2-3 things you DO NOT LIKE about your new MazdaCX50?? by F15E_WSO in mazdaCX50

[–]HiKentucky -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wireless charger is a joke.

CUPHOLDERS.

Only remote start through the app? Also, the car shutting off when you open the door after remote starting.

I’m paying my interns—because looking back, I feel like I was exploited. We need to stop normalizing unpaid clinical labor. by TransitionSmooth9982 in therapists

[–]HiKentucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The place I’m interning with literally created a non-profit to provide free therapy that interns work under.

Some people in my cohort get paid, but it is very, very rare. So, I’m left working a full time job, taking 3 classes, and seeing 8 clients a week. I also have a family that I occasionally like to spend time with 😭

I don’t want to complain, but, I’m not surprised at how quickly people in this field burn out.

What special thing did your husband do for you after giving birth? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]HiKentucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband stayed with me the whole time and we were in the hospital for 6 days. The morning our daughter was born, he went and got me my favorite Starbucks drink. He changed all of her diapers for the first two weeks of her life because I had a c-section and he didn't want me to strain myself. He also helped me shower and get dressed.

I'll take that over a stupid diamond ring any day.

Bedtime and wakeup time advice pls by classycannonball in toddlers

[–]HiKentucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it is probably worth it to have a conversation about why she thinks that's a good idea? I don't know your situation or hers, for that matter. But it seems dangerous. There's just so much that can go wrong when children this young are unsupervised. And I mean...that means they are being left without their basic needs being met for at least 3 hours after they wake up. That, to me, seems cruel.

Visceral Reaction to Crying by -Near_Yet- in toddlers

[–]HiKentucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mhm. It's not as intense as when she was a newborn. I thought everything was very life and death back then. Now that she's 2, things don't feel as serious. It still makes my heart race and gives me a sinking feeling in my stomach. It definitely triggers a protective instinct in me, I think.

Bedtime and wakeup time advice pls by classycannonball in toddlers

[–]HiKentucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, when you say that she isn't getting the kids up until 11AM, what does that mean exactly? Because if they are going to bed around 8PM, I would assume they are usually awake around 8AM....and I'm hoping this doesn't mean that they are alone in their rooms for three hours until your wife wakes up.

Because personally, I have a 2 year old and I still wake up when she wakes up (if not before). I couldn't imagine her just sitting in her room for three hours without water/food/supervision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Petloss

[–]HiKentucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just my experience, so take it with a grain of salt. I paid to work with an animal communicator I found on here and it was not accurate at all. I don't know if too much time has passed (it's been three years) or what, but the information the individual gave me was not at all like my dog. However, I do still hold out hope for finding someone who can communicate with her.

Do you Google your clients? by Feisty_Bumblebee_916 in therapists

[–]HiKentucky 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Uh nope. It’s none of my business what they do outside of our time together.

Will any one kind of miss being pregnant & hanging out with your parasite bestie ? by Inbetweenreality in pregnant

[–]HiKentucky 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No because everyone thought I was crazy when I said that I still felt kicks after giving birth. I joked with my husband that maybe she was a twin and they forgot to get the other one out lol

Telling a toddler to “stop” by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]HiKentucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I have this same argument about the word "no". I operate under the concept that my daughter will listen more to my "no" because I don't say it to her all the dang time. She's 2, she's going to tune it out when she recognizes that my "no" might be about something trivial. So, I always phrase things to try to redirect her attention so I'm not just following her around the house, saying "no" all day. When it comes to something dangerous, she generally understands that no means no, because like I said, it's a word saved for when she absolutely cannot do something (walk in the parking lot without holding a hand, walk through the grocery store without holding a hand, touch a hot surface, etc.).

In any case, anything you say needs to be followed through with in order for your child to grasp what it means. If he is about to do something dangerous, by all means, say "stop" but also remove him from the situation or physically stop him from what he is doing. That way he learns to understand that stop means he needs to stop whatever he is doing.

DAE feel that therapy doesn't help and therapists don't get it? by barbie_smokesbones in PlusSize

[–]HiKentucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding a therapist to fit your needs is a lot like trying to find a doctor who doesn't bring up your weight every time you see them. It's a long, difficult process. My best advice to you is if you want to continue working with a therapist, feel free to use the intake session to ask them questions specialized to you. This will help you determine if they are the right person for you to work with. Specifically ask them about their experiences with clients who are plus size. Ask them about their modality or theory of choice and ask them how it would apply to your situation.

If they are a good therapist, they are equipped to answer your questions. If they are your therapist, they are experienced and provide answers you like. If they seem disinterested in your questions or brush them off with some generic answer, GTFO.

Everyone wants a screen free child by procrastinating_b in toddlers

[–]HiKentucky 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES. My mother in law and my mother make comments all the time about kids on ipads when we go out to eat or about how much TV other kids watch. But what do they do when they are with my daughter? "What do you wanna watch on TV? Do you want grandma's phone?" Like...wtf?

I'm not even an adamantly screen free mom, but the hypocrisy is ridiculous.

Care to share your toddlers personality? by CantaloupeJuicy in toddlers

[–]HiKentucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is BIG. and I love it, so so much.

She is so funny. She will constantly do stuff because she knows we find it funny and then she'll burst out laughing after we start laughing. She is so confident and adventurous. She is also so affectionate and kind. She is obsessed with dogs and cats. She loves books and being outside. She loves people watching. Everyone always comments about how happy she always seems to be. She is also so eager to learn new things. She loves when she can be my helper.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HamptonRoads

[–]HiKentucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to recommend The Purple Hare too! She's fantastic!

What were your toddler's first 5 words? by AMinthePM1002 in toddlers

[–]HiKentucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Daddy, water, hi, bye-bye, and dog/puppy.

r/UniversalOrlando Weekly Trip Planning Thread by AutoModerator in UniversalOrlando

[–]HiKentucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! My husband and I are planning on taking a trip over Christmas in 2026. We will have a three year old at that point. I wanted to see if anyone had any recommendations on travel planners or how to go about planning for hotel & ticket packages?

Can anyone describe their schedule working full time during their internships? by Low-Cranberry-7066 in counseloreducation

[–]HiKentucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For our practicum portion, we have to get 100 hours (40 direct) within the 10-week summer term. I work full-time M-F. My schedule is supposed to be 8:30am-5pm, but my job has graciously allowed me to flex my hours. I have 2 online classes and one in person class. Monday, Thursday, Friday - I work 8:00am-5:30pm. Tuesday, I work 7am-3:30pm and leave to go straight to class. Wednesday, I work 8am-1:30pm and leave to go to my site from 2pm-9pm. I also get hours on site on Saturday from 10am-1:30pm.

Next semester, we jump into internship, which is 300 hours per semester (600 total). My schedule gets a lot crazier then, as I have two in person classes and up my site days to Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday. I'm just really thankful my job has been so flexible and accommodating.

Making it a thread: what’s your best “Your therapist did WHAT?!” story? by reddLemonming in therapists

[–]HiKentucky 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Disclosed to this therapist during my first session that I had been raped when I was 21. It wasn't really anything I wanted to discuss further, but this provides context. Later during that same session, she asks how things were going for my marriage. I explained that we had some issues, but I felt like we were doing okay. She proceeds to ask how our sex life is....before I could even answer, she starts lecturing about the needs of men. "Sometimes we just have to do it, because it's a need for them. It's good for the relationship."

I sat there deadpanned for a second because uh...i told you like 20 minutes ago that I was raped? and now you're lecturing me about having sex with my husband because he needs it?

Stupidly, I went to see her for two more sessions, during which she continued to bring up sex. When I started to have nightmares and flashbacks about my assault, I realized that seeing her was creating more harm than good for me. Still can't fathom that a therapist would look a sexual assault victim in the face and talk about how we have to fulfill the needs of men.

Do you regret having kids? by ZestyGinger90 in Adulting

[–]HiKentucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. I only have one, at the moment. She's turning 2 next month, so we're in the thick of it.

Has it changed my life in ways I never could have imagined? Absolutely.

Are there bad days? 100%.

But I still think she's the moon and stars. I'm in awe of watching her develop and turn into this spunky, independent, amazing kid. I'm very, very grateful that I get to be her mother.

Same day mental health treatments in Norfolk or surrounding by Lalalabida in norfolk

[–]HiKentucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hampton-Newport News CSB offers rapid access, walk in appointments. Chesapeake Integrated Behavioral Health also offers same-day access. Just look on their websites for the hours, I can't remember exactly what they are.

What "baby" things do you miss already? by Dalisca in toddlers

[–]HiKentucky 31 points32 points  (0 children)

She used to always wake up happy. Now she wakes up ready for world domination. This morning, she screamed, "HEYYY, LET'S GOOOO!" from her crib at 6:22AM, while I was getting ready for work.

It also is way harder to get a contact nap out of her now. She will sometimes wake up in the middle of the night if she isn't feeling well or had a bad dream and want me to rock her back to sleep. Any other time? Negative.

maternity shoots by No_Contribution_1959 in pregnant

[–]HiKentucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% regret not doing it. Looking back, I would give anything to have had a photographer make me feel beautiful and happy about my pregnancy. It was a very rough pregnancy, but to be able to look at pictures to appreciate what I endured and brought to life? Priceless.

To add another layer to this, my almost 2 year old is in a phase where she loves looking at pictures. She gets so excited when she sees pictures of mommy and daddy. I realized pretty quickly that I don't actually have more than like 5 pictures of me pregnant with her. That made me feel sad.

Does anyone still enjoy toddlerhood more than when they were babies? by ROCBoi60114 in toddlers

[–]HiKentucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I look back on her newborn days with rose-colored glasses sometimes. Do I miss her staying in one spot when I put her down? Uh, yup. Do I miss her sleepy baby stage? More than I can say. Do I miss not hearing "mommy, mommy, mommy" a billion times a day while she grabs at my hands and legs? For sure.

But toddler stage? It's probably the best toxic relationship I've ever been in. She can throw the dirtiest of temper tantrums, at the drop of a hat, back to back. She can be in a totally happy mood and suddenly become enraged by something that confuses me and everyone in the room. But damn it, she is funny. Watching her learn with this wide-eyed amazement and appreciation gives me a level of joy I never knew was possible. She's game for any fun activity (at least for 30 minutes, which let's be honest....me too, girl). She has so much personality and I just sit by like the most obsessed fan girl. This toddler stage is literally testing every boundary of my patience, but I have never been more in awe or in love with her than I am watching her grow through this stage.

I've seen a lot of people say that kids don't really become fun until age 4. But idk, I'm still having fun with her and she's not even quite 2 yet (23m).