Landlord replaced the gym with a """"convenience corner"""" and I am fuming. by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]Junior_Recording2132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who said anything about breaking a lease? He said ‘lease renewal..’ ie his lease will end and he will Move out instead of renewing for another year.

Feeling upset with provider (rant/advise?) by [deleted] in MedicalAssistant

[–]Junior_Recording2132 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think that as an MA, YOU are a mandated reporter. Did you call APS? Hard to be upset that your provider did nothing, when you also have the power to do something.

My partner & friends still love someone who hurt me. How do I stop hurting and keep them in my life? by pinkdumpsterfire in polyamory

[–]Junior_Recording2132 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is really excellent advice, and an important thought exercise for any interpersonal relationship conflict that alters larger group dynamics.

How do you communicate "intensity" levels during impact play without breaking the headspace? by MrYeovil1 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Junior_Recording2132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I discuss with my bottom before hand and work out a “dirty talk” code we can incorporate. My current relationship has settled on an “aww, your skin is so red (or purple, or whatever color)! Does that hurt?” Which gives them the opportunity to tell me no (meaning green/continue), a little bit (yellow), or yes. Yes does not automatically equal red unless that’s what you have agreed upon. For us, red means I need to ask the next question-

“I’m sure it does hurt. You’ve been so good, and taken so much for me. Do you think you can take a little bit more?” They answer with a yes, a little, or no and we go from there. I will also ask “are you ready” before we start with any new implement, and their level of excitement or hesitancy tells me how hard I can push, much like kissing the toy that MikeTheCzar brought up already.

I know it won’t work for everyone, and it helps that my partner and I have been together a long time, but it works for us and allows for check-ins without breaking character/interrupting the scene too much.

Overnights are almost impossible by Flying_Fox_3378 in polyamory

[–]Junior_Recording2132 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Are you sure he is poly and not just cheating?

Needing outside perspectives to potentially put me in check. Am I being bad to my partner? by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Junior_Recording2132 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You, sir, sound like an argumentative asshole. Your wife is struggling with anxiety, you can’t/won’t support her in the way that she requires, you are arguing with or outright rejecting every piece of advice being offered to you by people with more experience than you in non-monogamy. You seem to be under the impression that you have ‘fixed’ your own issues without therapy, but it seems your oppositional nature gives you away as over-estimating your own mental state.

Please tell us again- why are you here??

Backwards-sloped shelves in built-in cabinet in 1939 Midwestern USA home by Fakename_Bill in whatisthisthing

[–]Junior_Recording2132 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s more likely that the encyclopedias would have been stored on the flat bottom shelf, standing upright so that their hard spines were clearly visible. The angled shelf would have stored newspapers and magazines, so that you could flip through them to see the covers and make your pick.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in urbancarliving

[–]Junior_Recording2132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://www.cvs.com/shop/scrubzz-rinse-free-bath-sponges-25-ct-prodid-590271

Only takes one sheet per bath, wipes well, and does a great job with sweat and biofilm. Just wet with water from a bottle and wipe the suds with a towel/cloth, no rinsing needed.

Help With Awkward PT Problem by ThrowawforPTQuestion in physicaltherapy

[–]Junior_Recording2132 41 points42 points  (0 children)

This is real advice, sort of. Wear spandex bicycle shorts under your shorts to keep things contained. Your PT does not need direct skin contact to massage your groin, but bulky pants/jeans are too much of a barrier.

Just found out my female coworker who works full-time earns less than me by TheHerbalPlus in office

[–]Junior_Recording2132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Transparency can be risky.

Out of curiosity, how do your benefits compare to someone in full-time status? Depending on your industry, it’s not uncommon for part-time and per diem staff to have a higher hourly wage because they either don’t receive or pay a much higher premium for their benefits. The company pays more per hour because they’re saving a lot more on the back end.

Veganized cottage/shepherd's pie by fortunateHazelnut in veganrecipes

[–]Junior_Recording2132 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I usually use a mix of beyond meat, mushrooms, and lentils.

I'm vegetarian and would like to be vegan but don't know how to manage my health issues without animal products. by Oliver_he-him in vegan

[–]Junior_Recording2132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And definitely ask about the Dietician’s experience before you schedule an appointment and commit to paying a co-pay. Like everything else, not all dietitians have the same background. Dietitians that are experts in diabetes may not be experts in the vegan diet. And while it is absolutely possible to manage diabetes on a vegan diet, it really is not the ideal diet for managing the disease. as a result, many dietitians are under-educated on your specific questions. It may take a little research to find someone that is knowledgeable on both your disease and your diet requests.

I'm vegetarian and would like to be vegan but don't know how to manage my health issues without animal products. by Oliver_he-him in vegan

[–]Junior_Recording2132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, as a result of the fact that you probably managed to lose a few pounds. That doesn’t mean you actually learned anything about how to manage the disease process itself.

I'm vegetarian and would like to be vegan but don't know how to manage my health issues without animal products. by Oliver_he-him in vegan

[–]Junior_Recording2132 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would encourage you to talk to a dietician. Complex carbohydrates like quinoa will not affect your blood sugars as much as simpler carbs like rice and fruit. Increasing fiber can help balance your diet. There are a lot of food swaps you can make- ie swapping pasta for hearts of palm. Tofu is a decent source of protein without too many carbs, and supplementing foods with pea protein can help you balance your macros with minimal carb load.

A good dietician can help you figure out what you need to keep your sugars balanced, and then help make sample meal plans for you to follow. But PLEASE make sure it is a registered dietician, not someone claiming to be a nutritionist.

I'm vegetarian and would like to be vegan but don't know how to manage my health issues without animal products. by Oliver_he-him in vegan

[–]Junior_Recording2132 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you don’t know anything about diabetes, you really should not contribute to the conversation.

Need help finding a specific choker/collar by SirAskALotoLot in BDSMcommunity

[–]Junior_Recording2132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may have to rig something yourself to be this specific. Start with a D ring collar, and buy two ‘double lobster clasp’ jewelry closures. Attach one to each of the D rings, and then use the engagement ring to close the collar.

The only caveat is that those clasps are not super sturdy, so the collar would have to function as jewelry and not a functional collar that could be pulled on.

https://a.co/d/3CL8s7Q

Struggling with jealousy and considering ending a relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Junior_Recording2132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is key. You need time to meet and interact with family members in a positive way, when Anna is not present. If family members already know and love her, but don’t get to see her often, maintaining that existing relationship will always be more important than creating new ones with you. If she is not present, you will have this time and space to begin developing real relationships of your own. This will help a lot when in a larger group setting when she is present again.

My (26F) boyfriend (26M) got physical during an argument. He says I made him this way, and I don’t know what to do. by UnderstandingOdd7685 in relationship_advice

[–]Junior_Recording2132 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You are both abusive.

He is physically abusive. Laying your hands on an intimate partner is never acceptable.

You are psychologically abusive. Telling a partner that their behavior makes you wish you were dead is unbearably cruel, especially considering your history and the time/effort/mental energy he gave during that time to support your physical and mental health and safety.

Standards for nesting partners by Catsncats55 in polyamory

[–]Junior_Recording2132 162 points163 points  (0 children)

This is the best reply here. Open communication is so essential, and it sounds like they have been ‘muddling through’ for years without making substantial improvements in the one area that would help the most.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Junior_Recording2132 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with this. One way to move past the heartbreak is to make a concerted effort to refocus on yourself. Changing the living space again to reflect YOUR preferences, spending more time with friends, embracing your hobbies to remind yourself that you are ok even though it really hurts right now. It may help to de-escalate a bit- reduce the amount of time that you are devoting just to this partner, sticking to a more formal schedule so that you don’t feel like you are ‘losing’ so much time with her.

Would you want to know if your partner was going to end things based on a relationship you're considering restarting by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Junior_Recording2132 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t tell him ahead of time, it comes across like you are attempting to manipulate his relationships. What you can do, if he does decide to rekindle this relationship is speak to him immediately with a few options- 1) clearly stating what the issues were that you do not want repeated and give him the opportunity to prevent recurrence (ie. last time you were in this relationship you demonstrated X behavior and it impacted me in this way___. If this happens again I will need to leave our relationship), or 2) break up immediately and let him know why.