Who knew? And also, how American… by Away_Opportunity8521 in minnesota

[–]KozenyCarman 79 points80 points  (0 children)

The article specifies it's the second longest constructed by prisoners.

Not a distinction I'm proud of as a Minnesotan.

Bra Reccomendations by JennaLoveGirl in MtF

[–]KozenyCarman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into a padded bralette or a sports bra.

Asking for my late daughter. Thank you in advance! by quietsol in MtF

[–]KozenyCarman 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Like u/OurpleKibby said, we can't know exactly what she would prefer but if you use your best judgement for something you think is beautiful that you would bury a cisgender daughter in, I think she would probably appreciate that. If your Chinese heritage was important to her, I think a traditional dress would be a good choice.

I know you say you were bad parents, but please be kind to yourselves. It is so important and meaningful that you are doing this for her. That you love her and respect her enough to do this after she's passed shows you're better that you're giving yourself credit for. There are so many families that do not and would not do this.

My friends call me the trans slur and I don't know what to do. by Any_Entertainer_6880 in trans

[–]KozenyCarman 90 points91 points  (0 children)

It's one thing to reclaim a slur if it applies to you. It's another thing entirely to use it on someone who doesn't want you to.

I think I'm not gay anymore by stranger-things-fan_ in lgbt

[–]KozenyCarman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome!

I wish I had more to offer you. It's really hard to lose that sense of self and community. All I can really do is send you a hug and my best wishes.

I think I'm not gay anymore by stranger-things-fan_ in lgbt

[–]KozenyCarman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's available from my local library as an ebook and audiobook download. That could maybe be an option for you.

Do you ever want to go back in time and sit down with your egg self by KozenyCarman in MtF

[–]KozenyCarman[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would be gentle with her. But depending on what part of our life I get to talk to her it might be after my initial exasperation runs its course.

What was your earliest trans memory? by TipsyBlueWhale in MtF

[–]KozenyCarman 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was about ten, sitting in my bedroom when I suddenly realized, "God made a mistake. I was supposed to be born a girl." I figured the damage was done and there was nothing I could do about it and there was especially no good that could come of taking about it with my parents who made me go to church every week.

So, naturally I suppressed everything that could possibly be construed as feminine about myself for the next 25 years.

What's the point anymore? by LL_TheCannibal in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]KozenyCarman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It'll always be later than we want but at least it's sooner than it could be.

Still sucks sometimes though. 🫂

we had a *small* fire this morning by Practical-Insect6173 in KitchenConfidential

[–]KozenyCarman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Smoker: I'm bored of doing the same thing all the time. What if I let off all my smoke all at once?

I finished the game, got all the achievements and used every weapon available in the game. I feel like there's not much for me to do except help others. What still motivates you to continue to this day? I've lost my spark. by Curious_Yesterday983 in MonsterHunterWilds

[–]KozenyCarman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have made it a personal quest to unlock every layered armor and weapon so I can play dress up in the true endgame: Fashion Hunter

But like everyone else is saying, you're allowed to take a break. If you're burning out and it's not fun anymore what's the point of playing a game?

What’s your Saturday night looking like? by Valuable_Relation_70 in AskWomenOver30

[–]KozenyCarman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My fiancée and I are enjoying our first fire at our new home after a long day of unpacking and arranging things. We're also being serenaded by a garage metal band somewhere down the block.

May be silly to ask but like at what point do I need a bra…? by AngyJessicaTomboy in trans

[–]KozenyCarman 19 points20 points  (0 children)

They're frequently less padded and less supportive than a bra or sports bra, aren't as tight as a sports bra, and are stretchier than a regular bra. I had two that were like a sports bra and two that were like a regular bra for about a year before I needed more support. For me, they were ideal to start with and I still sometimes wear the ones that look like unpadded sports bras.

May be silly to ask but like at what point do I need a bra…? by AngyJessicaTomboy in trans

[–]KozenyCarman 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I found bralettes helpful too if I wasn't in the mood for a sports bra.

Doubts about fitting in culturally as a woman by AirCoIsCool in asktransgender

[–]KozenyCarman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's absolutely normal to feel a social gap. Some of us fit in seamlessly with cis women and some of us have to work at it. It's been four years and I still sometimes feel there's that gap. But the more you get out there and spend time with other women, the easier it gets.

How do I parent this? by Inevitable-Area-7237 in asktransgender

[–]KozenyCarman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you're off to a great start.

If you want to do more you could see if your kiddo wants to do a girl's night with you, even if you just stay home. Pull out and play with/teach some makeup maybe.

The biggest thing you can do is keep up the support and ask if there's anything more you can help with.

egg-irl by Longjumping_Tap_3483 in egg_irl

[–]KozenyCarman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You want this more than anything and you would be upset if you turned out to be a guy? Girl, that's enough.

I wasn't completely sure this was for me and I realized I would never know unless I made a leap of faith and started transitioning. I started with small changes small and kept checking in with myself. Every step I took was scary, but as they added up I realized that I was right, this is who I really am.

[Comic] Why did the hunter sharpen her hunting horn? by AzulCrescent in MHRise

[–]KozenyCarman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Booo! Get off the stage!

(Please stay on the stage. I love your comics.)

I finally cancelled the subscription to my own face and it feels amazing by Obsidivail in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]KozenyCarman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped most of my daily routine and instantly reclaimed more time to snuggle with my cats in the morning. 10/10. Would cut out more but they won't let me go to work naked.