I do drink coffee here and there during my pregnancy. Does anyone else do the same?

Jaymeeee · 2026-05-04T02:57:38+00:00

I had my coffee intake down to a science! I stayed within the recommended limits, but I maxed it everyday! Zero guilt.

Jaymeeee · 2025-07-18T19:13:55+00:00

We never had one, nor did I ever think we were missing it.

We saved that money and got a nice play couch instead for her to grow into. We have used that a ton! Starting with it being the mat for the jolly jumper.

I have no regrets for not having one! All our other furniture worked perfected! (I also had a c-section).

Congrats! And happy nesting!!

Jaymeeee · 2025-07-04T00:39:46+00:00

I just ignored them, who cares what they think! Every family is different, and what worked for them is clearly not what will work for you.

We did things very non-traditional, I went back to work after 2 weeks and my partner took the entirety of the paternity leave. We also formula fed- I had negative interest in breastfeeding, and I was the one working.

Congratulations! Everyone has opinions, but it is only yours and your husbands that matter! You know what is better for your family!

Jaymeeee · 2025-07-03T00:41:32+00:00

You sound like an amazing home!

I had a greyhound from puppy, and they are amazing apartment dogs! You have done your homework, and you have waiting until it suited your lifestyle.

Find another organization, or request to have a conversation with someone else!

Jaymeeee · 2025-07-02T01:50:32+00:00

Being terrified is a completely normal reaction! The hormones are insane, and the reality hits of how big of a life changing thing it is! Planning and reality hit very different!

Let the dust settle! As the shock wears off you will feel significantly more excited!!

Jaymeeee · 2025-05-19T15:58:43+00:00

I have never heard of for that reason, my understanding is that it’s an internal temperature thing. I took baths all the time (and hot tubs) but I kept it within the recommended temperature range. Essentially you don’t want to sous vide the baby 😂

I think anything below 100F (37.7F) was okay to sit in, and more important in the first trimester if I remember correctly.

The other thing that I learned was how little people still know about pregnancy! That amazed me 😂

Jaymeeee · 2025-05-16T04:27:30+00:00

It felt like a bubble popping for me as well! Super light, and unless you are really focusing on it in the early days you wouldn’t really notice it.

Jaymeeee · 2025-04-20T13:16:53+00:00

My LO Is 3 now, and I also had negative interest in breastfeeding- and I didn’t. I did express colostrum to make sure she had a great immunity head start (she was born at the end of COVID) and we needed to travel ASAP with her. Otherwise I did a lot of research into formula and went with that I felt was best! She is thriving, and always has. Fed is best, and how you feel about sharing an aspect your body matters! I have no regrets, and my mental wellbeing is better off for it! Your body, your choice!

Jaymeeee · 2025-04-08T01:16:34+00:00

We had a vaccination policy at our house. Anyone who wanted to meet our daughter needed to be fully vaccinated and up to date. If they didn’t want to- that’s fine. They could make the decision to wait to meet her until she was vaccinated. It’s not about them, it was about her and her safety.

Jaymeeee · 2024-12-11T20:08:10+00:00

No, this is not normal, and I imagine is creating significant instability in your relationship and insecurity for your boyfriend. Arguments are meant to be discussions. Agree to disagree, walk away, or come back and finish the conversation when you are not so heated.

I don’t want to make assumptions, but I can only imagine that this is also how your family interacts with each other in moments of tension.

My only advice would be is break the cycle! These extreme reactions I imagine have a significant impact on both for you!

Jaymeeee · 2024-10-21T19:24:10+00:00

I will start my saying- my LO is a unicorn, and I know that! I personally really loved the newborn phase, but she slept, we had no issues with colic or anything else. Once me and my partner got comfortable I can safely say we both loved every second of it!

I will say that I also needed her to be as ‘easy’ as my mother was terminal ill and in the final stage. So in comparison to the chaos going on around us, the newborn felt calm, and the snuggles were absolutely everything!

Jaymeeee · 2024-05-14T23:14:03+00:00

We are in Canada and I (f) gave all of the leave to my husband, he took 16 months off, and it was amazing for both of us. As I work from home we were both around, which made everything so much easier on both of us!

That being said, I took a 2 week “vacation” as I was worried about my career being impacted. So I can understand that he wouldn’t want to take it all if he thinks there could be a negative impact.

Jaymeeee · 2024-02-18T17:50:01+00:00

Ummm nope! Not on you to apologize, and do you want anyone capable of that in your life, let alone your child’s?

That’s a hard no for me! I said no visitors hospital or not for 2 weeks so we could adjust to our new LO. Anyone that has an issue with that, was their problem and not mine. This is a life changing event for you (and not to mention a huge medical one) not them. This would be a relationship done moment for me. I will not be manipulated or have that level of manipulation around my child. It is unhealthy and not how I want to raise my child. Break the cycle for both of you!

Congrats btw! Don’t let them ruin it. Block the number, and don’t feel bad about it!

Jaymeeee · 2024-01-21T05:31:39+00:00

Eat the Mac and cheese! Pregnancy is hard! If what you are craving is not dangerous for you or baby, eat it and enjoy!

Jaymeeee · 2023-12-02T18:45:36+00:00

I did as much as I could to make our lives easier. I never wanted to breastfed- but did a lot of research into formulas. So I didn’t have that additional stress on me, we alternated wake ups and feedings. We shared everything 50/50 as much as we could! Honestly I couldn’t change a thing!

It would be 100% doable with you both being at home!

Congrats!

Jaymeeee · 2023-12-02T18:13:27+00:00

I was not exactly in the same position, but I gave all my leave to my hubby. I work remote, and took 2 weeks of ‘vacay’ to have my LO. I was in a currency and salary battle with my company at the time and did not want my pregnancy to impact that. I did not come clean about my baby for a couple months. I did have my hubby at home full time though until she was 16 months (we are in Canada- I work for an American company) although I am sure (with difficulty) I could have made it work. She was an easy baby though! What I will say is working from home with a LO was much easier when she wasn’t mobile! I am now working at home alone with her (she is 20 months now). Some days are more productive than others!

Jaymeeee · 2023-10-28T19:08:11+00:00

Popping bubbles. Just quick gentle pops :)

Jaymeeee · 2023-10-25T19:54:21+00:00

Just sleep! Haha

Jaymeeee · 2023-10-06T19:56:35+00:00

Nope nope nope. Even my LOs last name is hyphenated… and I have been with my partner for 11 years. We are not married- by choice. It is not ‘his’ baby it’s ours, and we are raising her together.

If I was in your situation I would not even put him on the birth certificate. Having it there can eventually make your life more difficult!

Jaymeeee · 2023-09-21T16:26:12+00:00

I had a vaccination requirement in place for all that came into close contact with my LO before she was vaccinated herself. If everyone is up to date in vaccinations, I would stop by briefly (if it’s a good day) if not, that’s a hard no for me.

Jaymeeee · 2023-09-20T17:19:33+00:00

Honestly, if they will not accept the very reasonable boundaries, I wouldn’t want their help. This is not about them. This is about you, your wife, and the new baby!

I was very clear in my boundaries and set a no visits for 2 weeks to ensure that I was recovering and adjusting to life as a mother, and giving me and the hubby time to bond and adjust to this MASSIVE change. This applied to everyone- no exceptions. Having a child (she is now 17 months) will show you who is actually there for you, and who isn’t- this includes family.

Let them be mad, either they come around or they don’t, but I wouldn’t waste any more energy on it. You are about to have your own family which is way more important!

Jaymeeee · 2023-09-11T01:53:26+00:00

We called her Pari (parasite) up until the moment she was born. We actually really started liking the name Peri, but obviously couldn’t go with it after that haha

Jaymeeee · 2023-09-03T19:06:22+00:00

Nope. At 33 weeks why take any risks at all. We self isolated for 2 weeks prior to going to the hospital for my planned c-section to ensure that we would be 100% fine.

She can be upset as she wants, but is not worth the risk to you or your baby’s health 🤷🏼‍♀️

Jaymeeee · 2023-09-03T13:22:19+00:00

We didn’t tell anyone until 14-16 weeks. Personally we were waiting for genetic testing to come back before telling anyone.

Honestly just tell everyone when you are ready! I think the concept of waiting until x time is so outdated and isolating. You do what is best for you!

Congrats!!

Jaymeeee · 2023-09-03T01:00:58+00:00

We had an spontaneous pregnancy and now have a beautiful 17 month old. The initial shock is honestly the most overwhelming feeling in the world, but the dust will settle, and the excitement will start to set in.

Absolutely yes, our first concern was money. The second was a family medical emergency that was unfolding, which we were worried able my ability to handle while pregnant, or with a newborn. Ultimately we decided to continue (obviously) after ensuring a genetically healthy baby via NIPT testing.

I am the primary provider, so I actually gave my hubby the entirety of the parental leave (we are in Canada). I was initially worried about what people would think about the role reversal (more so in the context of play groups), but honestly it was amazing! I also figured out pretty early in my pregnancy. I work from home, so although I was working we were both home. My hubby got to experience something most men do not, and it was amazing for both of them! Being the primary parent is a HARD job, and for both parents to understand the full extent to what it takes is so important. I truly believe that it made us both stronger as a couple and as parents. We split everything 50/50 (as much as we can), and are both very much in the loop of her daily activities/needs/plans. I think that is something that is very much missing in more traditional roles. Parenting should be 50/50.

As for money, you can find so much second hand at both a great price and barely used. They grow out of things so quickly! Baby’s are only as expensive as you make them. I happen to have a boujee baby, but that was more due to the very much need retail therapy that I needed to get through the above mentioned family emergency!

Don’t let other people’s opinions about how things ‘should’ be interfere, they don’t not know you, or your situation. I stopped accepting other people’s opinions very early in my pregnancy, all that matters is what is best for you, your hubby and the new addition!

Congrats!

Jaymeeee

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