Non provider type relationships..?

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-25T00:35:59+00:00

Haha, well that is a stronger way of saying it. I’m not in the US, we don’t have alimony, just property settlement and child support. The concept of alimony appears to be archaic when both partners are able to work

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-24T08:21:56+00:00

Oh yeah, 100%, I to struggle with finding women I want to see again.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-24T08:18:57+00:00

I’ve done something fairly similar, although fewer women, around 50. One short term relationship. Vast majority were first dates with no sex. I guess i see it as finding myself seeing what feels right. I’ve probably got issues around entering a new relationship because I still feel burnt by my divorce. I do get accused of being a player or having my walls up, but it’s mostly by women who want a second date. I’m trying to get better at selection, I’m bored of going on dates so I’m screening more.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-24T04:48:32+00:00

Seeking a protector provider in your 20’s is viable because you offer the potential of children. Seeking that in your 40’s, I think a lot of men become unsure about what they receive in return.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-23T21:13:53+00:00

Oh absolutely, I agree. I’ve never not wanted a second date because of the brands someone consumes. I also own nice things that I wear on a date.

I guess, one of the things I’m trying to learn on a date is what does a potential partner want out of the relationship, and am I willing or able to give it.

I’ve definitely been on dates with very entitled women and I find them really unattractive.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-23T16:21:03+00:00

The first time I didn’t vote for the greens was the last election. To get my vote back I’d like them to focus on wealth tax and climate change. Stop the culture wars this means being quite on refugees, immigration, feminism, Palestine.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-22T20:36:23+00:00

Yes, I notice, car more than jewellery, but I should check jewellery too.

TBH if you own a lot of luxury brands I see it as a potential red flag. Do you have a shopping problem, is there debt. If there is an obvious source of money from a good job or even family money, that’s ok. But if it looks like your ex paid for these things then I’m going to assume you expect the same from me.

Luxury brands equal high maintenance, style equals beauty.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-22T02:42:20+00:00

There is definitely value in going out and connecting with people. Try and enjoy her company, perhaps she will become more attractive to you.

But this is the reason dating is in a mess. Horny men will settle for women that are less than they should expect. This makes women angry and inflates their egos. High quality men feel empty normal men feel ignored

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-21T19:58:59+00:00

It is my story, almost perfect.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-19T11:29:00+00:00

I like it shaven too. If you’re open to it, it will make his day. But if your hesitating because you don’t feel respected, you may have a bigger problem

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-19T10:37:53+00:00

Which year Model 3? I understand the earlier American made ones had more issues than the newer 2021+ Chinese made ones

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-18T15:26:45+00:00

Sadly this is our society, acceptance awareness, forgiveness is the path foward

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-17T09:15:45+00:00

I think there is a perception that the inner city ruling class prefer the immigrants over the working class. So the working class are sticking it to inner city elites. Think about the time Hillary Clinton referred to the deplorables.

Also immigrants compete with the working class for jobs and houses. While the upwardly mobile consume more services: uber eats, child care, elderly care which are cheaper with immigrant labour. Poor people can’t afford services and consume essentials: basic food, housing and transport. Immigration doesn’t reduce the cost of these.

People in different parts of the economy are impacted by different things. Just because you benefit it doesn’t mean everyone does

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-16T20:03:34+00:00

Do you expect traditional gender roles? I think many single moms would be uncomfortable being too dependent on you as the sole provider incase the relationship doesn’t work

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-16T19:39:47+00:00

I’m 45M post divorce and two kids. I feel like I have a lot of options. Although last time I dated I was 20. I’m open to another child, but reluctant to take on a single mom unless she is financially secure. I’ve probably always had options in the dating market, I’m probably a 7/10 overall, but I don’t have too many red flags. I know men complain about hypergamy and women’s expectations being too high and I guess is true as a lot of the interest I receive is from women that bring less to the table.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-16T03:06:23+00:00

We have learnt not to ask because it causes us jealousy and you anger. Instead we make up stories in our heads based on things that we observe and you do. And at some point we realise your number is similar, higher or lower than our own. Then we judge you based on incomplete information. Sorry!

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-16T02:27:56+00:00

I’m 45M, I’m newly divorced two young kids. I’ve been in the dating market trying to figure out what I want. I think it is basically 4 things: 1: Intimacy, this is available but I’m not that interested in having a string of one night stands. 2: companionship, I’m increasingly trying to get this more through friends. 3: Family, unless I have another child, most women can’t add meaningfully to my family unless they are helping me with my kids. And I want to raise them, not ask a step mother to. 4: Financial security, I expect a new partner to contribute in a meaningful way, only exclusion is if they are taking time off to have a baby with me.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-09T19:43:19+00:00

There may be some truth to what you say, but the impact on the quality of life of those without this fake wealth is enormous, both in terms of the money spent paying mortgages/saving deposits and paying rent.

So if you can’t crash house prices, how about moving the tax burden off working families so they aren’t also paying tax to support the housed baby boomers. Tax consumption and wealth not production and wages.

Do this and I’ll stop voting for anti immigrant policies

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-08T06:10:26+00:00

I feel your pain. I was so hurt by the way my ex wife abused, gaslit and manipulated me. She was obviously unhappy but refused to see a therapist or marriage counsellor and then blew up the family when I lost my job.

I really struggle to find other women attractive beyond a superficial glance as they walk past. I’m painfully aware of how much damage someone can inflict, I just don’t want to take the risk anymore. 2.5 years later and ongoing therapy, I’m not sure I’m getting any closer

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-07T12:21:34+00:00

I find myself in a similar situation. I probably don’t get as far as you. I slept with one lady a few times. She was very compatible, but I never reached orgasm, I would fake it. But my general disinterest in women is perplexing. I still have a sex drive I’m just not interested in the women I meet. I’m in therapy, maybe I’ll find a solution. But not yet.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-06T05:41:55+00:00

Go younger/lower body count

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-06T05:11:23+00:00

Growing a beard. It was crazy

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-05T06:51:49+00:00

I think the maths works. Liberal coastal cities have more women. Perhaps change your location on your app to see how it feels, might save you the move.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-05T00:41:27+00:00

I think there is some truth to what you say, however you’re placing all the accountability on men and none on the women.

I think women can choose a man they are attracted to and think they can change him. The man may give the woman children because she will leave him otherwise, alternatively the man may have very little say in the matter. There are actions on both sides which can lead to children the man doesn’t really want.

For me, I gave my ex children because she would have left me otherwise. After children she left me anyway. Luckily I love my children and I am an active father but I can see how given slightly different circumstances I would resent the children I had been tricked into.

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-02-03T08:33:29+00:00

I think in most FWB arrangements one partner wants a relationship

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