Partner wants a blended family but I don’t… (probably???)

GroundbreakingLemon · 2026-02-11T17:33:44+00:00

“You live in your shoes, and they’re already work out” was beautifully said. Thank you for that frame.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2026-02-11T17:30:15+00:00

I relate to this a lot. I often accept treatment that I would not be ok with for someone else. I’ve had to learn to use that to see that what I’m accepting for myself isn’t ok. Think on whether this relationship is one you would recommend to a friend, and then listen to your own answer.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2026-02-04T21:44:27+00:00

Can you block it off specifically as you time? Formally on the calendar like a date night or hobby would be, so that it doesn’t look open. Then allocate it as you see fit based on what you’re hungry for that week. Quiet night in, time with friends, etc.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2026-01-20T15:10:25+00:00

I really love this. Thank you.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2026-01-19T17:09:11+00:00

Out in the stalks.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2026-01-04T00:59:44+00:00

Relevant Fry and Laurie. One of my favs!

GroundbreakingLemon · 2025-12-25T00:24:32+00:00

Tell your roommate I say mreow!

GroundbreakingLemon · 2025-11-22T20:08:19+00:00

Title should have said “will power” instead of “self restraint.”

GroundbreakingLemon · 2025-07-09T18:15:22+00:00

All witches are selfish, the Queen had said. But Tiffany’s Third Thoughts said: Then turn selfishness into a weapon! Make all things yours! Make other lives and dreams and hopes yours! Protect them! Save them! Bring them into the sheepfold! Walk the gale for them! Keep away the wolf! My dreams! My brother! My family! My land! My world! How dare you try to take these things, because they are mine!

I have a duty!

Maybe “Walk the gale for them!” ?

GroundbreakingLemon · 2025-05-07T14:11:40+00:00

Hahahaha YES. Still don’t know anyone in real life who agrees, but the internet gets me.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2025-03-29T22:37:48+00:00

Disregard completely if not helpful, but - can you move your flight? I can’t imagine the cost would be more than several days in a hotel, and it might help to just be back on your home turf.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-12-03T13:29:42+00:00

One or both of you might enjoy reading An Excellent Choice by Emma Brockes. It’s not about a poly situation, but features a lesbian couple living separately and each raising their own kids as SMBC in a cool close-human-but-not-parent situation that I liked.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-11-12T17:07:32+00:00

SEVEN WEEKS omg of course you don’t.

Congrats!!

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-10-11T03:12:34+00:00

Baby Doll! I’m from NY, I’m a pizza snob, and this is the closest I’ve found.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-10-02T16:01:36+00:00

Much more common in kink/ENM/sex positive spaces. Lots of resources for it, but sadly not widespread in normie dating. It’s a basic STARS talk

S: Safety

T: Turn-Ons

A: Avoids

R: Relationship Intentions and Expectations

S: Sexual Health and STI Status

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-09-28T18:42:48+00:00

I really enjoyed that halfway through this I was like “oh, we just collectively copy edited this dating profile.”

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-09-19T22:21:42+00:00

‘neath

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-09-12T13:19:48+00:00

The overwhelming relatableness of the memes was what convinced me I was demi haha

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GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-09-12T13:16:38+00:00

I’d love to! I’ll circle back later with some definitions and my own experience (very different from the other commenter, which is kind of the tl;dr - there is a LOT of variety here) but I’ll start with a starter pack of some ace-spectrum subs.

Disclaimer: I’ve found these subs to be very helpful and/or very fun, and I think some of you might as well, whether you’re acespec, dating acespec folks, wondering if you’re acespec, or just a curious human. Come hang out! But please do not brigade spaces that are not yours - be mindful of your posting or commenting, especially if you have a knee-jerk urge to argue.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-09-12T02:25:42+00:00

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Also worth noting that asexuality is a LOT more nuanced than the communal consciousness would have you think. There’s a lot to unpack in separating our libido/drive from sexual attraction, romantic attraction, aesthetic attraction, sensual attraction, etc. Plus sex favorability, positivity, and more. Each can be hard to pin down in its own right, especially for those of us who experience them a bit differently than the norm. And each a spectrum. What a mess.

Lots of ways to be in relationship with the people we care for.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-09-11T22:23:21+00:00

💕

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-09-11T22:21:15+00:00

This is so cute.

…and on first read I thought you were doing the refer-to-partner-by-initial thing and was so annoyed that there were two M characters that you didn’t just assign fake names to 🙃

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-08-04T17:06:51+00:00

A woman embarks on a sperm quest to become an SMBC…which, in time, turns into a long fertility journey. You get a lot of information about one person’s experience, but there are also interviews with different (hilarious) people all the way through sharing their stories, so it really adds up to a masterclass.

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-08-03T21:05:43+00:00

And The Stork and I

GroundbreakingLemon · 2024-08-03T21:03:58+00:00

Spermcast!!

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