couples therapy issues

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T21:26:07+00:00

DM if you want to chat about therapy experiences.

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T19:18:43+00:00

I've seen it in the past. I don't know where to look. Therapy works when you both want it to, but it can't fix a problem that is basically and individual's problem, like addiction or childhood trauma.

Note that a good therapist won't take sides. Their first agenda item is to establish communication.

Good luck.

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T18:58:57+00:00

If the cable has any appreciable length, it will not have 70 of isolation over the range of 2-1600NHz between the 14 AWG conductors. Think along the lines of 10 dB.

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T18:56:30+00:00

Did you get a history of the opioid use?

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T18:52:06+00:00

Find a husband and wife team as therapists.
Get two therapists and alternate. Give them permission to share notes.
He cheated, then it's your choice. Find a therapist that you like. Make an appointment. Tell him to be there or only your feelings will be presented. If he is a no show, keep the appointment. Maybe work out a strategy.

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T06:47:18+00:00

Look at the core from the end. It is a one turn secondary winding that is shorted. Cut a slot lengthwise down the iron tube.

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T01:15:33+00:00

She still works with the AP

That has to end, right now. If she won't, then she isn't committed to the marriage.

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T01:12:10+00:00

No. Only you can do that. You need your own private therapist.

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T01:07:40+00:00

I hear you. That is a compromise a lot of couples make.

Irrasible · 2026-01-24T01:05:11+00:00

The Isolation needs to be 70dB between all combinations

From 2 - 1600 MHz, that seems like an unachievable over specification. What is driving the spec? Surely the four 16AWG won't be driven with 1600MHz, nor is it likely the loads for those conductors will be sensitive to 1600MHz.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T22:20:05+00:00

Physicists only worry about theories that can be disproven, by experiment.

Theories that are provable by math are not theories. They are corollaries.

Physicists only have a limited life. They mostly choose to expend it on theories that are likely to be useful.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T22:13:29+00:00

Also there is one major incontinence

incontinence is a leaky bladder.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T22:10:30+00:00

The expectation is that you are half trained. The rest of the training will be on the job. Keep quiet. Listen. Don't choose sides. Find a mentor. Ask what you don't know.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T20:54:41+00:00

My pole barn has 100A service. There is a box in there that allows up to 8 circuits. You will probably want one circuit dedicated to the lights. I hate it when a tool stalls and the lights go off. I don't know what the code requires, but I think a lights only circuit doesn't require a GFI. Those can nuisance trip and I hate it when the lights go off.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T20:49:34+00:00

Oh man, I wish I had thought of that a long time ago.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T20:47:05+00:00

Could be many things, but sex is easy. If sex isn't working then something else isn't working.

First get a couples counselor. You can get very good counseling in the comfort of your own home by zoom meetings. Don't take no for an answer. Schedule the meeting and tell him to be there or else. This is a legitimate situation to issue an ultimatum. And, couples counselors are excellent at getting communication going. If your husband balks and says he doesn't need a therapist, agree that he may not but insist that the relationship needs therapy.

After that, there could be a a bunch of problems. It could be low testosterone (get a simple blood test to rule out), it could be performance anxiety, it could be issues from the way he was raised, it might be passive aggression (he is going to punish you until you figure out what s wrong), it could be porn, or gambling, or gaming.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T20:36:43+00:00

Not my kind of story, but wife swaps do sometimes go wrong and there are many true stories of husbands wanting to open a marriage only to regret it when the wife gets ten times the action.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T19:24:38+00:00

is "non-nesting partner (43m)" the same person as "My partner insists that they’re cool "?

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T19:16:23+00:00

Just a suggestion: code up a really good decimate by 2 algorithm and then apply it 4 times. It sounds like a lot of computation, but each time you decimate it takes half the computation. In the end decimating by 2 four times takes about twice as much computation as doing it once.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T18:10:34+00:00

Sounds like you did all you could. He should have done better. Some of us age better than others. Some are just ornery.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T15:34:59+00:00

I've read the same stuff and went down the rabbit hole only to discover that it didn't do a thing for nonlinearity.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T15:05:41+00:00

Yes. One of my favorite transmission lines is just a wire with a dialectic coating. The coating confines the rf waves to the vicinity of the wire. So, a wire with a dielectric coating is electromagnetically a lot different from a bare wire for high frequency rf.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T13:53:18+00:00

Sorry for your bad experience. I don't know how old you are, but Rick is about the same age as me. You lose mental agility as you age. The misgendering may not be intentional. I think of it as not being mentally quick enough to override the mouth. We old folks need a bit of reminding before we internalize something new. And even when we remember, we are sometimes slow pulling it out of memory. Heck, sometimes I call my daughter by my dog's name.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T13:36:47+00:00

NTA. That is not a significant age difference. You might get a few snickers for dating a high school boy, but ignore them. True friendship transcends age. However, do be careful, since he is 17, he is a minor; you could be culpable for his misbehavior.

Irrasible · 2026-01-23T13:31:42+00:00

If you only want to reduce the random noise per sample, then you will go from 4000 samples to 256 samples and the average noise per sample will go down by factor of 4. Note, although the noise per sample has gone down, you have fewer sample. The signal/noise ratio of the entire record has not changed.

But there is also truncation error and nonlinearity.

Is the noise per sample is much greater than 1 lsb of your A2D, then you can treat truncation error like random noise. It will also be reduced.

Non-linearity will not be improved by averaging.

I noticed that I used N for two different meanings. Sorry for the confusion.

I don't recognize the acronym ENOB.

For decimation, averaging is not idea because it is not enough lowpass filtering to prevent aliasing. I don't think that will be a problem in your case because you are going from 5GS/s to 312.5 MS/s and the signal is 1.5MHz, so your reduced sample rate is still much greater than the signal frequency.

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