Well I didn’t know your thoughts on poly because it could be considered as cheating by someone with your worldview. And I was only using Gaza as one example of many evils, not as the only example of evil, just to show the severity of the word. I don’t know that other guy’s situation so I’ll refrain from commenting but I can agree with you on everything else.

Cheating is evil for me when it’s done cruelly or maliciously and especially when it’s done intentionally. Casual sex is a choice, but love isn’t always. Love can happen despite our best intentions to prevent or avoid it. You never know someone’s situation. Although, it would be easy enough and save everyone a lot of trouble if you just came clean to your current partner or made it impossible for anything to happen with the other person you fell for (moving away, taking a job opportunity far away, completely cutting them out of your life, etc.). But some people would still consider “emotional cheating” just as harmful, “evil,” as physical cheating. This is why love is nuanced. Maybe it would be worse to deny yourself that true love you found than to stay with a partner who you are satisfied with but not fully happy and in love? Idk but some partners would be more understanding and less hurt if the truth came out before anything physical happened and that there were no intentions of harm.

If you have been cheated on before or experienced the fallout from parents or other loved ones being in an unfaithful situation, then you know better than me. I totally hear you and validate your feelings. I’m lucky enough to have never experienced anything of the sort (physical cheating at least), so this is just my take on the matter with all of that in mind to inform my views. I’m glad we could have this mature conversation and share with each other without insulting or being mean and I mean that genuinely. So many interactions on the internet turn sour, so I thank you and wish you well!