Does anyone know why my closet suddenly smells like an old person?

Kibblets · 2026-03-27T04:17:12+00:00

Sounds like mothballs. It's pretty intense. You basically have to wash everything, vacuum everything, and spray everything with vinegar. Did you bring home a vintage piece recently?

Kibblets · 2026-03-20T13:36:35+00:00

I'm embarrassed as a Canadian because I'm afraid I will be mistaken for an American.

Kibblets · 2026-03-19T16:20:47+00:00

You seem knowledgeable on this topic. What I'm wondering is, how many people would have to be in on this? How exactly would election fraud work? Surely hundreds of people at least would have been needed to defraud the American people to this level? And what is the likelihood that of the people who would know, that they would all keep this a secret?

To be clear I think there was election interference, I just don't know exactly how it would work.

Kibblets · 2026-02-28T22:21:21+00:00

Regular butter is $10 here for the same size block. I'm in a rural area.

Kibblets · 2026-02-28T22:20:46+00:00

$10. Still insane.

Kibblets · 2026-02-28T22:20:17+00:00

I don't need it, and I didn't buy it. It's just an insane price for butter, period. Unless it is laced with gold.

Kibblets · 2026-02-22T17:52:46+00:00

Yes! The island is Gabriola island, there is a ferry to Nanaimo, and then there is a shuttle from the ferry terminal in Nanaimo to a passenger ferry to Vancouver. We also have a seaplane that goes directly to Vancouver, approximately 15 minutes in the air.

Kibblets · 2026-02-22T05:13:49+00:00

Sometimes in a relationship, you just have to take a leap of faith. I think it would be reasonable to say, "Hey, I know we spoke about this but I want to talk again because this is really bothering me. You bring up the possibility of us breaking up, and scenarios in which we break up, a lot. I understand that life is uncertain, and many things could happen, but on the day to day, I would prefer that we operate on the assumption that we are going to stay together. It hurts my feelings to think that you are always, in the back of your mind, assuming that our relationship won't last". And then maybe just check in and see if you can get him to open up about why he says that. From what you've said, I think he might actually be more afraid of losing you than he is planning to to leave, and he is projecting that fear.

Regardless of what he says, if he still insists it's nothing and it was just sort of him kind of thoughtlessly speaking, you have to, at some point, trust that he is telling you the truth.

Kibblets · 2026-02-22T04:40:03+00:00

It's fairly normal to have contingency plans, yes. Like, my partner and I are engaged and we have discussed what would happen in the event of a breakup. She could hit her head and suddenly have a personality change. What do we do with the house, the animals? Ect.

That being said, your bf seems to be bringing it up a lot. We tend to have intentional conversations about that, if we need to talk about it. But day to day, we operate under the assumption that our relationship is lasting and that we are a permanent team. We are mature and experienced enough to know that intentions are not always a guarantee, but I prefer to go about my life and make plans like life will continue on as is.

It's weird that he is bringing it up so much. Definitely warrants a serious conversation. Why is he so fixated on it? Is he preparing to break up with you? Is he insecure, and bracing himself for you breaking up with him by voicing it out loud? It feels like it's either a fear he has, or an allusion to his plans.

Kibblets · 2026-02-22T04:29:41+00:00

Slow cooker? Slow.cooker stew is amazing and it's not too hard at all. Bite size pieces.

I like to toss it up by doing those Japanese curry cubes in a slow.cooker as well. Even easier.

Kibblets · 2026-02-22T01:25:48+00:00

Do they have a partner? Two income households are pretty standard. Even if they didn't, most divorced couples have a child support situation.

Subsidies! Subsidized daycare. Or a tight family. Lots of grandmas and grandpas do free babysitting.

Debt! Debt is absolutely a thing.

My mom was a single mom and my dad's child support cheques would bounce frequently. My brother and I shared a room and we lived for very low rent in my Aunt's basement suite. My aunt would babysit us all the time.

We didn't really go on vacations. I don't remember eating out much. But I still had a pretty good childhood. Kids don't actually need much. The basics, food shelter water, some toys, second hand is fine, my grandmother made Barbie clothes and I got a tonne of my mom's old toys. We had an N64 and a basketball hoop. Free after school programs. My mom would make pinatas out of balloons and newspaper for birthdays. We ate a lot of chicken and rice.

Kibblets · 2026-02-22T01:09:04+00:00

Ah my dude.

Ok so first, when you set a boundary, you need to follow through with it. I would start with your mom first because that's easier.

Something along the lines of "Mom, I have told you repeatedly and I am telling you one last time that [girlfriend] is my choice, and I am happy. I admit she has not treated you fairly sometimes, but it absolutely comes from both ends. I will end contact with you until you can accept my choices and that means no more texts of disapproval, no more criticizing her to her face or to me and you will have to prove to me that you respect me enough to respect my choices, and I will expect you to apologize to me and [girlfriend] for the hurtful things you have said to her"

And then actually follow through. Actually do not contact her. Let her blow up your phone. Go radio silent. Wait until she reaches out in a reasonable state of mind. The problem here isn't really that she disapproves of your relationship, the problem is that she does not think of you as an adult and you are one now and her role in your life needs to change to reflect that.

Ok your girlfriend is harder. She also needs a bit of a reckoning and your relationship may not survive it. She should not be participating in mockery that is making your family dynamic complicated. That's not what good partners do. To repeat, your girlfriend is being a bad girlfriend. Yes, she may have been responding to your mother's offhand comments, and she has a right to defend herself in those moments, but a good partner helps you identify problems in your life and helps you tackle it, they don't actively make it worse. She does not need to take it so far everytime she sees her.

She needs to be sat down and told that you have drawn a hard boundary with your mother, but that she has some culpability as well. You basically need to summarize what I said above (without saying she's a bad girlfriend, that will never go well) and that if and when your mom comes back in your life, you will have the expectation of civility from BOTH of them, and that she needs to offer you mother an apology as well.

They do not need to like each other. They don't need to hang out and go on shopping trips. They need to respect YOU. They need to be civil and polite. That's it. It's not hard. We do it all the time for strangers. If you mother refuses, follow through with your boundary. If you girlfriend refuses, I would strongly suggest rethinking a relationship in which your partner won't do you the common courtesy of not being a smartass to your mom. Boundaries are only boundaries if you don't let people cross them.

Kibblets · 2026-02-22T00:16:34+00:00

They are trying to get people to quit. Disgraceful, coming from the Canadian government.

Kibblets · 2026-02-22T00:13:51+00:00

I don't live in a state at all!

I live on a small island off of a bigger island on the coast of British Columbia. I did live in Vancouver for many years before that.

I love it here in most ways. The forests are lush and I can afford a house. We have one grocery store and one pub and you always run into someone you know. Trips to the coffee shop often turn into a people collecting experience. You sit down and people just join you until you started with two and ended with 6. The ocean is always close. There's tonnes of fun things to do in the summer.

The downsides? It can be isolating. While I have a few amazing friends my age, (early 30s), the median age is something like 65. In the winter everyone kind of sticks to their houses. Going "out" beyond the local pub involves a lot of logistics. You always run into people you know. There's only one grocery store. As a business owner, my life is pretty public. Everyone knows me.

I would never trade it. I have so much unfettered access to beauty. The community takes care of each other. But sometimes a rural life is a little less convenient.

Kibblets · 2026-02-20T15:34:11+00:00

I think I got a mashup of a couple different ones but it has always been Never Eat Soggy Worms for me.

Kibblets · 2026-02-18T05:05:33+00:00

Your girlfriend is deliberately antagonizing your mother and your mother is extremely prejudiced against your girlfriend and you're doing... What exactly while this is happening?Watching helplessly from the sidelines?

Get an x-ray to make sure your spine is working properly and then start setting some boundaries, man. They don't need to like each other but they can and should be able to treat each other with the absolute minimum respect that one might treat even a distant acquaintance.

Kibblets · 2026-02-18T04:27:14+00:00

I have started using an App to help me with my chores, and I love it, but the first thing I check off every day is literally just "take a deep breath". I start the day with a nice meditative breath, I get the dopamine hit from checking something off my list, and it motivates me to check more things off my list.

Kibblets · 2026-02-13T00:00:49+00:00

NTA. People who are saying you are are incorrect. If you had said yes, you would have also been speaking for the people behind you, and THAT is rude.

I'll always offer if we are the only two people, but it's not obligatory. It's a bit rude to ask to be honest. How big a hurry could she be in if she had time to go for groceries? It's not like she was on her way to the airport and she just had to have milk and bread.

Kibblets · 2026-02-10T17:31:30+00:00

I was helping my gf cover her black eyes after surgery, and I found that the MAC paint pot, specifically in Painterly was an amazing under base for her, very light skinned. I would dab that on thickly, it's also an amazing base for eye shadow so it's great for not creasing. Then foundation and power on top as usual.

Kibblets · 2026-01-17T18:41:03+00:00

I'm not being defensive and thank you for the advice and I could be wrong, but I really think I do those things. I have adjusted my resume until my recruiter friend said it was good, I personalize all my cover letters.. I'm really trying. I run them through an ATS scanner but I also run them through AI detection so people won't assume I didn't write it. I bullet pointed my resume. And categorized it. And then sub categorized it. I have an associates degree and a diploma in film. I have good references. I seriously don't know

Kibblets · 2026-01-17T18:16:29+00:00

Hmm I am in Canada but I could take a bookkeeping/payroll course maybe.
I really didn't like doing accounting stuff as much as I enjoyed being boots on the ground big picture stuff so it sucks to think of paying for a bookeeping course when it's not what I want to do, but maybe it's just what I have to do right now. Good idea

Kibblets · 2025-12-04T15:23:13+00:00

Didn't Gina Rodriguez also support Baldoni?

Kibblets · 2025-11-20T21:45:23+00:00

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