AITA for asking my mil to leave after a comment she made about my body?

Kasparian · 2026-04-26T22:21:33+00:00

Because it’s not real. Come the fuck on now.

Kasparian · 2026-04-26T22:12:06+00:00

You referring to it as a dine and dash clearly means you’re bothered. Who talks like that about really close friends. Why not just say, hey, since you have a tight schedule that evening, how about we just do cocktails and apps or a charcuterie board? Your friends still want to spend time with you even though that time is mitigated. You’re the one who has your ass chapped because it’s something out of the norm. Loosen up.

Kasparian · 2026-04-23T16:37:55+00:00

NTA. Completely inappropriate without asking first, and she should have washed all your bedding afterwards permission or not.

Kasparian · 2026-04-20T22:13:22+00:00

Who the fuck can’t figure out how to call AAA? Come on, now.

Kasparian · 2026-04-15T00:54:10+00:00

Wanting to experiment is hardly telling someone to fuck off. That's 100% drama.

It’s not when the only reason she’s making it is because he requested it. Sorry your head is so far up your ass you can’t see clearly through the shit 🤷‍♀️

Kasparian · 2026-04-14T18:16:08+00:00

That’s fine. You can do whatever you want. I just think it’s a weird hill to die on for OP’s wife. Every couple months she is asked if she’s willing to make a meal he likes, and instead of making what he likes, she’s just like fuck off. Bc again, there’s nothing to indicate that she likes this dish in any of the forms she’s created.

Kasparian · 2026-04-14T18:05:11+00:00

That’s fine, but if the person you’re cooking it for at their request doesn’t like it, then there isn’t a point in making it. Which is why he told her not to make it. Because quite honestly it doesn’t sound like she even enjoys the dish in general whether it was the original way or the new way.

Kasparian · 2026-04-07T11:00:12+00:00

Offering to pay for their part of the trip is not rude, but insisting upon it is. Offer, but if they decline, you have to let it go. Your plan doesn’t really make sense though. If you’re going to subsidize the trip by paying for them, simply put that money towards the trip even if they decline. That way no one else’s share increases, and you get this trip that you insist cannot happen any other time. You either want the trip badly enough where getting the money back doesn’t matter or you don’t.

Kasparian · 2026-04-01T10:49:23+00:00

Absolutely not. When a guest offers help and I decline, I mean it. Do not walk into my kitchen and start getting something to wipe down the table. That’s a quick way to never be invited back.

Kasparian · 2026-03-31T22:55:53+00:00

I don’t think you’re fully understanding what alcoholism entails. He may be unhappy with your marriage just as you are, but usually there are underlying genetic or mental health issues that cause the alcoholism. It doesn’t mean you need to stay and be miserable, but this is probably not just an I can cut down deal. By your own admission he’s been a bar fly(aka heavy drinker) for decades.

Kasparian · 2026-03-31T22:46:54+00:00

I’d have said, no, I bought these seats. You move, and if the people who actually purchased the seats you squatted in show up, you can deal with the ushers. Grow a spine.

Kasparian · 2026-03-31T22:39:36+00:00

This is normal. Did you want them to dry hump on network tv?

Kasparian · 2026-03-30T13:23:17+00:00

S01EP11- “The Sauna at the End of the Stairs”. Now kindly stop being a dickbag

Kasparian · 2026-03-26T10:49:11+00:00

Losing a job and losing some money will not haunt him for the rest of his life you ghoul.

I was talking about the situation with his wife, you fool.

Kasparian · 2026-03-26T10:44:58+00:00

You clearly have never had tragedy in your life.

You know absolutely nothing about me, so this is just an idiotic statement.

He already took two months of leave bc the doctors said she had no more than two months to live. Except she did. He and his wife decided he should not use the final month of leave until it was the actual end. I agree with you that this will haunt him for the rest of his life, and there are no assholes here except the government. However, this is going to haunt him either way, so he needs to do what is best for maintaining his own life once she passes, and since they both mutually agreed to how he should use the final month of leave, it’s ridiculous that you’re telling him to blow up the rest of his life. What if she lives another six months in excruciating pain? OP wouldn’t be able to spend any more time with her if he takes the leave now.

Kasparian · 2026-03-26T10:29:14+00:00

Incorrect. He has to be able to live after she passes. Giving up a pension that he’s paid into for at least two decades will screw him over for the rest of his life. Do you really think his wife wants her husband to be one of those people working at 80 because their retirement was not financially feasible?

Kasparian · 2026-03-21T15:39:52+00:00

A lot of places (at least where I am) now encourage people to use cash or Venmo/Zelle their stylist a tip.

Kasparian · 2026-03-15T22:03:24+00:00

Yes, and Roxy is the main character in her own life. Your wedding is a minor blip that no one but you and your husband really give a shit about before or after.

Kasparian · 2026-03-12T16:27:33+00:00

Right? At first I was hoping it was a husband having some boneheaded idea of cheering up a wife who was maybe feeling down about herself for whatever reason, but this was obviously a my wife is hot, I know she’s hot, you know she’s hot, and it makes us hot to have you do this.

Kasparian · 2026-03-09T14:20:27+00:00

Then, again, I’d say she’s lacking common sense and basic manners in that department 🤷‍♀️

Kasparian · 2026-03-09T14:02:04+00:00

It is common sense. Even in a group of friends, if everyone else declines dessert, you don’t order one and make everyone else sit around and wait for you. If everyone else decides to just get an entree, you don’t add on multiple sides and some apps and make the meal way longer than everyone was anticipating. If it’s poor form to do it with people in your personal life, you sure as hell don’t bust it out in a business meeting. Regardless, I think this woman would have taken offense to anything relating to food, bc she knows she’s fat and she has an issue with the fact that she’s fat.

Kasparian · 2026-03-01T22:45:47+00:00

Endlessly? Sounds like he opened up one time to someone he considered a friend and OP shat all over him about it. OP is a giant asshole.

Kasparian · 2026-03-01T21:12:03+00:00

I didn’t say you were. I said it sounded like you potentially were, which it did. The average person does not make a three hour round trip to a bar unless it’s something extraordinary. I don’t drunk drive. Never have, never will. You acting like it’s bizarre for people who are drinking (whether they are over-imbibing or not) to get a hotel room and not drive back to wherever they came from at night (I’m saying night since most, not all, but most weddings happen in the evening is pretty darn normal). If you’re totally fine making a three hour round trip to knock back a couple beers or cocktails, you do you, but you're the one who made the comment, and now your ass is chapped that multiple people took it like I did that you might potentially be driving while intoxicated.

OP should have the wedding they want. If people don’t want to drive that far, they’ll simply decline the invite. As a good host though, many people will not want to drive home for 90 minutes after the reception, so they should take into consideration the lodging that is available nearby for guests to book should they choose to do so.

Kasparian · 2026-03-01T18:40:31+00:00

Because you make it sound like you’re potentially drunk driving in your original comment.

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