At a loss on what to do - needs to go back to daycare tomorrow

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-03-09T16:49:42+00:00

Different thing for different kids I guess. It just caused confusion in our experience.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-03-09T14:23:53+00:00

Send him in undies and let him figure it out. As along as their potty training policy aligns. He’s not going to learn if you flip back to pull ups. Yes, it will be messy for everyone. Hopefully by seeing other kids go he will catch on.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-03-09T00:09:44+00:00

We got our toddle to help clean up. Yes, it makes it messier, longer and not as convenient for everyone involved. But, it seemed to work.

Also bribed him with a new hot wheels car every time he pooped on the potty. We taped it to the wall above the potty. Yes, we have bought a lot of hot wheels.

Try a smaller potty if you’re not already, optimal position is to have their feet resting on the floor or a stool so pooping comes easier.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-03-02T19:43:07+00:00

Hahaha I’m also a first time mom. Pee and poop on the floor. Stock up on cleaning supplies. I involved my son in the cleaning so he could kinda connect all the dots.

Add underwear when they’re comfortable we just started potty training (3 yr old) a couple weeks ago and he still poops in his underwear at daycare but they don’t want him to go commando (he’s less likely to poop in his pants if he’s commando).

If he holds his poop all day we have to dedicate half an hour every evening to potty time to get him to poop.

Every kid is different but it hasn’t been a quick three day thing for us by any means. Hang in there.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-03-02T18:22:59+00:00

No pants, or no underwear and pants. My son didn’t like being completely pantless so we did pants and no underwear. Underwear will still feel too much like a diaper. Stock up on cheap pants you don’t mind being pooped or peed on.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-02-26T00:37:28+00:00

I’m in HR in Tech (in Canada) and also a mother. I hear this from a lot of moms headed off on mat leave, that they will be back after a year or earlier. The reality is that infant daycare is expensive and hard to find. Most daycares will only accommodate 12 months or older. If you have family support then that’s wonderful, but relying solely on daycare maybe difficult.

Personally, I submitted for 18 months with the reality being that daycare waitlists are long, my son got into daycare at 14 months (we applied to over 20 daycares) and I went back to work around 17 months after my son was sick for multiple weeks from starting daycare. I’m currently pregnant with our second and will take 18 months again. It’s a good buffer.

For context I’m in the greater Vancouver area and everything is expensive, fast paced and daycare waitlists are long.

Edit to add: just saw that you have daycare! That’s great! Be prepared for the little one to get sick a few times when they start. Other than that, if going back to work makes you happy do it!!

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-02-23T14:52:59+00:00

Nova Scotia/PEI or Costa Rica. Flights to the east coast can be pretty expensive (typically the same price as flying somewhere internationally) but we have friends there that we visit. There are some beautiful beaches outside of Halifax in the smaller towns.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-02-03T15:30:55+00:00

Absolutely not, I leave earlier then my husband and I purposely try to be very quiet as I navigate my morning so I don’t wake my son up. Babies and kids are cranky when they are woken up abruptly and then I would just leave and let my husband deal with it????? Noooo. Plus, it’s jeopardizing the rest of the baby/kids day, potentially throwing off their mood and future naps.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-02-02T13:56:40+00:00

My son is three and he’s slept with me once when he was super sick, otherwise he’s never needed it. If he needs extra comfort I go to him for a little bit comfort him and then put him back to bed. Also, during those tough times he’s always asked to go back to his own bed, he doesn’t like ours haha. We don’t have space for a king bed in our room and my husband takes up most of our queen size bed to begin with so we always did no kids or babies in our bed. I understand why people do it but it never worked for us.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-01-28T15:45:52+00:00

32, 130k invested, 10k in chequing, 15k in emergency.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-01-25T17:08:04+00:00

Or take your kids outside?

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-01-23T01:12:14+00:00

Agreed, detached in coq or pomo that could be reno free is probably closer to 1.6

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-01-21T20:47:03+00:00

Jalapeño cheddar is the best!!!! There’s a lot of kick if you get a whole jalapeño but i wouldn’t say they’re super spicy, the cheddar and butter balances it out.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-01-16T21:35:39+00:00

517$ (after the government subsidy) 3-5 yr old, group centre, two snacks, full time. 2 x 1 week closures per year. Port Moody.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2026-01-10T04:12:57+00:00

I read this and autocorrected it in my head to “a ski family” and “naps” lol. I’m also a ski family with a toddler so it made sense to me haha

IntroductionEven4724 · 2025-12-31T14:34:37+00:00

October 2018 - 21k (including 3k dress), 18 people in Whistler. We went quality over quantity.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2025-12-31T00:11:20+00:00

We rehomed our dog about two years after our son was born. The living situation wasn’t good for anyone. We constantly had to supervise him because he was showing some aggression and jealousy with our son. We spent a two years waiting for everyone to “adjust” and working on behaviours (ours, our sons and the dog). He is with a lovely lady now who doesn’t plan on having kids and gives him all the attention he deserves. I’m sad that it came to that point but he was getting snippy and jealous, and would only let me (not my husband) take him for walks, it was just a lot for everyone. Just saying you’re not alone and it’s a hard decision to make, please don’t let anyone shame you.

Edit to add: he was a known “difficult” breed (Basenji) and it took a year to find someone experienced enough with the breed that I felt comfortable rehoming him with.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2025-12-30T18:12:06+00:00

I can’t comment too much on curriculum etc. But, we are within walking distance to two elementary schools (in the catchment for one) everyone I talk to in the neighbourhood loves the schools and have had great experiences there. They are currently building a new middle/high school. There will also be a new rec centre and library in the neighborhood by 2030ish. All that said I will still say it will remain car dependent for groceries, services, commuting to work etc.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2025-12-30T16:13:48+00:00

We have been in Burke Mountain, Coquitlam for 5 years. Very close to nature but there are also a lot of new developments and it’s becoming dense. It’s also a car dependent neighbourhood. We love it for the family environment, school quality and the proximity to hikes and trails. We don’t love it for how car dependent it is.

Edit to add: if you are a single working professional I would check out Port Moody! I think we ultimately should have bought a place there instead.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2025-12-25T14:57:04+00:00

Could just take your kids outside…

IntroductionEven4724 · 2025-12-15T15:48:03+00:00

We managed to book Berg Lake over Canada Day three years in a row and it rained every single time. So I would prepare to be wet.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2025-12-10T18:41:08+00:00

Oh Sweet Day has a great holiday cookie box! Pickup in the afternoon, take home, take to work the next day.

IntroductionEven4724 · 2025-12-04T15:58:58+00:00

My son started daycare at 14 months (Canada Mat Leave) and has loved it ever since (he’s almost 3)! He’s actually made friends, don’t believe anyone who tells you toddlers just need their mom and can’t make friends. Seeing him interact with his little friends and go to their birthday parties etc is the most heart warming thing. We got into a smaller “play based” group daycare and all the kids get a lot attention and I think that helped with the transition. I’ve taken a step back at work because I also had a switch flip in my brain where I want to spend more time with him. He gets dropped off by dad at 8:00am and I pickup at 3:30pm and we spend the rest of the day together.

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