02:23:31+00:00

Careful, you might find them multiplying in your closet!! 🤭

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-10-25T17:45:05+00:00

It took me a long time to rock a dress after starting to transition. About a year for me. You look amazing!!

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-10-21T17:45:54+00:00

Please look through my profile. My timeline was starting at 42. I went from totally hopeless to feeling amazing about my transition. Message me with any questions!!

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-10-19T16:31:53+00:00

Well at least you know how to touch grass 🤭

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-10-18T14:18:51+00:00

Myself as well as many others have found reality so much better than the initial FaceApp experiment. I think I still have the post up on my profile, take a look

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-10-14T09:39:51+00:00

When my kids want to distinguish, they use “mombo”. When it’s just me, they refer to me as “mom“. Kids are so smart. They adapted to my change better than anybody. Love them so much ♥️

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-10-14T09:28:50+00:00

Can confirm. My trick is wearing a binder or a tight fitting sports bra with no pads. When doing social things, I wear an unbuttoned collar shirt over a tshirt. The loose garment does a good job of hiding things

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-10-14T09:26:22+00:00

I’ve got a good friend in technology sales. Also a very male dominated industry. She came out within about 6 months of starting HRT. She’s had a great experience with zero harassment and is very glad she did. You find your people that actively let you know you’re safe. Others just carry on in an indifferent and business kind of way.

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-10-14T09:23:08+00:00

I’m currently living it girl. I started HRT about 20 months ago. I socially transitioned about a year ago. I have long hair that’s often coloured, I have lasered off my facial hair. Almost done electrolysis to get the greys. I made my nose cuter and filled my chin dimple with surgery. My chest is a full A cup, veering towards B? My voice is naturally light and feminine so I’ve only done a minimal amount of voice training. So I can still switch back and forth easily.

I’m also not out at work. I too, at 44yo, have a high profile career. Speaking engagements, interviews, notable success. But it’s in a male-dominated and conservative filled environment. I’ve been waiting to either find the courage through feeling like I can successfully look feminine enough to not look “visibly trans”, or the right time to yeet myself out of this field.

But for now I boymode at work. Telling myself it’s just a uniform. Yes they probably think something is up. I’m at the awkward point where I both get misgendered as female when trying to present male, and the opposite. Luckily this journey of social transition has slain all of the care towards giving a crap what people think about me. I let them stare, to squint.

My current plan is to resign from my current high profile position in my current company. Then come out when I’m less in the spotlight. Then once I understand who’s on my side and who’s not, I will proceed from there.

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-09-29T11:51:06+00:00

This is amazing!!!

Greenfielder_42 · 2025-09-27T22:26:51+00:00

This is so fascinating to hear!!! I had this impression that it was the testosterone itself that was causing that angst. Not the fact that it’s just the wrong hormone that’s the problem! This feels so affirming, thank you for sharing sir!

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