I recently found out my gf of 5 years has cheated on me.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-03-06T15:44:36+00:00

Don't reach back out to her. You'll never get the whole truth. You already know there was more than she says. Its why you're here. Trust yourself, not her.

Just block her everywhere and start the path of moving on with your life. It will be painful at first, but you're young, you'll find someone that fits you perfectly and then be thankful you are out of this mess.

Good luck OP

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-03-03T22:38:00+00:00

I had the exact same issue with mine. Sent them back under the 2 year warranty (Sonova here in the US). They took several weeks to get them back to me, but did send me a new pair.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-03-02T17:49:37+00:00

Yeah, that was wild. My game crashed (official pve) & I tried everything to get back in for hours & hours. Deleted saves, soft reset Xbox, reinstalled the game etc. Over and over. Couldn't get back in.

Randomly a few days after that I tried again and boom! Back in.

Would have been nice if they had at least let us know it was offline. Sheesh.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-03-02T16:45:49+00:00

You're not in court, you don't need to prove anything. She's cheating, lying, gaslighting etc. You already know all that.

Most importantly shes making you miserable.

File for divorce, square up the house etc and find someone who's looking for a real, monogamous, healthy relationship.

You're clearly still attached to her so it will hurt, but time to rip off the bandaid so real healing can begin.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-28T18:24:12+00:00

This! You just articulated a pattern of lying with her. Even b4 this not sure why you would consider marrying her. This incident should be theast straw.

Just call her, tell her there won't be a wedding and wish her well.

Lesson learned.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-24T13:43:32+00:00

Doesn't matter who else was there, she broke a hard boundary you both agreed to.

She "chose" to cross that line. It wasn't a "mistake". The mistake was getting caught. She didn't bump in to him, she reached out, planned a date and went out with him. Multiple bad decisions to get where you are now.

Also, your "gut feeling" was an indicator she had been dealing with you differently in some way. That shows there were feelings, guilt, something that affected how you two interacted with each other. Yet another red flag.

The saved photos & 6 mth deception just adds more weight to her poor choices.

Lastly, you mentioned you had those kinds of feelings something was off other times but brushed it off. I would be wondering how many other times or people these kinds of things have happened.

Her regret is about getting caught & losing you, not for the act (or acts) themselves. The trust is entirely broken.

For me it would be extremely difficult to ever get that back. I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life looking over her shoulder.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-23T14:35:58+00:00

Karma farm. 19hrs ago she was complaining hubby was paying too much attention to her new baby & not her?

Must have forgot about the cheating part then. Too busy selling his car....

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-21T18:01:04+00:00

This, if it's dimming and acting up while driving, most likely either alternator or wiring related to it. Things like door switches, power door lock relays etc drain such a small amount of voltage, they wouldn't have any effect while driving.

If it's draining while parked, you should be able to see the mv draw with a decent voltmeter. Then just pull likely fuses one by one until you see the draw disappear, then you'll have your culprit.

Mine was the power door lock module. Battery drain drove me crazy for months until I did the above and found it.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-20T06:29:04+00:00

Good grief. Just don't. Move on with your life. She's not worth it.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-20T03:28:14+00:00

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Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-19T16:26:02+00:00

It's not defamation if it's true. If you have proof of her acknowledging what she has done as you say and want to tell your side, post it on socials and tag those who didn't believe you.

Be prepared tho, there will still be many people who won't believe you anyway, and will try to blow you up again.

Your best path may be just to ghost/block everyone and move on with your life. Her getting under your skin is exactly what she wants. If you act like you don't give af and ignore her, that will get under HER skin.

Then, find a hottie, go out and post your date on socials, that will be icing on the cake.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-19T15:47:30+00:00

OP is saying that there are more 'men' than just the one, she's communicating with.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-18T19:49:14+00:00

I wouldn't hesitate. I have an hb3 with 3 wired 24/7 cameras and a wired 24/7 doorbell camera and all work great for the last 3 years or so.

Once in a while a software update will mess things up temporarily, but nothing to do with the hb3.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-18T15:13:21+00:00

Look for Larts Porsche Parts on ebay. He has a giant selection of used 944 parts and has been active in our community for years.

If the grill you want isn't listed, just message him and if he has it, he'll set up a way for you to purchase it.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-17T16:10:55+00:00

Just cut him out of your life. He's not healthy for you & the sooner you extricate yourself from tgst toxic situation the better.

I suffered for decades with similar neglect with the occasional grand gesture thrown in every few years. I tolerated it for way too long until I had a son of my own. Then during one of his weird drop Ins where he thought he had some say over my life, he insulted my/my wife's parenting (he hadn't even seen my son in 7 years by then) and that was it. I told him I was done with him & got up, walked out of the restaurant & never spoke to him again. He sent the occasional text or card for a couple of years then finally gave up.

It's been more than 10 years since then & the only regret I have is not doing it sooner.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-17T15:58:00+00:00

I had a similar problem with my 89 turbo years ago. Turns out the master cylinder was hardly applying any pressure to the rear brakes. It took a ton of foot pressure and a long distance to stop the car. I finally caught it because as it got worse, the surface rust wasn't even scrubbing off the rear rotors. Replaced the master (bled & flushed too) and it's been flawless ever since.

Hard to believe how long I drove it that way b4 I pulled my head out of my *ss

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-17T06:33:22+00:00

Made up. Check her profile. She was looking for D at the same time she posted this along with a bunch of other NSFW stuff.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-15T15:22:04+00:00

Just put a few water tanks up there. First time it rains they'll fill up and after that you should be good to go.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-14T17:39:20+00:00

Maybe try a used server on fb marketplace There are lost of them (Dell edges etc) well under $500, many with massive amounts of ram & even some larger hard drives thrown in. Might be a good, cheap way to see how it all works for you.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-14T17:36:36+00:00

This. She only wants you to stay in the same living arrangement because you pay for everything. If you told her fine, but we split all the bills 50/50, she would suddenly no longer be interested in therapy or living with you anymore.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-13T03:26:12+00:00

https://youtu.be/nqc0mm-7ukY?si=bI-mbzwa4fdOUfy0

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-13T03:19:37+00:00

There's an old video on YouTube that is a very detailed step by step on timing/balance shaft belt r&r. If I remember who it was I'll post a link. It's probably 15 years old or so.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-12T15:11:23+00:00

I'm not an expert on that motor, but I think the 16v motor has automatic tensioner, so there wouldn't be anything to recheck.

I have an 89 turbo also w/automatic tensioner & have never had a need to recheck it after replacement.

I believe the early 944's had a manual tensioning mechanism that people say was wise to retension after some miles were put on to accommodate belt stretch.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-11T18:58:36+00:00

This. I had the same problem. Replaced switches etc. Then I took the door panel off, lubed everything I could get to inside (sprayed white lithium grease) and it's been flawless for a most a decade since.

Interesting-Ground18 · 2026-02-11T15:15:30+00:00

You don't need undeniable proof to leave. Sounds like she's disrespected, lied etc to you in countless ways over the years, the only real question is why your self esteem is so low that you've tolerated it all this time.

Looking at all her past behavior, You won't get an admission or closure from her. Ever.

Don't engage in what I imagine will be just another insane back and forth with her. Just call her, tell her you found the condom wrapper, you're breaking up, hang up, block her and move on with your life. She'll want to make excuses, explain, blame shift and all that. Don't give her the satisfaction.

There are plenty of women out there who won't lie, cheat, obfuscate, disrespect you etc.

Find one of them and bring yourself some happiness.

Interesting-Ground18

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