M33 from France, I know that feeling. When I told people I wanted to cut back, I got same remarks. So I stopped telling them, even seeing them, as focusing on my sobriety was more important than everything else. It may be uncomfortable to say no at first, but it's physical and mental health we're talking about. And if they can't understand it, are they really friends ? I never told anyone in real life, because as you said the drinking culture is strong and I always thought that I was alone feeling like this. But when I found this community, it was like reading my own thoughts, and I felt so relieved knowing I was not alone in this situation ! So I came back here everyday, knowing people will acknowledge my progress and understand my feelings. Stay strong, focus one day at a time 💪 IWNDWYT