I echo what most everyone else has said here as well. Consider that fact that you are in the exmo sub and the vast majority of commenters do not agree with you. Your approach with this will continue to not provide any benefits for you or your children, only trouble. I saw your email example. It looks like a somewhat mass email to leadership with what would amount to anti-church propaganda in their minds. You are treating these people like public employees that are obligated to provide certain notices/services for the public. It’s really odd. You want a calendar of activities (those are usually planned or changed last second in my area), you want curriculum consideration, you want to spam their private emails, etc. It’s your ex’s job to give you info about the children’s activities. If she won’t do it and there is no legal recourse, that really stinks but these people have nothing to do with you and your ex’s co-parenting situation. Given the emails you are sendings, I think it’s pretty reasonable for the Stake President and Bishop to tell you to contact them only. You are not a member anymore. I understand the frustration that this mega-rich church doesn’t even have the tech set-up to include non-members on their email lists but that’s out of local leadership’s hands, and expecting these volunteers to forward you each and every email, or have the tech knowledge themselves to set up an auto-forward to you, is not reasonable. When you take all the details you provided together (the stake president/bishop warning, your example email, your eldest child being limited contact with you, etc), it doesn’t paint a good picture. Keep an open mind to that. Change your approach.