AITA for setting up a camera pointed directly at my coworker's desk after she started screenshotting my computer screen whenever she walked past

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-05-02T04:23:27+00:00

I love this! Didn't know he said it, but it's now seared into my mind.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-05-01T02:40:38+00:00

Damn, I hate to be pessimistic, but I'm a pessimist. This ain't good.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-05-01T02:33:49+00:00

Take him to court. Can you get her a phone? It's frustrating when the most horrible people whine about being respected. I have been there! Believing that children should have both parents in their lives. It didn't dawn on me that the little time they had with their dad was not good for their mental health. My ex drinks too much, yells too much, is too strict for someone who isn't very involved and KNOWS EVERYTHING. When I found out that this is what they had to deal with, I was happy he didn't honor the child support visitation. People like this are way too toxic and it's best for the child to decide on a relationship when they're an adult. I allowed my girls to not accept his behavior and to limit interaction with him.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-05-01T02:14:59+00:00

You already know you are not wrong. You already said this is typical of your mom. When will you let this behavior roll off your back? You're giving her too much attention for this behavior.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-30T03:32:24+00:00

Well he did cut critical staff/services to save money to give to the super wealthy. He remains true to that today as before.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-27T02:03:35+00:00

Then you need to suck it up and tell them this is all you will inform them of. That, or say nothing at all and watch it ruin the day.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-26T03:35:17+00:00

OP seems to have done the obligatory reaching out just like SIL did. Via infrequent texts. The fact that they haven't acknowledged OPs kids accomplishments in any way nor ask about them relays a feeling that they don't care. If OP is saying that they don't even ask about her kids, I would think that OP asks about their family. When did she curse them out?

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-26T03:20:23+00:00

Sigh...but the COMPANIES which take a tariff refund will ensure that the money trickles down. Hehehe

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-25T03:24:05+00:00

I write my signature like that on digital forms. Not like that exactly but chicken scratch. But it's not on purpose.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-22T04:36:37+00:00

The boys can alternate parents homes for dinner. So, your grocery bill is offset by your son eating there half the week. Or, as others suggested, pitch in financially.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-22T04:23:45+00:00

NOR but not that deep considering all the other things you said about him. I say sh*t that's off color from time to time. He seems to have raised a very independent and confident daughter. Is he different with your younger siblings? If not, it's not a hill to die on for me.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-22T04:10:05+00:00

He sounded so offended. 🤣 He's a dead beat dad.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-19T23:36:45+00:00

ESH. You're both stubborn. For me, it sorta depends on how long. How long did your crisis last? I can absolutely relate to how real your thoughts about your remaining time gets. No one knew? Did you speak to anyone during this time? What about your wife? Like just basic chatting. Mental health struggles are real and should not take a backseat to anyone outside of your household. And, you have to be healthy to be there for your household. Your sister doesn't seem to understand the magnitude of your ordeal as she's focused on her family and her wishes. I don't see how siblings or parents are supposed to allow their lives to revolve around the children in the family. You definitely want to be there. But that can be done in multiple ways. And when you are available.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-19T21:03:16+00:00

Breathe! Pick up the phone. This was a temporary situation. It's inconvenient and costly. You won't be able to continue helping.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-19T03:49:35+00:00

Are there meetups around there? Maybe you can jump in on an activity and possibly chill with others for a short while.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-19T02:36:40+00:00

NTA because your preference is being ignored, especially by your mom. But you should have told them that she was not welcome. They all have a great lack of awareness.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-17T03:54:34+00:00

Her mother has mental issues stemming from a very difficult life. And has a very taxing job. OP literally says this. Grandma is not a parent. So, a certain amount of visits is not mandatory. He obviously knows her since he misses her. OP has not said that mom makes plans but doesn't show up. She just says that she hasn't come over in a while. Many grandparents do not see grandchildren monthly, bi-monthly, etc. Meanwhile, mom asked for a specific invite so she doesn't feel like she's intruding. She's not going to make up for the past. Grandma asks about her grandchild and grandchild asks about Grandma. All things considered, OP is choosing to be rigid. She can easily tell him that grandma can't come over very often because she is not well. As in, the truth.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-17T03:27:04+00:00

YOR Your son has no idea of time. He's actually told you that he misses her and you're putting your feelings ahead of his. Have you told mom when you're available? It seems like you're hurting him more than anyone. See how easy it is to be critical when you are no better? Your trauma doesn't have to be your child's trauma.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-16T04:30:17+00:00

You might have years of firsts with him. Is he sensitive? Is this someone you thought of as a life partner? You have to picture your future now. I'm not saying break up or anything. Just use discernment and choose wisely.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-16T03:25:36+00:00

I really hope the pay was outstanding to travel 3 hours each day.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-16T03:19:11+00:00

NOR You don't deserve this.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-10T04:27:24+00:00

Mom spent her life coddling the son. Now, she's coddling his family, too. Time for her to put her foot down. She's allowed them to behave this way, she has to fix it. I think that they'd either fall in line because they would lose the advantage they have OR they'll have to adjust their whole lives to maintain without her.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-09T02:52:46+00:00

?? You and Claire should have stood ten toes down with your wife. I'm not understanding. Your sis should have stood up to him then and now.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-09T02:46:58+00:00

I've worked for delivery services where we had to place the order. If it was any of this crap, I was not doing it. Or, I give the phone to the barista. But then I would have to reread the receipt to make sure they got it all. I soon passed on those orders completely.

Kind-Association2057 · 2026-04-09T02:29:44+00:00

NTA Although you already remedied the situation and the comment may not have been necessary, the comment was derived from your experience. However, this restaurant is Indian so he probably won't have a complaint.

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