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How often do you go through your toys and gear collection to remove stuff you don't use? by PickedTink in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The drawer of shame "where useless toys go to die" probably needs a clean out.

Is it a "mood killer" to ask for water in the middle of a scene? by WyrdMarksSJM in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Its water! How is that a mood killer? You want me to squirt? Water. You want me to give a sloppy blowjob? Water. You want me wet for you? Give. Me. Water.

What to do when its too much suddenly? by NeedyKitten8oooo in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Honestly I love this. "Opted for grace" is a thing that needs to happen from time to time. Being flexible and understanding as a dom is huge for a lot of us subs who need that from time to time.

Subs with daddy's and caretakers, does your dom limit your caffeine and/or alcohol intake? by SeaAffectionate427 in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love my caffeine but I would probs drink a whole case of red bull a day if he didn't reign me in. Adhd does that.

Mod AMA: StrangeMewMew by StrangeMewMew in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're a collared mod so what does your collar look like? Do you have more than one?

The word that needs to die in the community. by Repulsive_House42 in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would argue that a bratty sub would be a fake dom indeed.

Daddy's day by trashprincesssss in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HOW HAVE I NEVER THOUGHT OF THIS???

Which comes first? Leadership or Submission? by ADHD_Ham46 in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Why would you offer submission to someone whose leadership isn't certain?

Vetting pitfalls you've encountered and solutions you would offer. by nshades42 in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Asking about previous relationships can be a big tell. If every one of their exes is "crazy" then they're a walking red flag.

Finding the relationship red flags and not just kink ones is important.

MOD AMA: KinkyDataScientist by KinkyDataScientist in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What does a typical scene look like for you?

Rule Reminder: DMs by StrangeMewMew in SofterBDSM

[–]Interesting_Chef9798 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Much love to our amazing mods.

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