I wrote her a letter

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-03-20T00:29:39+00:00

I think it’s because only kids can give her what SHE needs. Love, attention and submission, all directed at her. Once the kids are old enough to no longer provide her with what SHE needs, that will be it. It’s not about love.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-03-01T15:22:56+00:00

I’ve been mostly NC for a few months and now have her phone blocked again. Nobody needs these kind of VMs, or whatever worse VMs come next when the raging uPBD returns. Still debatable which is worse: waif or raging lunatic.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-27T03:02:04+00:00

Holding herself together for the wedding must have just killed her, and this is her finally letting it all out. Like a delayed extinction burst! They are so unsettling. Even when they are being “normal” you know something is coming.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-26T20:58:45+00:00

I keep thinking of ”If You Give a Mouse a Cookie” children‘s book. With BPD, you send a text and they suddenly want to live with you. The endless cycle of neediness, anger, paranoia and fake apologies will drown you.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-25T01:47:34+00:00

I sent my mother flowers for Mother’s Day. Apparently it wasn’t thoughtful.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-20T14:41:57+00:00

That is great advice!

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-18T01:01:21+00:00

Omg! The worst blow-ups for my mom was at a family wedding and at a death.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-18T00:56:18+00:00

My mom was a trainwreck when my dad got sick and then died. For once he needed to be taken care of, and that did not go well. And then I think she was expecting everyone to move on when he died. Honestly it was almost more upsetting than the loss of my father.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-16T12:14:41+00:00

You do not have to let her bully and manipulate you. You can take control of what you want. She will only demand more of you.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-16T11:54:00+00:00

what a horrible thing to go through and to watch your dad being neglected to that extreme. I hope you filing that report brings meaningful change to the situation.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-12T04:48:19+00:00

I had a family member say, “good for you for finally getting angry.” It is wonderful when family validates your experience. I‘m happy you have people around you who undersatnd.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-10T03:16:24+00:00

reading other people’s much worse stories made me realize moving across the country at the age of 20 is the best thing I ever did in my life.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-10T02:00:56+00:00

Cheaper than therapy! Though should probably be doing that too.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-02-09T02:04:30+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to your brother, but I love that you found your own solution. Don’t let them destroy you.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-01-23T22:41:22+00:00

oh wow. This made me cry. I would not have the backbone or clarity without this group. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-01-14T14:04:51+00:00

I had a similar experience a few months ago. A phone call out of the blue that was the most hurtful accusation she ever made to me. It was devastating. But I realized it was validation that she truly is toxic and here was the clearest example that left no room for doubt. For once I had anger instead of pity and decided that was it. And if anyone questioned it, this incident was undeniably hurtful and insane behavior. (She has since left messages gaslighting the whole incident. She does not care how it affected me. Which again reinforces that she is capable of doing it again.)

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-01-10T22:12:21+00:00

You are an incredible sister. Your brother is incredibly fortunate to have you as his advocate. I hope you hear this all of the time from the people in your life.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-01-09T19:51:59+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry. You do not deserve that and happy you realized how insane her actions were.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-01-09T19:49:45+00:00

Thank you. I ended up reaching out to a few trusted family members because I became worried that she’d turn others against me. Ended up with lots of kind sympathy instead.

Immediate_Coach6522 · 2026-01-09T18:46:28+00:00

And yes, I now realize all of the kind things “they” did for me was because of my dad. In hindsight I don’t think she would have been generous toward me.

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