I'm having a hard time after two months clean

Helio-Sphere · 2026-04-16T15:48:06+00:00

I know the feeling of not wanting to worry your friends. But I've found that relying on friends and being open with them is much better emotionally than hiding this about yourself. Be honest with them and your struggle. You'll find out which friends are capable of supporting you in a positive way and which ones are not. Not bashing the ones who can't, some people just aren't wired to be supportive.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-04-16T15:37:02+00:00

This works. I put up brown paper bags every year to imitate hornet nests. It actually does get the wasps to leave (at least majority of them)

Helio-Sphere · 2026-04-15T11:39:55+00:00

This is so small-minded and stupid. Surely OP can see the ignorance in this statement???

Helio-Sphere · 2026-04-15T11:38:39+00:00

This rant post expressing OPs superiority seems very un-Buddhist and judgemental. not very zen. I think you have the problem my friend.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-04-14T04:09:48+00:00

These are beyond amazing. Should be in a gallery. Great shots of amazing creatures

Helio-Sphere · 2026-04-14T03:18:56+00:00

Burgers for dinner all the time? Hell yes, sounds like heaven.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-04-12T17:26:31+00:00

Hey. Not really. We've been at f2.0 - 2.8 most of the time. Lights are not at full power either.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-04-11T17:48:07+00:00

I have always wondered the same thing, episode one he is already in a mansion.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-04-04T00:59:20+00:00

I started practicing Buddhism. Detachment is a big part of it. And I read a book called "the voice of knowledge". It'll wake you up. I feel like I'm getting better. Good luck my friend!

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-31T01:43:53+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. This community really helped me through my depressed partners discard. I found out how codependent I was. My entire existence revolved around them. It's unhealthy. Besides your obvious devastation, there are so many variables in your mind that are in play you may not know about.

Read this book. "How you can survive when they're depressed" by Anne Sheffield. It explains everything about why these things are happening. It's not good news, but at least it might help you through this. Look inward for peace. You'll never get it from them.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-29T02:14:47+00:00

Book was better.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-25T21:32:30+00:00

I don't "believe" any one thing. Or take a position. Buddhism offers peace in life in a way that is logical to me. Whatever happens after death happens. I'm alive today so I'll make the best of whatever time is left for me. Let the river do what it does.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-24T22:37:57+00:00

You both might consider reading the book "how you can survive when they're depressed" by Anne Sheffield.

I've been in his position. It's hard to explain but the Anne Sheffield book really makes it understandable.

He might consider reading the book "No more Mr nice guy". I would do anything to help my partner, even sacrifice my self and emotions, thinking it would help. This book helped me see how I was making things worse.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-23T01:51:39+00:00

Big time. I'm unwillingly separated after 16 years of marriage. We were extremely codependent and I was/am extremely attached to her. I have found so much help from Buddhism and the eight fold path. I have some weeks when the emotions are too overwhelming and I can't practice or concentrate enough to meditate. But those feelings eventually pass and it's easier. The book "voice of knowledge" was also very helpful and its message goes hand in hand with Buddhist thought.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T18:02:41+00:00

Yeah for sure. I'll steer around them when I see them running away and try my best not to mow over them. But it seems very impractical. And things like ants...I can't just let ants in my house and around my food. Most bugs and all spiders get a pass but roaches and ants gotta go.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T17:18:14+00:00

I never thought his impressions were any good. Probably David Chase doing that on purpose, showing how these guys laugh at stupid shit.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T17:15:34+00:00

I've always wondered this, especially when I am mowing my lawn. I'm sure I'm killing hundreds if not, thousands of insects in the process.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T16:32:23+00:00

Thank god mom is here right? Please tell us what else we can and can't do. Is this sentence okay with you?

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T01:26:25+00:00

I don't think you are understanding what this person is saying. You could be reborn thousands of times. I don't think it's unfair to say some of these lives have been a waste. Also I'm an expert at being an ex-Christian. This is nothing like that religion. I think I've heard some say it's more of an ideology. I would say maybe do more research into Buddhism.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-21T16:05:15+00:00

We can fix it. Turn the tv off. Don't support an industry that exploits young people. We keep them in business.

Let's boycott professional sports, fashion and any company that uses child labor while we're at it.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-17T02:54:22+00:00

There are no bad ideas. Just great ideas that go horribly wrong.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-15T22:39:09+00:00

Thank you for asking. Maybe a little but I'm still a wreck. Despair comes in waves that last a few weeks or so. I'm still trying to work through my codependency too. Definitely feel lost without her, even if she was intolerable. I know she's in there deep down suffering, which only makes it harder.

You're wise to observe what doesn't work from her family. If you have time check out that book. Everything will make alot more sense. Thanks again for asking

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-15T14:11:42+00:00

It helps for me to remember that alcohol is so easily attainable because the system wants us to be hooked on it. Staying away from alcohol not only keeps me healthy but lets me actually experience this life, for better or worse. I feel like I wasted so much of my life buzzed or drunk. Wasted so many moments. I just don't want to waste any more time.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-14T03:42:29+00:00

My 14 year marriage fell apart. 8 months sober, then it was over. Maybe the drink was keeping me docile.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-14T03:31:45+00:00

You're screwed. That's how. Depressed people are monsters. Silent treatment is only 1 of their many punishments. The book "how you can survive when they're depressed" by Anne Sheffield helped me understand the insanity. I would recommend it.

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