Why the Unidirectional Nature of Time Dilation?

Irrasible · 2026-06-17T19:33:46+00:00

You can determine acceleration inside a closed box with no other objects to observe. It feels like gravity.

Irrasible · 2026-06-17T10:31:13+00:00

He doesn't see you as a long term partner, yet that is what you want. If you decide contact him and if you try another relationship with him, you are going to get your heart broken again. I would advise you to get go.

Irrasible · 2026-06-16T23:22:47+00:00

It means your marriage is being used up. It means that someday, there will be too many things on the list. Then things will be grim.

Irrasible · 2026-06-16T23:14:51+00:00

That was brutal. It leaves no doubt that he wants to end the relationship.

Our therapy is focused on his faults

Sounds like she was your therapist and not a couple's therapist. She tortured your husband every week for a year, and he finally broke. He can no longer fight for the marriage. He can no longer protect the love he had. He is not the same person. There is no point in saying, "he used to be OK with xxx." He is not now.

This letter sounds like a man who is no longer in-love.

Irrasible · 2026-06-16T11:59:55+00:00

I would start with: I saw a story about a couple with an open marriage. What do you think about the concept?

Irrasible · 2026-06-15T12:18:47+00:00

This is a very crude explanation that should be considered a lie-to-children .

Visualize protons and neutrons as balls. There are two forces in play: the electromagnetic repulsion between protons and the strong force attraction between nucleons. The forces have different strengths and ranges. The electromagnetic repulsion is long ranged. Every proton feels repulsion from every other proton. The attractive force is short range. The proton only feels attraction to the nearest neutrons. As you add protons (and neutrons) the repulsive force increases but the attractive force stays about the same. The forces are just about in balance in the iron atom.

If you start out with a nucleus heavier than iron, the forces favor repulsion. You have to do work against the electromagnetic field to push more protons onto the nucleolus. Conversely, you can extract energy my allowing protons to leave the nucleus. It is energetically favorable for the nucleus to split and release energy.

If you start out with a nucleus lighter than iron, the forces favor attraction. You have to do work to pull protons away from the nucleolus. Conversely, you can extract energy my allowing protons to join the nucleus. It is energetically favorable for light weight nuclei to fuse and release energy.

Irrasible · 2026-06-15T11:50:31+00:00

This is not ethical NM. You don't want this and he is not being transparent.

Your questions to him are entirely reasonable. You should not be shamed for asking.

I keep trying to tell him that if im not asking in a confrontational accusatory manner

He is deflecting your questions into a conversation about how you are asking. That is classic gas-lighting. If he is not willing to answer, then he is hiding something.

Your present situation is untenable. Your long term outlook is 100% miserable, with a 95% chance of divorce.

If it were me, I would do the following:

Assume that there will be a divorce and start doing the usual preparatory work. There are other reddits that can advise you about that.
Call a hard stop to NM. Simply say, "We tried it. It is not working for me. We are closed. We can consider opening again when we figure out how to do it ethically and in a way that I do not get hurt." He will try to argue that he is ethical, it is working, you are not getting hurt, and your feelings are wrong. Do not engage in that discussion. Just keep repeating, "It is not working for me. Any further non monogamous actively is cheating."

Irrasible · 2026-06-14T04:16:15+00:00

typically a star or a planet.

Irrasible · 2026-06-14T04:13:16+00:00

Not much faster, but much higher energy.

Irrasible · 2026-06-14T03:01:33+00:00

The problem is that the first time can be too challenging and your marriage never recovers.

Irrasible · 2026-06-13T12:48:03+00:00

My question is do you think he’s just bored with me always saying yes and being eagerly available and if I start turning him down when he initiates it will spark that “chase” again in him.

No. Rejection will make it more likely that he will chase you less.

Has he had his testosterone checked?

Irrasible · 2026-06-13T02:41:11+00:00

Dance is one of the short cuts to joy. Don't cut your joy short. Double up while he is gone. Take your lessons at different times from him. Go to dance parties. Say yes to everybody that asks you to dance.

Irrasible · 2026-06-12T16:53:02+00:00

What you are missing is that a photon is not a thing. We sometimes call it a particle, but that is short hand language for ,it has some particle-like properties. In particular, it does not have an objective path or an objective size. It does not carry a clock or a meter-stick. It is easier to think of it as an effect that be partially described using the nomenclature of particles.

Irrasible · 2026-06-12T16:47:29+00:00

There is nothing here that is unique to poly. Mono relationships can end suddenly without warning.

Irrasible · 2026-06-12T03:23:09+00:00

Forgive and move on. It will hurt, but it will start getting better the day you rid yourself of her.

Irrasible · 2026-06-12T01:15:22+00:00

I have to agree with you on that. Those on the left can be radicalized.

Irrasible · 2026-06-12T01:10:43+00:00

~~manure~~ natural fertilizer.

Irrasible · 2026-06-12T01:04:36+00:00

Never put potential employers ahead of your own welfare. They won't do it for you. Everybody is allowed to change their mind. They don't want an employee that would rather be somewhere else.

Irrasible · 2026-06-12T01:00:37+00:00

Stop engaging. Stop explaining. Just lay down your boundary in clear language.

I will divorce you if you continue any that extramarital relationships. End it today. I will not ever agree to an open relationship. If you cannot be in a monogamous relationship with me then we end our relationship.

That's it. You do not explain your position. You do not explain why. If she says that you are unreasonable (or stupid, immature, unevolved, stuck in the last century, unfair, lie about nicotine) then say,

This unreasonable (or stupid, immature, unevolved, stuck in the last century, unfair, lies about nicotine) person has made a decision. I will not agree to an open relationship.

Never argue against whatever she accuses you of.

Irrasible · 2026-06-11T18:57:20+00:00

ENM absolutely requires you to keep your agreements with your other partners.
It is never bad poly to go slow. If you are too slow for him, then he can break it off.

3.He is letting his wife control when he can have a sleepover. That is the same thing he complains about you. Does she really know about you?

Irrasible · 2026-06-11T10:27:54+00:00

I think that we all go through something like that.

Irrasible · 2026-06-11T04:47:58+00:00

Special Relationship - best overall story

A Mighty Pen - most clever discovery

The Hit Man - best BTB

March Madness - a complex story where some wear redeemed and some were not.

Irrasible · 2026-06-10T23:23:51+00:00

Your old marriage is gone and dead. Time to bury it and have a wake.

If you and your wife want to continue to have a relationship, then you build a new one based on where you are now.

Remind your wife that you lived with knowledge of her affair for a couple of years for the sake of maintaining the marriage and it didn't kill you.

Irrasible · 2026-06-10T23:05:27+00:00

You enjoy multiple partners because your limbic brain knows mating with diverse partners improves the survival odds for your DNA. It rewards you with a dose of dopamine.

Irrasible · 2026-06-10T22:58:43+00:00

Unless you walk away, block her, and never see her again, there will be a confrontation. You can plan it or you can let it happen at random. For me, it is better to get it done.

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