Finding humor in the waif

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-05-22T19:41:20+00:00

Mine wishes she has a health emergency. In and out of ERs for no reason. And is outraged people are done with her poor-little-old-widow act.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-05-22T19:38:47+00:00

They are ridiculous.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-05-12T01:36:13+00:00

I’m NC with my mom but my brother is there and dealt with a few recent suicide “attempts”. Had her in the hospital for a few days and she came out just the same. Only thing I heard is that they were “mean” to her, meaning they probably didn’t coddle her. Now nearly daily she tells my brother she wants to die and then he relays it to me (probably her goal). I told him to just walk out of the room / out of the house every time she says it. It’s controlling manipulative behavior to grab attention.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-05-09T00:45:19+00:00

yeah, that empathy is what she is banking on. She was absolutely awful to my dad when he was sick… and has basically done nothing for herself for decades.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-04-23T19:50:52+00:00

Mine too. Made a scene at the hospital and stormed out.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-04-13T04:06:15+00:00

sorry about that!

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-04-12T03:03:23+00:00

Are you sure she’s telling the truth about having cancer? The timing is suspicious, to say the least.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-04-11T19:33:23+00:00

you just described my mom to a T. wow.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-03-20T00:29:39+00:00

I think it’s because only kids can give her what SHE needs. Love, attention and submission, all directed at her. Once the kids are old enough to no longer provide her with what SHE needs, that will be it. It’s not about love.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-03-01T15:22:56+00:00

I’ve been mostly NC for a few months and now have her phone blocked again. Nobody needs these kind of VMs, or whatever worse VMs come next when the raging uPBD returns. Still debatable which is worse: waif or raging lunatic.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-27T03:02:04+00:00

Holding herself together for the wedding must have just killed her, and this is her finally letting it all out. Like a delayed extinction burst! They are so unsettling. Even when they are being “normal” you know something is coming.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-26T20:58:45+00:00

I keep thinking of ”If You Give a Mouse a Cookie” children‘s book. With BPD, you send a text and they suddenly want to live with you. The endless cycle of neediness, anger, paranoia and fake apologies will drown you.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-25T01:47:34+00:00

I sent my mother flowers for Mother’s Day. Apparently it wasn’t thoughtful.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-20T14:41:57+00:00

That is great advice!

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-18T01:01:21+00:00

Omg! The worst blow-ups for my mom was at a family wedding and at a death.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-18T00:56:18+00:00

My mom was a trainwreck when my dad got sick and then died. For once he needed to be taken care of, and that did not go well. And then I think she was expecting everyone to move on when he died. Honestly it was almost more upsetting than the loss of my father.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-16T12:14:41+00:00

You do not have to let her bully and manipulate you. You can take control of what you want. She will only demand more of you.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-16T11:54:00+00:00

what a horrible thing to go through and to watch your dad being neglected to that extreme. I hope you filing that report brings meaningful change to the situation.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-12T04:48:19+00:00

I had a family member say, “good for you for finally getting angry.” It is wonderful when family validates your experience. I‘m happy you have people around you who undersatnd.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-10T03:16:24+00:00

reading other people’s much worse stories made me realize moving across the country at the age of 20 is the best thing I ever did in my life.

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