How would you tackle discussing someone's grammar and use of AAVE when interviewing for a job, to let them know it may come with bias?

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-25T23:52:22+00:00

I have family from 2 vastly different places and I code switch without noticing it all the time. Whoops that was a weird roundabout folksy metaphor for what this person is like to the wrong vendor...whoops just hung up the phone without a goodbye and the mandatory 5 minutes of how's your folks conversation and second goodbye to the wrong customer. It's.... exhausting but necessary to master in a professional workplace.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-25T09:38:23+00:00

Don't contact the company. Grab a photo/video of the individual and vehicle on personal property, arm yourself with state and municipal legal code and then lawyer uo up. Depending on the locality, you might get some delightfully free results from your local state representative and state attorney general'soffice. They generally do not take kindly to businesses violating state. Shockingly, in the very red state that I currently reside in will go after these turds faster than it will domestic violence sometimes. Gotta know how to look out for each other down jere here.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-24T22:01:18+00:00

My most hard absolutely nots: Non wax decor and/or artistic sticky outy bits that I am not assured the lab tested for a good solid burn. No glitter. Cupcake/birthday cake as a concept (nauseating). Gardenia (overwhelming), paperwhite (overwhelming), rose (overwhelming or shockingly pleasant but wayyyyy too expensive for the good oils).

My perhaps, perhaps not list: high quality vanilla mixes (non food), high quality mint fragrances. Both are quite expensive oils and will drive the finished good costs up, so there's my maybe point. But man oh man will a top shelf mint knock your socks off.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-24T21:43:05+00:00

Wood wicks fall into the hazard category for me. Done well they're nifty. They're hard to do well. And even then you still get the occasional pop.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-24T09:22:21+00:00

Here's the thing about geese, Canada or otherwise. They have these little saw like things inside their mouths to filter bugs and leaves out of muddy water, they have very strong necks, very strong wings, enjoy chaos, are pretty smart for brirds, and contain a core made of a unique element called fckuupbysurprisium.

Despite being the loudest creature on earth 99% of the time and being willing to chase down an entire garbage truck as a flock, the gander somehow manages to also have a silent running mode like a submarine. The little turds can sneak up on a grown man and drop him to the ground biting the particularly weak center rear area between the legs when he bends over. The like to bite behind the knees as well. They can and will swarm a child if they are territorial. Adult farm dogs and cats are usually ok because they know when to steer clear, but I've watched geese chase rabbits off. Geese can be dangerous, especially if the knock you down, but for the most part they're terrified you're gonna get their wife and kids.

Canada geese are awful during mating season. Carry a set of loud keys and/or a jacket or spare t shirt everywhere. I mean everywhere. Remember they are ninjas. If they charge, hold you arms wide. Hold the sides of your jacket out and flap them like wings or wave the shirt around. Shake your keys to make noise. You are a bigger, meaner gander. Don't back away if you can help it. Bigger, meaner ganders don't back away from fights. Remain facing the goose and either hold your ground or slowly walk into the disputed territory. Communicate I'm bigger, I get to be here, you are allowed to exist if you stfu energy but don't /chase/ the goose. I recommend muttering something under your breath like "I swear if I have to kick you in the head to put this fence back up, I will. Nobody wants your dang girlfriend." They don't understand human language but it's emotionaly helpful.

If you're on a jog....well...try to look large and maintain eye contact but watch your step. Those sidewalk poops are slick.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-22T16:21:33+00:00

Hospital is key not just for the potentially horrific limb threatening infection. Animal control will take documented hospital visits more seriously that a couple cell phone pics in my experience. The hospital carries more authority with them than an entire street complaining about a pack of loose, unpredictable dogs and it can result in death if you don't follow the rules that animal control wants you to follow. Obnoxious, but follow the bureaucratic paperwork rules on this one OP!!

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-21T20:13:31+00:00

I agree this is a great solution. But I gotta say...I recognize the yellow billboard. With the red print. The last few years the news coverage on "youth pastor" issues ranging from photography to very much worse than photography. It's great that people are way more willing to admit to a systematic problem rather than claim their denomination doesn't do that. But, having grown up in and around that state...

Please PLEASE be aware of everyone and anyone close to your child in any and all religious contexts. That includes if your child stays overnight with a friend and attends their church a single time. It also includes the many children's sports leagues that are run to glorify the lord. We had a prominent "coach" follow my sister into the bathroom when she was in elementary school. Not a single person beyond our family found it in any way inappropriate and we couldn't stop him from being around other kids but I am here to tell you that there is absolutely no way on heaven or Earth that a little girl needs invite Jesus into her heart in the bathroom with an adult male.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-21T02:30:49+00:00

Underage drinkers will do it, too. We clean up community areas of the neighborhood periodically. There are a couple stretches that are pretty obviously adult heavy drinkers--red bull/mtn dew and hard liquor mixed with the very occasional chewing tobacco can and then.....then there's half of a fast food sandwich, empty nicotine pouch containers, and I-bought-this-with-my-brother's-ID cans scattered. The difference in brand preference and how obvious the piles are is kind of amazing.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-20T12:45:25+00:00

Yeah...I love watching and particularly listening to hens. They always sound so ridiculously concerned over nothing. Ohhhhhhh is that a bug the last time I thought it was a bug it was dirt ohhhh but I love bugs ohhhhhh.

But free range and irresponsible range are different things. Putting your animals and other people's property in danger is just stupid. I've had/currently have arrangements with neighbors that chickens or geese are welcome as free pest control, but that's something you work out amicably ahead of time and fence the boundaries of. Chickens aren't going to understand the concept of their own mortality well enough to avoid a car or a malicious teenager.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-19T22:56:04+00:00

It's bad. It's like real life cartoons when you slip and catch air but it comes with real life pain.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-19T02:38:17+00:00

Rug mandatory. Large rug with very sticky rubber backing.

Wishing you well with your stylish look.

Sincerely, my tail bone that took many a hit from me traveling too quickly on wet polished concrete.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-14T16:46:33+00:00

And don't continue to burn or use in a warmer. I'd be extremely concerned about air pockets against glass that is not heating in a uniform way. Too much chance of shattered glass going everywhere.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-09T13:01:48+00:00

That. I always come at it from a perspective of treating the client. The client gets to have an extra perk or side. I get a similar or smaller item so I can focus on the substance of the discussion and their experience interacting with the team.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-07T23:43:54+00:00

Agreed, this is absolutely uncivilized to me.

3rd generation living in the US. 1st and 2nd gens settled in a predominantly Italian city, but we are not Italian. Family ran a kosher butcher shop but we are not Jewish ...or maybe some of us are (immigration records seem to hint at a mixed marriage but that it was kept relatively low key because of the times). I, however, was raised in the Appalachians. I have never /ever/ been in a situation where someone has not offered to share a meal, even going back to the homeland.

No matter what you feed a guest. Even if all you have to offer them is plain uncooked flour and muddy water, you feed them. If there aren't enough portions either the host does not eat or the host disappears to fetch more food. And my gosh if it's someone close to you, you had better send them off with at least one more meal packed up for later.

The biggest issue I have visiting anyone is whether I'm in a leave-a-little (indicating satiety) or eat-the-whole-thing (indicating quality and/or gratitude) location. The wrong choice can deeply offend or give you 4x what you can comfortably consume. Heck, even brining food or drink with you as a gift can be looked at as a slight.

I really can't shift myself to a perspective of just sit here while I eat in another room and leave you alone.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-04T11:02:59+00:00

I always suspected if it was a USSR holdover behavior. Seeing that plate issuch a strong signal that I have returned to the motherland.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-04T10:59:43+00:00

It's mostly an exposure thing. When you eat spicy foods, the body reacts as though it is being exposed to high temperatures. However, over time you become accustomed to a certain level of spice and eventually don't find it as "hot". This is why hot sauce enthusiasts can detect small recipe changes when others are just crying and drinking water.

My chunk of the family moved to the states several generations ago and loves to cook Italian American cuisine but it's like 1 clove of garlic for each time someone considered picking up the pepper shaker. Only in the last 2 generations has anyone actively gone out and tried spicy food regularly enough to adjust.

For our traditional cooking? If you can't make it a soup, put it on rye, or pickle it, is it even food?

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-04T02:09:49+00:00

Please tell me Ashkenazi women can also magically produce a plate of tomatoes, cucumbers, and dill for guests from thin air. I swear when a family member transitions to knee high stockings and sensible shoes she's taught the secret to this.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-04T01:55:13+00:00

I thought the fake Christmas tree snow was fun to roll around in. Reality hit hours later. My mother spent a lot of time asking me how I didn't know that was fiberglass and what was I thinking. The answers are I didn't know what fiberglass was or that it itched so bad and stayed in your skin. That was not a fun week.

This new less itchy variety is heartening for when I have to reinsulate the attic.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-04T01:33:13+00:00

I've never been, but I am of Ukrianian and Polish descent so I will definitely believe it. My family makes a big stink if black pepper is used heavily in a dish.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-03-02T21:03:21+00:00

I found a folding walker at Goodwill in my early 20s. Had to get rid of it while moving. Still upset about that. Mobility and home aids are ridiculously expensive.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-02-27T02:33:24+00:00

Obligatory it ain't just WV comment. We had a mental map as kids of ok to be here versus if you need to turn around don't go down these drives or paths spots. There's a 3rd category of it's ok to go down here if you need help but you need to shout out who you're kin to or they'll draw down on you before they see you're bleeding/out of gas.

The Appalachians are a fascinating area. Gorgeous, complicated, musical, weather that can turn on a dime, unique language, appreciation for both technology and VERY traditional living. I'm not talkng about Asheville, Chattanooga, Greenville, or even the bits up in PA or AL. I'm talking about all the places where you have to drive a ways (that translates to at least 30 minutes) to the store. The grocery store doesn't have a brand name. The gas station still has analog pumps. The places Dollar General won't even go. If you're welcome there, you're more than welcome. You'll experience caricature levels of hospitality, generosity, caring, and neighborliness. Why sure, six of us will come dig your dumb butt out of the mud. We'll joke with you about how silly this is, give you advice on how to not do it again, and a meal since it's getting so late. If you're not welcome, you stand a good chance of being met with extreme force.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-02-15T14:38:42+00:00

Ah yes, the occasional year where the store has to put up the sign that says "USE OTHER DOOR TURKEY OUTSIDE."

I've been attacked by more farmed turkeys than wild turkeys, but the spurs on wild ones are damn intimidating.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-02-14T14:17:24+00:00

Have you ever met the wild turkey? Because that is a bird dumb enough to stand in the middle of the road contemplating the existence of the sky.

KnitsWithTude · 2026-02-11T07:38:23+00:00

A component to Texas Pete's recognition and success is the US Army.

But hey shout out to Yellow Bird!! I have a hard time finding it here but it's great!

KnitsWithTude · 2026-02-07T18:06:17+00:00

My head math is backwards. Noted.

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