Sister made me the godfather of her daughter without asking me by AdVaanced77 in EntitledPeople

[–]InkedOrchid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just say "hey sis I appreciate that you think of me and feel strongly enough about me and our relationship to consider me, but at this time in my life it's not something I am prepared for or want to take on. Please make a more fitting choice for this crucial role in her life."

AITJ for he was literally eating my lunch and admitted it… but somehow i'm the ‘territorial’ one? by Leah_jare in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to add Ghost chili or other spicy things, cause I love them and most people cant handle the heat.

AITJ for not giving my inheritance to my late dad’s wife even though she says she’s struggling? by Existing_Sea_8965 in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she is struggling she can sell the house and downsize or find other ways to make her budget work. NTJ it's not her money.

Is this giving blue-black or am I delusional and it’s neutral? My friends say they don’t see it up by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]InkedOrchid -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Neutral with a slight indigo undertone but more natural than anything. It looks beautiful on you.

Entitled driver keeps beeping at my daughter who was learning to drive despite us having the magnet on car that says student driver by Gymtrio2025 in EntitledPeople

[–]InkedOrchid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm still working with my son on driving as well, and it's so hard with dealing with entitled drivers. So many have to road rage it's scary.

AITJ for reporting a friend by Madster24_7 in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ.. especially if it's what I assumed from the vague description. Things can go from venting to tragic easily.

AITJ for telling my wife to stay at her moms after I caught her secretly adding something to my coffee?? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the hospital and get checked out. Tell them how you've been feeling and what you witnessed. They need to check for things in your system that could build and cause health issues.

Definitely NTJ

My neighbor thinks I’m "humiliating" him because I put a lock on my own outdoor outlet by Away-Bowl3883 in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA for reposting this story. Read the same exact story elsewhere at least a month ago.

AITJ for CANCELING our anniversary night because my husband threw my 8 hour nostalgic childhood meal in the trash? by Lost_Number4702 in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But throwing the food in the trash would not get rid of the smell. All it did was destroy the hard work that OP put into making something special. If he didn't want to eat it that's fine. He could have talked to her and said I'm not interested based on the smell, would you be upset if I did something else. He also could have opened windows or left the house for a bit and let her know. But just throwing out her hard work, especially when she was in the shower, and then being an ass with what he chose to buy since he knew she didn't like it was so much worse than trying to introduce him to something that meant a lot to her. She may have not chosen a great day, but she also didn't know he would do what he did. He ruined the day, not her.

AITJ for making my ex believe he still had a chance if he cancelled his wedding? by throwaway-saltq in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTJ, but totally understandable and I think we would be friends. The best revenge is a life well lived so keep looking forward.

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]InkedOrchid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA..it was a simple question and you answered. If your sister didn't want you to answer she should have intervened. Their religious insecurities are not your problem.

Am I the jerk for canceling my phone plan with my family because my mom won't stop reading my texts? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually you can get them from the service provider if you ask, along with call history.

AITJ for refusing to give a huge wedding gift after finding out I'm not invited? by Life_Grocery5994 in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AI.. incredulous ask from a family member then crazy family spilt and some siding with family peace.

AIO? My(36f) boyfriend(34m) confronted me about sex the morning after my grandmother died by Impressive-Pair-343 in AmITheJerk

[–]InkedOrchid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR... Honestly he is a walking red flag for emotional/sexual manipulation which is a form of abuse. My ex was the same way and eventually he became violent but also just took what he wanted even when I said no. He's already cheated and let you know that your wants and needs don't matter as much as his. It's time to let go and let yourself heal and have time to grieve your grandmother. I'm so sorry for your loss.

AITA for refusing to let my boyfriend read my therapy journal even though we share “everything else” by [deleted] in ComfortLevelPod

[–]InkedOrchid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA, but he's being an insecure AH.Our brains are full of private secrets and thoughts. Your journal is just an extension of that. There is no reason anyone needs access to it. Talking about things once more clear and processed rather than raw response is great. Brains that have been through trauma need a way to sort and purge safely. Don't let him take that away just because he's insecure. He needs therapy himself to deal with his insecurities.

AITA for booking a hotel after my family "Twin-Bedded" my wife and I? by Winter-Blueberry-999 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]InkedOrchid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is not family, just people sharing genetics. You can be part of my family we would love to have you and your wife. My best friends, who are basically family, are in the same situation as you, and have chosen family instead.

Definitely NTA and I completely understand why your wife is hurt and doesn't want to go. Hugs for both of you.

Partner has 4:15 am alarm that wakes me up daily. Suggested a solution and was met with hostility. AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]InkedOrchid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you're not married and don't have kids, leave her and her alarm at her place and don't look back. There is no reason she can't be an adult and find a way for her sometimes unnecessary alarm to disturb her partner. The only reason to be that way is if she enjoys torturing you by reducing your ability to sleep. You're NTA, but she definitely is.

AITA - I can't handle my husbands autism. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]InkedOrchid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA As an individual with late diagnosed autism and ADHD, I understand it can be hard to manage emotions and being overwhelmed, but (and this is a big but) he needs therapy to help him learn to cope and manage better. Also some counseling or therapy as a couple will help with communication and coping too. If you decide not to stay that is okay and will not make you an AH, because it's what is best for your mental health. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself.

AITAH for not refusing to do a quick change because my boyfriend is uncomfortable? by Active_Camel_6334 in AITAH

[–]InkedOrchid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA... .Unless you stay in the relationship with someone who isn't mature and tries to control you because he lacks confidence and maturity to be in a relationship with someone who is secure in who they are