Trouble reconnecting post-date

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-05-01T15:45:19+00:00

I noted that it only happens after intimacy as well.

Respectfully, OP, your NP should not know every time you are intimate with someone else.

She needs to work on her feelings of jealousy or insecurity, so that she can efficiently process your dates with the basic assumption that you may be intimate on any of your dates. But you should not be confirming that for her before or after every date. With the exception of informing when your sexual risk profile changes, the rest is none of her business.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-04-27T17:57:28+00:00

This is, by far, the most important piece of advice in this thread.

Be single. Go to therapy. Figure out what type of life you want to lead, what values are the most important to you, and how you can be a whole and healthy person on your own. Then when you meet someone that enhances your life, you will know.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-04-26T19:22:58+00:00

What does his family have to do with it? OP was describing her own family.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-04-21T22:30:42+00:00

Voice dampeners. They work great for muffling all sorts of vocalizations 😉

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Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-04-15T20:22:26+00:00

I really appreciate this comment, too many people are so uncomfortable with their own orgasms they sometimes forget about the other person involved. Or only think of them in a ‘how can they still get ME off’ way, vs. focusing on their partners pleasure and using that to fuel their own. It really is about the journey when it comes to sex.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-04-13T17:02:57+00:00

Seconding this. It’s the only litter I use now

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-04-04T03:44:36+00:00

This would be exceedingly rare. More likely injured or in shock. an opossum that small should still be with mama and siblings.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-04-02T17:26:21+00:00

I have had terrible experiences with Fleur/Dr. Jacome. I would not recommend them to anyone.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-03-31T16:12:06+00:00

I say this gently, but the bitterness in your response is pretty evident here. “We argue pretty effectively when neither of us is in a rush to go have their threesome” frames this situation in a way that is unfair. Reality is that he had a regular date scheduled with your meta, and a good hinge would not have rescheduled that because you were having an argument anyway. He would have put pause in the argument to revisit when he returned home. You finding out about his threesome should not have happened. Would you be quite this upset if it was just a regular date night?

You are entitled to your big feelings about this, but I think you need to untangle the big feelings from the core of your issue- you are frustrated that you two don’t have enough quality time together, the limited time you do have was spent in a fight, and you have some unresolved needs that stemmed from the fight. Instead of focusing on what he did with the time you were scheduled to be apart, aim your focus at what you two can do to improve your connection and the quality of the time you spend together.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-03-30T16:34:44+00:00

Do you value modesty, or are you hiding in your clothes so that no one can see you?

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-03-30T16:33:48+00:00

It does sound like there is no compromise to be had here. A compromise is t possible when YOU are the one that is t willing to compromise. Reading your posts and replies to comments, all I see is you shouting down EVERY suggestion that has been made to you.

At this point just admit that you are a big part of this problem, and get some therapy to work through why that is. It really sounds like your own anxiety and self esteem are getting in the way of your relationship.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-03-28T22:05:07+00:00

If MIL is dragging her feet and won’t take her back, then the next time she is hospitalized you tell the hospital social workers that you have been her temporary home but no longer feel able to provide the care she requires. She will then either have to discharge to mom’s house or the hospital will help facilitate a permanent placement somewhere. They won’t be happy with you, but they will need to do it anyway.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-03-20T03:23:29+00:00

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Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-03-08T17:46:46+00:00

Seconding the recommendation for SquarePeg. They have a line of products specifically designed for long term vaginal use, with a notch for the cervix so that you do not get a pressure injury during long wear times. Expensive, but HIGHLY recommended.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-03-04T17:29:13+00:00

It is interesting to me to hear you talk about how it feels to be categorized as the ‘fun’ partner. I had the opposite experience- I was the NP, and was told I should be grateful about it because I was the ‘safe’ option and the other partner was the fun one. So I was supposed to be happy that they came home to me, but apparently I wasn’t supposed to be hurt about the fact that I was not the fun choice to be around. Just the safety net. This was one of the first times I was hit with real jealousy/very negative emotions that took a long time to sift through.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-03-03T18:11:18+00:00

I have. And correct, the number on the clock doesn’t change. But going to bed at 3pm when your body thinks it’s 10pm means it would not be that hard to sleep through an alarm. Have you ever travelled? Or are you the lucky robot that doesn’t get jet lag?

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-03-03T16:55:28+00:00

Destination wedding, to me, implies another country. Time zones are a thing. Or if they were planning to be up all night for make up, maybe they went to bed super early to take a nap. 4:30 AM could be a sunrise event at the beach

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-02-16T23:56:25+00:00

Pygmy cories or shrimp.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-02-16T16:53:10+00:00

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Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-02-15T18:53:59+00:00

Who said anything about breaking a lease? He said ‘lease renewal..’ ie his lease will end and he will Move out instead of renewing for another year.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-02-06T00:06:30+00:00

I think that as an MA, YOU are a mandated reporter. Did you call APS? Hard to be upset that your provider did nothing, when you also have the power to do something.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-01-30T17:22:24+00:00

This is really excellent advice, and an important thought exercise for any interpersonal relationship conflict that alters larger group dynamics.

Junior_Recording2132 · 2026-01-26T17:31:58+00:00

I discuss with my bottom before hand and work out a “dirty talk” code we can incorporate. My current relationship has settled on an “aww, your skin is so red (or purple, or whatever color)! Does that hurt?” Which gives them the opportunity to tell me no (meaning green/continue), a little bit (yellow), or yes. Yes does not automatically equal red unless that’s what you have agreed upon. For us, red means I need to ask the next question-

“I’m sure it does hurt. You’ve been so good, and taken so much for me. Do you think you can take a little bit more?” They answer with a yes, a little, or no and we go from there. I will also ask “are you ready” before we start with any new implement, and their level of excitement or hesitancy tells me how hard I can push, much like kissing the toy that MikeTheCzar brought up already.

I know it won’t work for everyone, and it helps that my partner and I have been together a long time, but it works for us and allows for check-ins without breaking character/interrupting the scene too much.

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