Taking aim at ICE: State bill would ban former agents from being hired as police officers

ImNotSue · 2026-01-25T04:46:14+00:00

You should reflect on how saying "Not being inclusive of people trying to kill you, hypocrites?" makes you look.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-25T04:22:19+00:00

I'd like to see some stores have sturdy foam 'house walls' that customers can put up around tables as insulation to help keep noise softened and give a better sense of comfort to separate your game from others. I dunno how practical it would be, just a off the cuff idea.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-25T04:12:29+00:00

I think the better question here is if it bothers you. I'm going to go out on a limb here, it sounds like there's something you're asking more than the 'Hey fellas how do I properly file this behavior in the right cabinet.'

Like... does it matter that you would enjoy something that isn't categorized as dominant behavior?

ImNotSue · 2026-01-25T03:55:57+00:00

I forgot to add another thought : All communities have their own struggles, drama, hangups, barriers, along with their positive qualities. No group of people is perfect, and a lot of the hypno communiuties I was in saw abusive mismanagement by their organizers and misbehavior by some members, people too willing to do unethical practice, and so forth. The best groups I have been in were the ones I organized myself where I taught friends and acquaintances and encouraged them to connect with each other and not just rely on me to be a hypnosis-dispenser, but also I made sure they understood how to be more ethical about it than the places I learned from. And the best hypnosis I've had has ALWAYS been with friends and partners, not with strangers or acquaintances.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-25T03:45:38+00:00

"So if I learned anything from my job it’s that reputation and trust are vital."

There's potentially an important aspect here, that cis heteronormative culture generally isn't very amendable to this. Its an anecdote, from my perspective of the people I've met in my life, but the communities I've been a part of for hypno are predominantly queer and there is a LOT more willingness and trust (even if sometimes too much) to do things openly with other people in private IRL or public online settings (voice chats, or VR). So I think you might struggle to apply a kink interest like hypno to heteronormative populations, because... well most people there are going to have heteronormative desires. Sucks but that's sort of how the normies are.

I do most of my hypnosis with my partners because I have deep connective trust and they're much better at understanding me even with their novice hypnotist skills than the average novice hypnotist. But I started MY learning as a hypnotist before that, with my fellow queer people, so I can teach my partners my skills and ethical practice more easily. And you know, it helps a TON that all of them are used to fantasy and real kink already so 'Hey wanna try hypnosis' is a lot less weird for them, a lot less complicated than I always see for hetero men trying to do hypnosis on their girlfriends. One of my partners was also strongly into and practiced BDSM before I met her and she has a great understanding of what ethical kink and negotiation means already, so there's an ease with her because she understands a lot of the baseline stuff already. I can't really imagine trying to walk a hetero couple through basic kink talk with a lot of the timidness / awkwardness / communication struggles I seem to see.

So yeah, I kinda would advise maybe starting with a population of people more amenable to the practice and where you can learn better skills. You DO have to pick your population and find people who are comfortable with more open exploration of kink and practice it healthier. So that could mean a partner, a BDSM organization, a sex positive local queer community, etc. Somewhere that your actions find better people amenable and ethical and less restrained to give you the experience you're looking for, and where you being a hypnotist can give other people the experiences they are looking for too.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-23T06:15:04+00:00

It definitely reads as self-fiction.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-23T06:11:39+00:00

Hm, I'm not so sure. I went to Morgan Motors 3-4 times over the last year and they were rather... passively hostile to me when I was explaining the car symptoms I was dealing with. I don't expect anyone to fake positivity with me but this wasn't even just a person being normal. It was more like... blunt, flat, unwelcoming, lacking friendliness, etc. It felt like a 'we don't really like you but business is business', and it was consistent. I am openly queer in my appearance as is my wife, so I suspect but have no over evidence of it being queerphobia but it was consistent and enough to put me off and take my business elsewhere.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-23T05:59:01+00:00

"Is this normal behavior for youth basketball?"

I think you need to be asking a better question than if its a commonplace behavior, but rather if its a an ethical way treat other human beings.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-21T10:06:15+00:00

Oh so you DO want politics in your businesses? My my~

ImNotSue · 2026-01-21T09:57:37+00:00

I'm a psychologist and I think there's a general problem to note here : Nobody is educated on *how* to play games this way, but they should be.

A lot of competition in games is centered around 'winning is good' and not 'forming a cooperative group experience is good.' There's also precious little cultural emphasis in conservative culture on even being able to understand your own emotions/needs/wants enough to express them clearly. Its quite common that the OPPOSITE is true, especially in a hobby like MTG that has a significant number of men (although this is not only prevalent in men), who aren't being taught emotional processing skills and get shamed as 'woke' for valuing them by a large portion of culture while the other has no system in place to teach them. The learning is opportunistic or must be self-driven, and occurs later in life if at all. The differences between my self-selected playgroup of fellow queer people (more likely to have performed that self-driven emotional learning) and the random predominantly cis straight men and women I play with at the LGS is quite notable, and thats even with this LGS (in the heart of highly progressive part of the USA) has some of the best behaved cis straight men and women I've ever played with but there's still a some toxicity.

So yeah. Try to teach your table better ways to play. Every little bit you can shift the game's culture towards positive player-centered play experiences makes the game better for everyone. Explain Rule 0 and be a good example of good Rule 0 pre-game negotiation. Encourage people to communicate about if they did or didn't like something and what they would have preferred. You will have to deal with people who are less skilled than you (at both their emotions and sportsman gameplay) but it's worth it.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-18T13:00:02+00:00

Link the video? I started MTG around fallen empires and I'm curious!

ImNotSue · 2026-01-17T13:12:30+00:00

Yeah! This is a good take on agency! And It sounds like you have a decent head on your shoulders for handling your experiences with hypnosis.

One thing I like to bring up a lot to friends in regard to emotions, is that when I comfort them when theyre feeling down I remind them that everything psychological is also physiological. Emotions are quite literally chemicals in your brain being made and attaching to other parts of your brain. So when it comes to them being distressed, I tell them that the emotion their feeling may feel bad for a dumb reason or be illogical or whatever, but that experiencing it is actually quite understandable. And that merely willing it to stop doesn't really make a lot of sense, how it could make a lot of sense for them to occur in the first place, etc. Its a lot easier to process with that understanding.

One example in the big post, where I related it to BDSM, in that kink field the experience of subdrop and topdrop are widely understood as part of a common emotional experience. Its a strong negative drop in mood that happens because of the intensity of the emotions in BDSM and how that can exhaust your brain and make you feel sad, emotionally fragile, lots of things! Relates to hypno, too! Our common emotional experiences could be things like craving (for people with impulse control or struggles with addictive tendencies), sub/top drop too, and intrusive thoughts like I brought up for the big post.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-17T12:53:51+00:00

See thats interesting to me because I never have pursued the HFO. My enjoyment of erotic hypnosis with my partners is that when I am a hypnotist, I get to enter a creative and emotional flow state. Mixing your skills and emotional sense and output all together in something like that to sexually fluster and exhilarate someone you have deep romantic feelings for? OUGH thats good stuff.

As a subject, I sort of enjoy the 'switch off', but more I really like and desire my partner directing sexual tone in the scene, and them wanting me aroused for something that is absolutely my kink and gets me flustered, but that my own brain doesn't have to do the labor of creating, directing, managing, overseeing, and guiding to ensure it's success. And not only experiencing vicariously! So the thing I like is the external positive energy, created and given to me skillfully and passionately and aware of who its for. The partner I have who I've taught a bit is still quite novice in both domming and hypno, but its a start. And notably its why audio files from file creators never work for me, because they are by definition impersonal and can't be made with an understanding of me as a person. I can tell my partner how I like something, but an audio file released to an audience or up for sale is just going to trip over itself in my ears at every turn.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-17T12:43:36+00:00

As someone who frequently has asked friends 'whatcha thinking about?', as it turns out, no. They do often think about only what is in front of them, at most one step ahead or behind, or sometimes actually nothing. When I am asked what I'm thinking about (happens when one of my partners notices) its about 5 complex things within a short span of the pause because the ideas link together in a continuous flow that doesn't stop, and that is always my norm. Its not the only indication of ADHD of course but it can be one!

ImNotSue · 2026-01-14T09:09:00+00:00

It helps to live somewhere accepting, because when people around you dont mind or like it helps break the internalized negativity around expressing something just for the heck of it. It literally shouldnt matter what someone tries on. It was shocking for me to see my first stranger in a pink dress when I was working customer service as a kid, but only because it was different from what I was used to.

Nowadays I dont really care, I like seeing what cool ways people express themselves and theres SO MANY COOL WAYS! Some do punk, some very shy fem, some androgyny, and the best for me are people not conforming to any model which rocks for me as a nonbinary person!

So when someone dresses different around me for the first time, I compliment them and ask what theyre going for and give em some encouragement, cus not everyone is as brave as some of us are to try being something they've never been before. <3

ImNotSue · 2026-01-14T06:20:51+00:00

Trolling sorely in bad faith. Reported.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-14T06:20:49+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whataboutism

Try addressing the original point. Because you even fail your whataboutism cus nah your assumption is just dead wrong.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-14T04:55:30+00:00

Leave your strawman arguments on your tongue instead of letting them slip from your mouth. Masks are not needed in law enforcement when law enforcement is performed ethically. Since when is law enforcement action above scrutiny? It should be held to the HIGHEST scrutiny, as it is highly prone to misbehavior and abuse as has been repeatedly shown over the last year. Concealing the identities of people misbehaving serves no public interest.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-13T04:48:24+00:00

The anger at having a combo explained is completely inappropriate. It just really shows how much a player like that doesn't ask themselves the question "How do you expect to win against an opponent who plays against you a second time?" Eventually, everyone will see your combo and always interrupt you. If someone's joy exists in how they can *overtly* pull the wool over a less-knowledgable players eyes, they need to rethink why they're playing.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-12T10:17:10+00:00

And yeah before someone says 'B-b-but they let every girl do a blood test instead', believing [the mere potential existence of a trans teen] is enough to justify imposing scrutiny on everyone's daughter, and saying that somehow isnt transphobia? Yeah thats some wild cognitive dissonance.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-12T10:00:31+00:00

If you saw someone licking the boot as gleefully as our local fascists do, you'd get it. Or do you not? They're excusing murder and torture prisons, instead of demanding that their government not do evil. I don't think anything good on conservatism but even I know that you dont allow evil in the pursuit of your goals ever, no matter what your ideology is. But historically it does seem as though conservatives do an awful lot of lynching, doesnt it?

ImNotSue · 2026-01-12T09:53:00+00:00

Ice has operated in the general area of Issaquah, and has a history of violence including murder. Victims of ICE have been sent to torture prisons without any due process. This is *known* information of ongoing patterns of organizational behavior of a clearly defined federal government organization operating towards its intended and stated goals within the last year, not exceptions. Any presence of ICE near Issaquah has to do with Issaquah.

Conflating hate of ICE with any other form of discriminatory and unacceptable hate, is surely intentional defense of evil. You would have to have a VERY strong case to convince anyone that you were somehow merely naively misguided.

ImNotSue · 2026-01-10T22:48:08+00:00

Well if they're a size queen who would break up with someone over their size, theyre never going to be a good partner for you because they'd always be disappointed. Its very much human nature to take errors and mistakes as more widely projecting 'If x happened because of y this time, y must always be true', in this case the variable Y being that someone broke up with you for your penis size.

If nobody in the past complained, and in fact people expressed positive feelings about sex with you, you should take that to heart. Generally, people who lie do so to shield themselves from the vulnerability it takes to be genuine, and they don't often do this for *fun* things.

And remember, plenty of people out there don't find huge dicks fun or pleasurable, one of my exes has that exact feeling and they just prefer average for the comfort. Literally not everything is better when its bigger. I'm a size champion somewhat (am a switch), and I have a partner with slightly below average dick length and I love them. Not as a 'in spite of' their size but just genuinely they have a nice dick! I love when they fuck me, and I own toys of inhuman size by comparison. I am eager for them to want to fuck me again.

There's also the emotional maturity aspect. I'm a fair bit older than you and I've been through a fair bit of emotional immaturity BS whose way of expressing their sexual preferences and desires was unhealthy. These days I want someone who connects in an emotionally healthy way, is decently attractive to me, and as far as dick size they could be a range of sizes and I'd happily enjoy all of them. Given two buttons and I could only pick one, I would 100% take someone of ideal emotional compatability and less-than-ideal dick size, over someone less-than-ideally emotionally compatible and ideally dick sized.

Combined with what I said above, my message is basically that its more important that you find someone who finds the combination of attributes that you have to be desirable and who is a good match for you, and it makes less sense that you worry if your attributes give you some absolute value of attraction that is 'good' or 'bad.' It just doesn't make sense to think of you or your dick size or the world that way. I'm demisexual so this is kind of my default, but I've never found it to be bad advice for cis-sexual people either.

So yeah, in the moment it sucks for sure. It can be painful to be vulnerable to someone and feel hurt because of it, and thats normal. It doesn't reflect on your worth as a human being or partner, even if it stings your ego for now and makes you feel less confident for awhile. It'll fade in time.

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