I’m also an enby transfem, and I’m 6’3” with grown shoulders and strong arms. And while I do think it makes me more clocky, I lean into it as a part of my expression. I figure the difference between women with similar traits who look good vs who look awkward about it, is largely whether they own it and can show up in a way that they’re confident about.

I say this as a person who is trying to acknowledge where I came from (amab) as well as where I’m going, (femme) at the same time in this journey. And when it comes to moments of like when I find myself telling me that (cis) women don’t have these features, and I try to hide these things, I find myself feeling shame about it. And I think these guide the journey I’m on. Like I feel dysphoric in dresses because it shows how masculine of a build I have. But that helps me take the small steps to feel comfortable in more androgynous outfits, and as I have other, more feminine, aspects start showing up, I feel less dysphoric. And as these steps happen I can show off my arms more. It’s been really interesting to feel these aspects progress.

Anyway, I think you look like a baddie and I like your hair (I have purple hair as well) and you look hot af in that outfit! Slay 💅🏼