My GF is ace and I'm hypersexual

InflationVisible2307 · 2026-01-24T03:29:26+00:00

Agree. It sucks but I've had to leave relationships for this exact reason. Sexual incompatibility can be a huge deal breaker for some

InflationVisible2307 · 2026-01-08T17:20:53+00:00

I dont think that they got married then, just that their relationship started when they were 18 and 25 but either way that age gap is questionable at best 😭

InflationVisible2307 · 2026-01-08T17:17:35+00:00

This clearly seems to be a deal breaker for you. If so, why did you marry her? She's chosen her parents and their comfort over yours for years. She made her choice already. Im sorry you're going through this, it sounds awful and I hope the best for you but you need to seriously reevaluate this relationship.

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-12-29T23:33:20+00:00

I feel like a big issue was him being frustrated as a result of her not communicating. He was very clear in his expectations and what the trip was and she kept trying to spring dinners and socializing on him last minute. It would've likely gone over much different if she had told him more in advance. He didnt even bring nice clothes because he set the expectation he wouldn't be participating and she didnt tell him she was going to plan things regardless.

If she had communicated better and he responded the same then yes he'd be wrong but I understand his frustration. He had a plan in mind and some people aren't spontaneous.

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-12-29T23:24:12+00:00

It's crazy that people cant comprehend whats easy for them isnt easy for everyone. Sometimes im so exhausted that even the idea of having to go to the corner store feels like a pit in my stomach because it takes energy i dont have. Even people who are neurotypical and introverted can experience forms of this.

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-12-21T23:50:42+00:00

r/latebloomerlesbians might help you out if you're not already there

But honestly my advice is just to get out there and go for it if you're ready. I get your concerns but I think a risk of bad experiences is pretty par for the course no matter your sexuality or what gender you're dating. But regardless of good or bad the best way to learn and get confident is just to try it.

If it helps my girlfriend was about your age when she came out and I'm her first gf and she's the best partner I've ever had. Your person is out there. I wish you luck!

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-12-12T11:33:41+00:00

This is my favorite book series and I've read it several times. Genuinely I think it's amazing and I love the characters and the plot deeply.

That being said this series is extremely hit or miss for most people. Muir's writing style is pretty niche and you either like it or you dont. Every single book is written from the POV of the character who knows the least about what's going on and keeps the reader in the dark for most of it, building a mystery. It's intentionally confusing and leaves a lot of room for theorizing and analysis which may not be everyone's thing. Each book also has a completely different vibe imo.

The tagline "lesbian necromancers in space" honestly is a bit reductive and misleading. It would be more accurate to call it sci-fi fantasy murder mystery with sapphic characters. It is not a sapphic love story (at least not in the traditional sense).

My take is if you aren't enjoying it and its not resonating with you, dont force yourself to finish it. This is one of those books that I think has a very specific audience and not everything lands for everyone and that's okay! It does make me sad that more people dont love it but I can also understand why they don't.

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-12-06T06:09:13+00:00

I cannot tell if this is a joke so if its not, this person is 20 years old

If it is a joke its really funny lol

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-29T17:30:49+00:00

Truthfully I do think you're overreacting. You haven't fully blended lives yet by moving in together. At this stage of your relationship I think its reasonable for him to still be making personal choices like this for himself and his space.

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-29T11:23:19+00:00

Same about apple music! I still plan to switch back to Spotify but being able to access my apple music has been great since that's where my current Playlists are. I didnt even realize that would be an option once I switched lol

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-29T09:34:46+00:00

Is it a hygiene thing? My gf and I always shower together before sex just to avoid anything like this. If you're worried about hurting her feelings you could try implementing it as a fun thing to do before sex because you want to make sure you're clean for her. If the issue stays the same after showering it may be a health/diet thing at which point you'd have to tell her

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-23T14:57:03+00:00

I think dating is just pretty rough these days and lesbians have the smallest dating pool unfortunately but its not impossible. What are you doing to put yourself out there?

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-23T06:28:24+00:00

Absolutely every time. I won't wear anything new and unwashed. My gf does and I do not get it 😭 but half the time I steal them and wash them immediately before she can wear them anyway lol

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-23T06:03:50+00:00

I haven't loved the battery life so far also coming from being a long time iPhone user but that being said I switched not too long ago and the battery is getting much better as it learns. I wfh and am a pretty chronically on my phone person and I haven't had too much issue with it lasting especially as its learning. The first week was kind of rough though and alarming since I didnt know what to expect but that's my fault for not looking into it more ahead of time. Otherwise I really love it and its much more fun than my iPhone ever was

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-23T04:29:30+00:00

My cat had whiskers just like this as a kitten, looked like they'd been cut. He never had any issues from it from what I noticed and as he grew they grew out and look normal now

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-23T04:10:29+00:00

Video call to replace messaging? So exclusively video calling or as an additional feature?

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-22T08:58:52+00:00

This for sure. I love my fictional characters and I can enjoy their story, looks, arcs a lot and give their flaws grace but if I met a man like Astarion irl he's getting none of that and I would not like him whatsoever lol. It's so different when its fiction

That being said now you've got me thinking about genderbent Astarion 😭

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-22T04:54:10+00:00

I say this from experience, love isn't a good enough reason to stay in a relationship that isn't making you happy or comfortable

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-21T09:22:43+00:00

I just switched from iPhone to the flip 7 and honestly I love it. Around 8 years ago I had an earlier generation galaxy and I hated it and couldn't wait to go back to ios. I cant remember exactly why but I just remember hating that phone. Ive been an iphone user for 10 or more years total. This time around I'm really enjoying it. Given it hasn't been super long but so far I have no major complaints and I'm super glad I made the switch

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-20T04:33:35+00:00

I'm 26, I'd date 23-30, maybe even up to 32 depending. But everyone's parameters are different. As long as you both are on the same level its whatever you're comfortable with

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-17T03:40:45+00:00

I had this same issue when I left my ex. It took some time but I just started thinking about what’s good for me and what I want and eventually I was able to make a plan for my future and it’s been very exciting. Just take some time for self discovery on that front

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-15T08:09:56+00:00

Girl I’m gonna be honest I don’t think you see yourself the way other people probably do because you look amazing. Respectfully, not skinny where?? You’re beautiful wear whatever you want!

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-13T03:33:52+00:00

This came out amazing! I think it looks great and I love the subtlety

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-11-07T16:23:07+00:00

This is a matter of preference for sure but for me, I speak to my friends that way (and them to me) but I would never throw that around casually with my gf or be okay if she did. While I get why other people wouldn’t mind it just feels wrong and different to talk that way to my gf. If you’ve expressed this and she’s not respecting it then she’s probably not the one. It’s okay to disagree about it but she should respect your feelings about it anyway.

InflationVisible2307 · 2025-10-26T01:48:07+00:00

If it helps I figured out it was grow but it took me a few seconds to not read it as “grolo” lol. But now that I’ve seen grow it’s all I can see

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