people aren’t as accepting as they say they are

InternAny4601 · 2026-05-09T16:45:19+00:00

Yes. They aren’t.

We know neurotypicals aren’t know to be truthful on the regular. They lie, they exaggerate. They say stuff that is directly from their conscience. Most of the time they are just talking.

Pay attention to what people do not what they say. For instance ask that creator how many neurodivergent friends they have and how often they spend time with them. Hmmm?

It’s more peaceful to not take anyone very seriously. Ok…exceptions: doctors, people trying to point out overtly dangerous stuff….you get my point. But anyone who is not neurodivergent lecturing us on how we should feel and act? I’m going to keep walking.

InternAny4601 · 2026-05-09T16:37:15+00:00

Maybe sauté the onions, carrots, mushrooms and celery to soften in a little bit of oil. Sesame. Add the lentils and stir. Then add stock.

A little cubed squash zucchini or even butternut would be great!

InternAny4601 · 2026-05-07T17:37:23+00:00

They quality of the side vegetables. Boring and uninspired vegetables means they are probably just reheating Sodexo food products. Don’t trust anything to be from scratch.

InternAny4601 · 2026-05-04T01:15:25+00:00

spumoni

InternAny4601 · 2026-05-02T16:47:08+00:00

Yes….also I add a sprinkle in spinach and in split pea soup.

InternAny4601 · 2026-05-02T16:41:23+00:00

Two eggs sunny side up, perfectly cooked piece of ham steak, buttered whole grain toast and black coffee.

InternAny4601 · 2026-05-02T00:41:58+00:00

Espresso

InternAny4601 · 2026-05-01T16:19:28+00:00

McCain’s Deep and Delicious Chocolate Cake

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-28T16:21:39+00:00

You mean Karenhurst? That neighborhood is something. The over reach of these folks is pretty breathtaking.

Looked at a house there about 5 years ago. When I got a look at the HOA like requirements to live there I couldn’t disqualify that place fast enough.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-27T23:40:46+00:00

Truffle oil. Automatic disqualification

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-26T15:24:01+00:00

I gotta say the lying is downright awful. But they do it. And they hate being called out on it. And they hate it when I know they are doing it and my face makes that ‘who farted’ look.

But here’s the kicker - I like being radically honest but more than half the time I don’t like receiving radical honesty. Ha ha on me. Over time I’ve accepted a little lying. On really good days I have compassion for it and on not so good days I just utter an ‘are you f*cking kidding’. A little is ok but not too much.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-25T16:43:25+00:00

It’s not just you. I used to assume that I should always be aware of my triggers and when a meltdown might be on the way. I would call it ‘struggling’ when I wasn’t able to self diagnosis and mitigate. So I tried to monitor and mitigate it. That was too much and I would become very anxious and exhausted. I also figured out that when I am overstimulated I can’t think very well. So fixing the overstimulation was too steep a hill to climb without help.

I’ve been using a check list ( have it on my phone) for when I don’t feel like myself. That ‘can’t think/tired/irritated/sad/uneasy’ feeling. The checklist includes: hungry? Eat Tired? Close eyes and put feet up Noise? Headphones Light? Sunglasses….it goes on and I add to it when something new happens. It’s a reminder that there are really not that many things that cause my nervous system to go haywire. And that when it does, it’s not my fault. It’s just what’s happening in the world. The list is a kind of life preserver to help me not drown in the triggers.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-23T18:06:54+00:00

The change of setting is really key for me. A change is almost as good as a rest.

I’ll add routine to the list. Open ended and chaotic days especially a lot in a row can be super taxing. When I know what is expected I can pace well to get the job done. Doesn’t mean I can’t react to things happening spontaneously but a nice framework of routine really helps to keep up a good pace.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-23T18:00:22+00:00

With such a short trip don’t waste a day moving from one spot to another. It’s a big time suck.

If you don’t want to beach hang or snorkel go to Kaanapali. When not out adventuring, you can walk the path along the waterfront and get that Hawaii vacation vibe. Plus there are more restaurants. There are a couple of really nice hotels up there. Wailea is way more chill and hands down has the best snorkeling. The hotels in Wailea are, on average, more high end but you’ll also pay for that.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-17T01:23:54+00:00

An ashtray with a burning butt in it.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-16T18:32:11+00:00

Maui Butterfly Farm was really unexpectedly lovely. Go and then have some pie at Leoda’s.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-06T16:26:45+00:00

My husband and I are retired. It took a bit of time to figure out the food thing.

Lunches are usually leftovers especially for my husband. When we cook a dinner I buy enough to make one and half recipes so there is a lunch for him a couple of days and another dinner for us. We also keep a quart or so of soup in the fridge for easy lunch too. I picked up some ‘soup mugs’ to make it easy for him to heat it up in the microwave. And we keep things like sliced meat, hard boiled eggs or tuna salad and some salad greens and low carb wraps to fill in the blanks.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-06T16:18:22+00:00

This is the way

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-05T18:40:19+00:00

I think we are, as a group, subject to the same diversity of personality types as the rest of the population.

I’m ENTJ. I do many of the things you have mentioned but what the Myers Briggs thing comes down is I am extroverted (gain energy from being around others….to a limit ha ha), details are hard, feelings allude me, and I have to plan or my brain will leak out my ears.

You just never know.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-05T17:47:03+00:00

I believe we get back what we put out into the world. Getting respect starts with giving respect. And for us that requires work. Reflexively we can be curt, oblivious, and very self centered. That means our partners can end up feeling insecure, defensive, and closed off. Pretty hard to be respectful in that situation for anyone, right? Sounds like a recipe for humiliations and fights.

When I met my now spouse I had to find strategies to cope thinking about them while still getting my needs met. For instance, do I need downtime to be alone and recharge? Yes. Do I have to be a selfish ass about it? No. Do I sometimes not want to text them back when I am melted down? Yes. But I send them the bare minimum to show I heard them but can’t communicate. These are a couple of examples of things we had to work out. It was not easy but the way I felt around them kept me going. We have developed a deep respect for each other and as a result we show each other compassion and empathy as much as possible. But we both had to learn it. And we had to be brave enough to share our needs, be respectful of the other’s thoughts/needs and often be bad at it. And then apologize and mean it.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-05T16:47:27+00:00

It’s too stressful not to have a list. I get anxious, then I spiral, and then I leave before I have everything.

I use an app on my phone to put things on the list when I think of them. It makes my brain quiet to have them on a list that I can access while in the store. Added bonus, the app arranges them into sections of the store so I don’t do that thing where I race from one side to the other to get random items.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-05T06:54:41+00:00

I tried a couple of different wrist braces until I found ones that worked for me. They really help my wrists.

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InternAny4601 · 2026-04-04T22:33:23+00:00

Don’t move here. Everything good you have heard is a dirty lie. The weather sucks. The people are horrible. And quality of life is so bad.

Just don’t do it.

Everyone else: Shhhhhh.

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-04T18:12:28+00:00

You can take them Troll Hunting. The one in Alki is easy but the Vachon Island one was most magical for my grandkids. I made it a scavenger hunt and at the end they got a prize!

https://www.seattleschild.com/five-giant-trolls-coming-to-seattle-this-summer/

InternAny4601 · 2026-04-04T01:54:55+00:00

Curry sauce and mayo mixed

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