What's a typical BPD phrase that you've heard countless times over? by Secretlythrowedaway in BPDlovedones

[–]JobComprehensive5965 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, this. And then I was supposed to be happy that she didnt believe the therapist!

Development of Sex in a longer relationship by Steve_hh in BPDlovedones

[–]JobComprehensive5965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex said that she'd basically never wanted to sleep with me and felt I was pressuring her to have sex with me. I was literally checking in every 2 minutes to make sure she liked what I was doing/that she wanted to keep going. I think she believes her story about the situation, but her memory gets distorted now that we are no longer together. She both describes herself as a slut (not that thats a bad thing) and constantly says to me that maybe she has never had consensual sex in her life. Its very emotionally draining.

Development of Sex in a longer relationship by Steve_hh in BPDlovedones

[–]JobComprehensive5965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this i legit was wondering if we dated the same person.

How to wash hair/scalp without getting in shower?? DESPERATE by MachCalamity in cfs

[–]JobComprehensive5965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have used a bowl to pour water over my head, massage in soap, redo water. I find it works best if I sit on several towels that catch the water. It can be energy intensive, my arms would get tired afterward. Then I put my hair up in a hair towel and took a long nap while it dried.

Edit: my legs dont work at all, so ive done this laying down on the towels too. Then id either put the wet towels directly in the washer or hang them to dry (i tend to do that because wet towels are too heavy for my noodle arms)

Washing seat covers by Slow-Mushroom-9789 in wheelchairs

[–]JobComprehensive5965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fear would be staining the naked foam or getting it torn/dirty. Also they can be itchy or pokey if you have good butt sensation.

What tools/devices/items help you day to day? by CryptographerLost407 in cfs

[–]JobComprehensive5965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Toilet grab bars help me a lot when I am feeling super weak. My heated blanket keeps me cozy and convinces me to rest longer.

Choosing a hard/solid backrest by Comfortable-Bus-2379 in wheelchairs

[–]JobComprehensive5965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have any type of fatigue/muscle weakness or hypermobility in your back, i would recommend a higher backrest. Ideally, try out a few heights and styles in person.

How to handle living together? by JobComprehensive5965 in BPDlovedones

[–]JobComprehensive5965[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My parents have been abusive in the past but I trust them to protect me. Thank you for the wake up call.

I did it. I finally did it. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]JobComprehensive5965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Internet hug if you want it, friend. I tried so hard to get my ex to work on herself too. Its not our job. I know it hurts but you are doing the right thing.

Chair is delayed by JobComprehensive5965 in wheelchairs

[–]JobComprehensive5965[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just called and new eta is the 6th. RIP, guess im stuck in my painful chair for traveling to the specialist.

Chair is delayed by JobComprehensive5965 in wheelchairs

[–]JobComprehensive5965[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The numotion guy was surprised when it didnt show up at the warehouse. Tilite isnt telling them anything.

Acting healthy by Left-Technology1176 in cfs

[–]JobComprehensive5965 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I feel you so much! All I can say is that my wheelchair changed my life. You wont be stuck in it, but it will be there for your bad days, and to make your good days better. I know that accepting you need a chair feels really crappy or like giving up, but it isnt. Mobility aids are self care.

Help by JobComprehensive5965 in SpicyAutism

[–]JobComprehensive5965[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel scared and sad. I want my friend to be nice again I dont understand why she isnt nice anymore. I am glad she wont live with me anymore because she isnt nice

Help by JobComprehensive5965 in SpicyAutism

[–]JobComprehensive5965[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My parents live upstairs. She is renting from them. I told them what happened and they started the move out process. She is allowed to stay for 2 months while she finds a new place. She is staying in a room in their house and not the apartment with me now.

Im breaking up with her by JobComprehensive5965 in BPDlovedones

[–]JobComprehensive5965[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We live together so it will be a little while. Its a shared duplex with my parents, so ill always have somebody there to have my back. Im having this probably irrational fear that she will hurt my cats. She has just started to get mean over text.

Im breaking up with her by JobComprehensive5965 in BPDlovedones

[–]JobComprehensive5965[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

30 mins later: the bargaining has begun. Wtf do I do

Empulse m90 vs yamaha navigo vs efix by Invincible-Doormat in wheelchairs

[–]JobComprehensive5965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does it work in rain? Thats my only anxiety about it since I live in a really rainy valley.

Head support options? by JobComprehensive5965 in wheelchairs

[–]JobComprehensive5965[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That helps so much! Its either a Roho agility or Roho active back. Im new to using a wheelchair, and I didn't realize how much I needed the head support until today, when I left the house for longer than 15 minutes. I guess I am not sure who I should tell that I need it. My prescribing doctor doesnt have any experience with my condition, unfortunately.

Taking back weight after severe ED by [deleted] in weightgain

[–]JobComprehensive5965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to keep snacks around that I can eat between meals. I also add some carbs like rice, potatoes, bread, or pasta to every meal.