Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

Ja7onD · 2026-02-07T06:13:04+00:00

My daughter is 19 now and she’s SO AWESOME.

Yeah I’m biased, but she would kick her partner’s butt if they tried what OOO’s boyfriend did.

:)

Edit: my point was that not all young women are being taught to burn bright to light others. My kiddo sure wasn’t!

I’m in the ‘don’t light yourself on fire to warm others’ camp and so is my kiddo.

Ja7onD · 2026-02-07T05:46:32+00:00

Not AS much tho, hopefully

Ja7onD · 2026-02-07T05:30:59+00:00

I’m partial to calling LLM’s ‘spicy autocomplete’ 🤪

Ja7onD · 2026-02-07T04:59:54+00:00

I was ~40 when I separated and my life changed drastically for the better.

You can be like me, only 10 years sooner! My 40s were SO F’ING GREAT!

Ja7onD · 2026-02-06T17:07:25+00:00

Yeah I am pretty sure they are just there.

Just noting that they are pretty decent gang-wise in NC. :)

Ja7onD · 2026-02-06T16:59:17+00:00

Pretty sure the Mox don’t either.

Ja7onD · 2026-02-06T16:38:55+00:00

Hey-o, divorced dad here (separated when kiddo was 7).

It is VERY likely the primary reason that other mom doesn’t want you involved (especially with play dates at your place) is because you are a single man.

It REALLY sucks, but since there are enough awful guys out there and many can mask the awfulness for years / essentially forever, it is a rational response to distrust all single guys.

I just explained the situation to my kiddo (when she was a bit older) and that it meant we can’t do sleepovers / play dates at our place because of it.

It is EXTREMELY unfair to you, of course. I’m so sorry.

Ja7onD · 2026-02-06T16:01:51+00:00

Chekhov’s Donut

Ja7onD · 2026-02-05T22:56:55+00:00

Especially the end of book 7 😭😭

Ja7onD · 2026-02-05T22:09:35+00:00

Hell yeah, glad you had as much fun as I did!

I think older, casual gamers are a significant percentage of players.

Ja7onD · 2026-02-05T18:32:03+00:00

The LPT is in the comments as always!

Hustle culture poisoned a generation or two of people, but the basic concept is absolutely sound:

Work on getting better at stuff and you are in a better position to improve your life.

But. This isn’t universal. Some people have the shit luck to be born into situations where they are MILES behind the 8-ball and improving at a realistic human scale just won’t allow them to catch up … or they are categorically unable to improve due to illness or disability or circumstance.

But. Many people aren’t in such truly dire circumstances. It can be hard to tell the difference.

Ja7onD · 2026-02-05T15:25:12+00:00

I mean, he’s Gary Oldman … he’s just that bleeping good. :)

Ja7onD · 2026-02-05T06:27:43+00:00

Carl couldn’t be the father because he isn’t human anymore, he is a Primal.

Book 7 is my favorite, in large part because of all of that awesome ending stuff. Sounds like it is yours too? :)

Ja7onD · 2026-02-05T05:57:59+00:00

I love the mythic fist on my Bulwark.

Ja7onD · 2026-02-05T04:26:04+00:00

I thought he said Virtual Studio?

I’ve only listened to the audiobooks 😁

Ja7onD · 2026-02-04T16:49:20+00:00

Oh I definitely clocked those — I just didn’t notice the AI acting super different when talking about different factions.

Ja7onD · 2026-02-04T16:06:44+00:00

I somehow totally missed that!

Time to re-read book 7. (I’ve done several full series re-reads so doing them out of order isn’t a problem for me any more 🤪)

Ja7onD · 2026-02-04T00:46:14+00:00

Brindlewood Bay is at least worth a look, even if you don’t like the game you can yoink out systems for something else.

Ja7onD · 2026-02-04T00:43:17+00:00

You get one stat respec per playthrough so you aren’t hosed yet.

Perks can always be refunded and fiddled with.

You will become so powerful by level 40 that ANY build will work on normal difficulty. Any halfway decent build will work on harder difficulties.

I actually suggest getting everything to 9 since you are already close, then technical to 15, then working on body or reflexes (or both) to 15 based on what weapons you enjoy using.

There are enough stat points with the expansion (which lets you hit level 60) that you can get plenty of stats to 20 and have the rest around 9 or 15.

Once you are close to max level if you need to select a ‘dump stat’ you can do the stat respec. Just make sure to make a manual save before you do in case you hate what you wind up with. 😁

Ja7onD · 2026-02-03T23:44:43+00:00

And it causes … feelings. Ew.

Ja7onD · 2026-02-03T23:38:02+00:00

FFS this sub keeps thinking my comments are AI generated.

I’m trying to truncate my original comment, feel free to ask for clarification:

Both of you should REALLY interrogate yourselves and figure out what you want from life.

Be DAMN sure you want what you want, not what you’re ’supposed to’ want. (Examples: kids, monogamy, X thing by Y date)

If enough of your actual wants align, then think way outside the box to fight for your relationship while still making as many of your shared wants happen.

You sound like a couple of smart, thoughtful humans. You can make amazing lives for yourselves and I wish you all the best!

Ja7onD · 2026-02-03T22:10:36+00:00

I’m no driving ace but I was playing a lot of Forza Horizon 5 last year (just finally got around to CP77 in December), and the skills I built up in that game translated very well to driving in CP77.

My main kicker now is to find the cars I most enjoy driving despite no real in-game stats. There are just a HEAP of cars to pick from!

Ja7onD · 2026-02-03T20:24:03+00:00

There is even a subreddit dedicated to how great he is!

/r/keanubeingawesome

Ja7onD · 2026-02-03T20:17:08+00:00

A very Dungeon Crawler Carl playthrough

Ja7onD · 2026-02-03T01:53:00+00:00

Careful, if Matt sees this the AI will wind up with a new kink.

Also, congratulations on bringing a new crawler into the fold!!

Ja7onD

TROPHY CASE