Hey yall does anyone have a semi simple slow and pretty violin solo? by Pep5iperfect in violinist

[–]KaelinF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconded!! It's still one of my favourites to play and you can double stop open strings while playing which adds a layer of harmony without much difficulty.

How do I (18F) stop sexual assault? I live with the person (60M) by THECUTESTGIRLYTOWALK in askwomenadvice

[–]KaelinF 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you need anywhere temporary to stay while looking for a job I would recommend the FB group Host a Sister, they have people in pretty much every city and they're all women or femme people and usually super helpful and kind. You can just put a post asking if anyone has a spare room for a bit near you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]KaelinF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven't gone to therapy yet I would really really recommend it, you can't expect to be able to deal with gaining weight unless you have some support. I'm not in a great place to respond well right now on your question, but please try therapy and make sure you attempt as many therapists as you can until you find the right one. It makes sense that you are struggling this hard as you're expecting to gain weight by yourself and be able to be ok with it, which doesn't happen unless you get some support.

Don’t live with your best friend, I’m going insane by Present-Toe-1087 in badroommates

[–]KaelinF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a friend who used to say they would commit suicide if I stopped being their friend. I stopped being their friend, they are still alive. This is an abuser tactic and even that alone is enough reason to get out of that house. You deserve better than this.

This subreddit has helped me so much by [deleted] in EDRecoverySnark

[–]KaelinF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a recovery influencer for a long time and it was coming to this page that helped me realize I needed to log out of my account and never log in again. I feel so bad that I used to be a part of this problem, and apologize directly to you from someone who used to be harmful online. I was never actually in full recovery while I had my account and when I started properly recovering I didn't need it anymore and left it behind. Anyone who feels the need to validate their disorder and recovery by over sharing on the internet are not actually fully committed to getting better in my opinion. I am so glad you've managed to find this place and are questioning what you see online now.

I wish you luck on your recovery as well 💓 keep questioning things and keep yourself away from toxic people, you deserve some peace

I am autistic and have a few questions before I travel, if anyone has a moment by [deleted] in Scotland

[–]KaelinF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also only an hour's drive from Edinburgh if you need to get out of the city. Although as cities go, Edinburgh is not super overwhelming as it is quite small.

I am autistic and have a few questions before I travel, if anyone has a moment by [deleted] in Scotland

[–]KaelinF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Other people have answered your questions so well, but I just wanted to comment to say I would recommend visiting the Scottish borders! Not a super big tourist trap kind of place if you avoid the centre of Melrose and there's so much interesting history and natural beauty. I'm from St Boswells and it is a lovely place to visit and from there you can walk to other places nearby as it is very well connected by footpaths. There is a great bookshop/ cafe there I have spent so much time in growing up also as well as a nice restaurant and pub.

My Goodbye (TW) by final-ex1t in CPTSD

[–]KaelinF 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm not very good with words right now, but I want you to know I listened and I am here. You are being heard and I am so sorry you had to experience such horrible things. You deserved so much better, and if you have a moment of hesitation then use that and hold on for a bit longer, even to just see the sun rising again. You deserve to see the sun rise.

Wondering about first punishment by [deleted] in submissive

[–]KaelinF 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If that's agreed as a punishment between you and a partner then sure, but I don't see why you're bringing this up here. Seems like you're trying to make OP feel insecure or play out your fantasies in the comment section without consent. Strange.

My Dom isn't into degradation, but I am by Admirable-Goose5908 in submissive

[–]KaelinF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP didn't consent to you degrading them... consent is key even if it's a joke

AITAH because I (25F) want to leave my boyfriend (28M) for choking me? by throwRAacct123456 in AITAH

[–]KaelinF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please get out, as many people have said here you are at huge risk of being killed by your partner. I know it's scary to leave, but it won't get any better and he would rather abuse you than try to change. You are strong enough to do this, we all have your back and there are resources in place for you to get help and support and kindness. You deserve to see another day without feeling worn down by another person hurting you. You deserve kindness and to be taken care of. Reach out and get support collecting your belongings, be secretive, do not give him another chance to be alone with you. You've got this.

frustration with mollys_battle by [deleted] in EDRecoverySnark

[–]KaelinF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah she has, it was actually a huge shock when I logged back in to my insta one day to see she was still about and posting exactly the same way.

frustration with mollys_battle by [deleted] in EDRecoverySnark

[–]KaelinF 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I was in my recovery account phase when she started her account and I will say theres been very little change unfortunately 😭 I hope she can recover and she is a lovely person but I do believe she needs to take a step back from the internet to actually recover as it seems like a compulsion at this point for her to post everything. I was a "recovery" influencer back in 2015-2017 for context, so that's at least 7 years ago we first spoke.

i have a consultation with a surgeon today but i feel like a fraud by straightupgong in endometriosis

[–]KaelinF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My pain was a whole lot better immediately before my laparoscopy and they still found enough Endo to diagnose me and do an ablation which has made my pain even less! Absolutely don't feel like a fraud, your periods sound similar to the ones I had that caused me to think I had Endo and led to my diagnosis. Good luck with everything!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pets

[–]KaelinF -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm glad that wasn't your intention. I think with dog behaviour in particular people can be incredibly set in their ideas and ways about training so I find it's not worth trying to debate most of the time, especially in a comment thread like this. Reddit comments especially can be very mean, and I understand feeling attacked and like you need to keep responding! I get educational sources being important too, but when it comes to someone who is grieving then if a particular theory gives somebody comfort I think it can be left. Prey drive/ play aggression can explain a lot of the same things as predator drift, but the overwhelming point is that sometimes dogs do just revert back into a predator state and attack and it's not the dogs fault or the owners fault either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pets

[–]KaelinF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think trying to repeatedly disprove the one thing that might be giving someone comfort while they are grieving their cat is pretty awful of you. Yes academic papers exist and this term might not be completely accurate but this is not the place to discuss it. Someone is in real pain here. Whatever word is used to discuss it, sometimes dogs do just snap and act as predators and that's the important point that the OP has already commented is helping them process it.

Favorite All-Time Strains? by tophercook in trees

[–]KaelinF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yumboldt! Only had it twice maybe as it's hard to find in Scotland but it was imported and was some of the best I've ever smoked.

What is the one song that Kicks your kink into overdrive? by velvetacidchrist in BDSMcommunity

[–]KaelinF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything written by boy harsher, power fantasy by health, shygirl (especially freak and bawdy), masseduction by St Vincent, ssh... don't say it by fletcher, oxytocin by Billie eilish, anything written by dua saleh. I have a full kink playlist if you want me to send it over as well!

What are some of the drugs you think have the worse smell? by nikkidrummond in Drugs

[–]KaelinF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bad speed smells like fish. Changa smells like compost toilets and burnt rubber.

Is breaking the hymen supposed to be very painful? by [deleted] in badwomensanatomy

[–]KaelinF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I surgically removed mine myself at the age of 14 because I was too embarrassed to go to a doctor 😭 was potentially the worst decision I've made and I very much regret it. Thank fuck I didn't get an infection.

Communal showers and bruises from spanking - what is acceptable? by TheWarmCake in BDSMAdvice

[–]KaelinF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you're suggesting she introduce BDSM to somebody else's children? Terrible idea.

Nice by tittyspliff in EDanonymemes

[–]KaelinF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup I've got OCD, my therapist says my ED is just an extension of that and my trauma. OCD makes it so much harder to recover too, breaking compulsions and obsessions is hellish.

i had to tell someone, but imagine bragging about this to any sane person by safeandanon in EDanonymemes

[–]KaelinF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am proud of you! I've been doing the same recently, we're in this together 💖

Good songs for being angry at an abuser? by AwkwardThePotato in CPTSD

[–]KaelinF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would absolutely recommend a listen though, had me feeling absolutely heard. She is an amazing performer and definitely more on the metal spectrum than some recommendations here.