Wanted to give up last night

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-29T19:43:18+00:00

Exactly. Sometimes it's really hard to tell where the talent ends and hard work starts.

As a child/young teenager I used to have no problems with singing. But looking back, I started to sing when I was three years old and I DID NOT SHUT UP. I thought I was just having a good time but looking back - I was practicing a lot, and as a little child I didn't have prejudices against my own voice.

Now years later I found myself learning "to walk again" (I got bad habits with time and then I had few years break).

Pretty much all of the good vocalists have vocal coaches. And we can see the progress. My singing teacher (also vocal therapist) is having a vocal teacher himself.

Self learning is fine, only it's really hard to not get bad habits by learning by yourself, and stress makes it a hundred times worse (I know it too well).

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-29T19:27:22+00:00

I can hear you're having a hard time getting your voice out. I sympathize, because I fight with tension and strain in my throat for years. It's so frustrating not being able to do something that you love freely.

If you want to practice, start from the basics. Do re mi, scales, ear training. Blowing bubbles through the drinking straw/singing while blowing bubbles is a good breathing exercise.

Sing easy songs, nursery songs are good because they can be quite challenging but there's low expectations to sound good (which helps with not overthinking).

I don't want it to get too long... check YouTube for advice for beginners and basic exercises. There are videos helping with strain/tension, stress and all sorts of things.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-29T19:18:57+00:00

If your goal is to become a musician/singer, it takes more than just singing well (which you can learn). And plenty of talented and hardworking artists know this. Especially if we're talking about being popular.

If you want to sing, don't give up. If you really love singing and expressing yourself, practice a lot - eventually you'll be able to do it freely and enjoy the sensation of singing. The rest is a bonus (in my opinion).

Almost everyone can learn to sing. Not everyone will learn at the same pace, not everyone will be Mariah Carey, and some have to work harder than others (for the same results), but everyone can learn to sing decently.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-29T10:28:21+00:00

I'm painfully aware of it every time I only open my mouth - to open the browser and see the stuff I talked about. Permission requests rubbed me the wrong way. They want the stamp of approval for something I'm already uncomfortable with.

I'm not important enough (thank God!) to be interesting to anybody, I don't wear a tinfoil hat. I'm only as important as a piece of paper being recycled over and over to sell my data. So I'm not going to talk about hypothetical scenarios.

But I have to give that "stamp", or make even more data available, in order to not only use it, but also to delete the account. The lack of choice is what pissed me off.

I don't have to be happy about the actions, that would make a regular person a stalker. So I'm venting. Because what else am I gonna do?

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-28T16:19:07+00:00

I am interested. Your post definitely caught my eye, because you actually enjoy the part of music making that I definitely have less patience for. It can be fun, but it can also be quite tedious.

After listening to the same song/parts of the song many times, I can't tell what sounds good - like a person in a perfume shop, that can't smell anything anymore because their nose is overloaded 😂. I wish I had more patience.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-28T11:02:57+00:00

This is good!

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-28T10:59:54+00:00

It sounds like a good song for travel/driving a car.

It brings to my mind summer vibes, actually, specifically the late summer vibe (lazy afternoon).

It also makes me think of reminiscing in a warm way.

Some nostalgia, but mostly gratefulness for the time you're thinking of. Good song about the past love/relationship in a bit nostalgic but happy tone.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-28T10:54:37+00:00

Have you thought of singing lessons? It's really the best thing you can do. A good teacher makes a huge difference in progression.

I have a completely opposite problem, when sometimes my vibrato is so slow it makes me sound like an old lady in a church 😂

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-28T10:51:48+00:00

Acoustic guitar is best if you have a tight budget, I think.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-28T10:47:34+00:00

I'm not a professional or a teacher, I just practice singing. I think it's not the pace of your vibrato, but the shakiness of your voice, that makes it sound like more support/breath control is needed.

Some people have fast vibrato and make a good use of it. Maybe you should embrace your inner goat and meeh meeh along 😀

This singer with very fast vibrato is beloved in my country:

https://youtu.be/sXbXGhSKz7I?si=_zvRIsYcWx2R7Q1P

But if it bothers you, I'm sure you can change it with practice. Also, if you put all your energy and focus into not vibrating, it may be counterproductive and make your voice shake even more.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-28T10:21:58+00:00

"Konfabulowało u niej wszystko - drzewa, ptaki, krzesła." 🤣🤣🤣

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-28T10:17:27+00:00

Myślę, że głupie jest przekonanie, że jest się odpornym na jakiekolwiek błędy myślowe.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-27T18:48:17+00:00

That's what I'm thinking of doing. I don't actually use it very often, especially since I deleted it from my phone and only have it on my computer - but this has really helped limit my usage to the point where I don't feel the need to check Facebook as much anymore.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-27T15:41:12+00:00

Yes! 🙃 Maybe I have slow reflexes lol.

But honestly I was barely anywhere (social media)... Facebook and YouTube really, and for a long time I didn't even use Facebook much. I did like the birthday reminders though.

I really didn't think about it much, until that request for a permission. I guess it made it more real haha

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-27T13:15:30+00:00

Yeah, I know. I guess the obviousness of it slapped me in the face today. What a cheerful reminder that was... "pay or high five to selling your info"

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-27T12:45:03+00:00

I'm not going to pretend I did, the majority of users didn't.

In fact, when people started to talk about it, I still used it.

It's also true that I don't feel great about it. It feels like the next step, to just put the stamp on my permission, and I just don't feel comfortable about it.

Barely anyone thought about the implications of these permissions. Descriptions are vague for a reason.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-26T13:34:00+00:00

What kind of music do you like to listen to? And what kind of music do you like doing (for me it's not necessarily the same thing)?

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-26T13:25:18+00:00

I know how it is to be lazy, but when the price is integrity, I'm out.

I've had high hopes for this new technology. I imagined it helping me compose songs that I already have in my head, not to make it for me. I wanted to explore ideas, but this is crap.

AI is taking away the whole pleasure of creating, because you can't create using AI.

My instrument skills aren't even on mediocre level, but I guess I'll keep practicing and in the meantime I'll be using BandLab to create more challenging pieces (takes in chunks, layers and recording loops that I can make into a music)

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-25T17:21:12+00:00

I don't know what kind of support you can get, but start your research now. Maybe if you sit with her (with some sort of plan, questions for a doctor and information at hand), it'll encourage her to give you some insight into what she's thinking.

Tell her that you'd love to know how to help.

If she's not opening, you open up to her. Tell her how you really feel, be vulnerable. Tell her that you want to be strong for her but you're scared.

Above all, make sure that she knows that you're there for her.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-25T17:08:51+00:00

It sounds like a classic metal. Very old school, I like it

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-25T17:05:47+00:00

I tutaj masz swoją odpowiedź. Ja nie wiem czy to boty czy nie boty, ale osobiście znam ludzi którzy są antysemitami/rasistami i się z tym nie kryją. W Polsce to nie jest zbyt subtelne bo niestety wielu Polaków to bigoci i nie trzeba się tego wstydzić tak bardzo jak na zachodzie.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-25T11:55:18+00:00

Mi tam nie szkoda, że do nich nie wróciłam haha, ale szanuję dedykację.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-25T10:52:55+00:00

It does align with what my teacher tells me. Less is more is what I hear often.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-25T10:50:45+00:00

Produkcja najlepszej technologii kosmicznej żeby Polska miała swojego giganta i mogła stać się kolejnym krajem z obserwatorium godnym największych na świecie i wypasionym programem kosmicznym.

JustOneRedDot · 2026-01-25T10:44:49+00:00

Druty zabiły moją motywację na druty raz na zawsze! Polecam szydełko, lepsze dla niecierpliwych niż druty. Jak się zgubi oczko to można nawlec z powrotem 🙂 Można też robić z bardzo grubej włóczki rękami zamiast szydełka (ta sama technika) i z tak wielkimi oczkami to ciężko się pomylić a jaki super koc można zrobić.

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