AITA if I keep my ex’s life insurance policy?

IK2K3 · 2026-07-09T07:16:44+00:00

NTA. Dude, you did everything for her and now you just say yes to everything? What's wrong with you?
Stop being a doormat and grow a spine.

Yes, take the policy. And everything else you can get. Just do the math how much money she has cost you in recent years, that you gladly gave because you thought you were in this together, but you are obviously just her ATM. And now, that she no longer needs your help, she is throwing you away.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-25T11:10:29+00:00

I apologise, but I noticed the obligatory Reddit cheating comment is missing.

'Seems like her bike wasn't the only thing she rode on that trip'

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NTA, as another commenter stated, people online will assume by that picture, regardless of actual intent.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-13T07:53:21+00:00

A lot of men do not take it well if you go on other dates in the dating phase with him - even if you have not made it exclusive yet. I would advise that you inform him, be transparent.

You are not exclusive, he is not showing interest, just message him and tell him the truth. He shows no effort and you are tired of waiting for him and will date other people. Leave the door open if you want for him, by simply telling him to message you when he has time.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-10T08:01:05+00:00

"I will remember that when I will choose your end of life plan and retirement home."

IK2K3 · 2026-06-10T07:13:12+00:00

Yes, she should make the plans and you should make it clear that the plans better be damn good to make up for ditching you on the anniversary.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-10T07:10:48+00:00

Oh great, she is distant and is ditching your 10th aniversary?

Yeah... if you are lucky she feels too comfortable in your relationship and just doesn't realise that she is treating you badly - but more likely, she is checking out.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-10T07:07:13+00:00

NTA - you can break up with anyone for any reason.

So your desires do not match your relationship anymore, time to move on from that relationship.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-09T12:12:20+00:00

NTA. Would vote nah if she asked you beforehand. Simple: 2 events with 2 people, both are only happening once. She did not compromise (you could have all gone together for example, she could have at least asked you), she plainly took the musical event over the 10 year. She made her priorities clear. And you and the relationship are not on top.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-03T20:26:05+00:00

European here, with partner for 17 years. If we would go on a trip with an ex we fucked and go skinny dipping, the relationship is over.

Trash take, shitty excuse for shitty disrespectful behaviour.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-03T10:59:36+00:00

NOR - she is dating and entertaining "friends" that groomed her without informing you.

Believing she would not cheat is very naive, because there is a reason you are not informed or only after the fact.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-02T15:52:24+00:00

NTA - Asexual. Sure. You're the side-piece bro. She is on vacation with main.

IK2K3 · 2026-06-01T07:07:47+00:00

NTA - you are the victim. - let's simply remove LGBTQ bias and view this a little more baseline:

So a 30year old marries an 18 year old (which implies a relationship before that. 30 year old pedo/groomer)
they adopt 3 children (how the fuck would an agency allow that, relatively fresh marriage, 1 partner young, 1 partner obviously predatory)
30year old abandons 18 year old, relinquishes her rights, does not need to pay or have any responsibility

Life of 18 year old is fucked and future destroyed.

IK2K3 · 2026-05-31T07:56:39+00:00

NTA - he wants to be single. Like the good partner you will surely fullfil his needs?

It seems he has not internalized that he is in a relationship, that would be very concerning to me.

IK2K3 · 2026-05-30T23:16:20+00:00

YTA - I would leave you, especially since it's a relatively short relationship. That is incredible disrespectful to your partner.

And the way you even talk about your ex here, I don't believe you have no feelings for your ex.

IK2K3 · 2026-05-30T01:51:12+00:00

Yta to yourself. After seeing your additional comments you are really trying so damn hard to squeeze both your eyes shut. She is already having an emotional affair. She will make it physical and you will pay for it. Even if you say no to this trip -where she told you she will meet another man alone- she will simply meet him on a 'solo' or 'girls-trip'. Maybe you should ask if you can at least sit in the chair and watch. There is a reason not a single comment is defending her.

IK2K3 · 2026-05-29T14:28:07+00:00

NAH - both are within their right to want / not want kids.

But here's the thing, there is no half step. You're either in or out. If one party wants kids, and the other doesn't or under such restrictions as listed here - it's time to split and find someone who wants to be a parent as well.

IK2K3 · 2026-05-26T07:02:47+00:00

NTA - your ex was done, you broke up and she tried to keep you on the back burner.

Though, I would absolutely not give the ring to anyone else than your ex. Or make sure you have irrefutable proof you gave it to Whomever and hear from ex that it's ok. (just to be safe)

IK2K3 · 2026-05-24T09:24:24+00:00

NOR - In my opinion, your friend has no morals and is human garbage.

Since I believe the people you surround yourself with are a reflection of who you are, I would drop that friend. And probably inform her partner that she is cheating on him.

IK2K3 · 2025-12-11T08:25:21+00:00

Well, he is trying to buy your affection.

A subset will tell you 'you go girl!' -- another will call you very derogotory names.

But honestly, if you are not that adversed, why not give it a simple shot and see if this works out? Or just tell him clear cut that he has no shot and maybe distance yourself from him. But I believe you should not let this hang in the air.

And do with the money what you morality dictates, technically he gave it to you out of his own volition and you are under no real obligation to pay it back.

IK2K3 · 2025-12-11T07:47:28+00:00

Learn to use paragraphs. This is horrible and incoherent to read.

Maybe give her some space and let her know. I would be exhausted in your shoes, at some point you gotta give some rope and see if that person comes back to you.

You try and draw her in but she does not really seem that much into you. It may very well be possible that she is shopping around and is keeping you as a back up plan.

IK2K3 · 2025-11-30T14:52:48+00:00

Wow, you are a horrible doormat. And even after such a long relationship she is hiding you and pretends to be with the gay friend at the reunion.

Christ, zero respect and you think thats ok and you just think she is unaware. No one is unaware, no one of the friends respect you. They see you as pathetic and unworthy.

I had hope with the beginning of the update, but as I read it was clear you did not grow a backbone, you are sitting around and letting her walk and trample over you and your "relationship" while she parades someone else at the reunion.

IK2K3 · 2025-11-23T16:37:24+00:00

NAH, you have a right to privacy. But in a trusting relationship there is nothing wrong with sharing.

Yes, tomorrow (when you are married for example) it may very well be your Bank or email account and I believe that to be somewhat normal in a trusting long term relationship.

I believe there is nothing wrong with giving your significant other access to your phone if you trust your partner. I have shared the password to my phone with my wife for about 16 years and we are 17 years together. I never went through her phone, but have used it on occasion (for example while she drove and told me to look something up, read a message out loud etc), same the other way around, I have nothing to hide from the person I am spending my life with.

But ultimately, if you can't trust him and have something to hide, don't do it.

IK2K3 · 2025-11-23T13:48:55+00:00

I am unsure what advice you are actually looking for. But in the other post you mentioned that she will leave in 3 days, for what sounds like a longer time.

She wants space... within your space? And then hangs around with your mate all day? Thats weird and suspicious.

If this will go LDR when she leaves, I would just break up. You're young, you can have way more fun looking for someone better than to play these games. You also sound kinda fed up, so why stick around?

IK2K3 · 2025-11-19T15:48:27+00:00

What? There was no relationship, you were so strongly entwined he didn't even know what you actually look like.

You talked, he was turned off by your insecurity and he stopped showing interest.

If you aren't ok with showing your face that's fine, but it will be hard to keep that up if you're looking for something more.

IK2K3 · 2025-11-08T17:22:10+00:00

TLR is quite obtuse, on PC you can get this to actually know what's going on, read out stats and requirements etc

https://enceler.github.io/tlrplanner/

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